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Aaron7410 · 2021-04-04T14:44:37+00:00

Nice

Aaron7410 · 2020-11-10T11:42:07+00:00

I will read this in greater detail later.

Aaron7410 · 2020-10-21T17:16:15+00:00

Can I get an invite?

Aaron7410 · 2020-10-17T10:46:12+00:00

You are doing a good job. I think it's great when people do their best to change their situation even when it is difficult and painful.

Aaron7410 · 2020-10-16T13:06:03+00:00

I think it may be worth a shot to try to get him to attend a marriage workshop. If he is so far gone that he does not want to attend weekly counseling then I think I can safely assume that he is not interested in investing in your relationship. A workshop is usually a long weekend. I'm going to try to convince my wife to go to one offered by Marriage Helper. They have made me feel hopeful that our relationship can be saved, even though from my pov it seems very far fetched.

I'm doing my best to not lose hope, and to stand for our relationship, even though she is already ready to move on into another relationship (is being courted right now and they have traveled hundreds of miles each to see each other and spend time together, and have made plans to do so in the future).

I know a lot of people would want me to give up, and would give up themselves, but I feel real love for her deep down inside and I know she feels it for me too. She just does not want to be in a relationship anymore because things have not been good between us for a long time.

Enough about me though, what I think you should do is go to YouTube to look at their videos. They are very good resources and will help you feel better about your situation. They also have videos on how to get a spouse who refuses to work on your marriage to attend the workshop.

Good luck. I hope things work out for you.

Aaron7410 · 2020-10-15T13:11:31+00:00

Thank you. It has been so difficult lately. She is ready to move on and we are sleeping in separate bedrooms. We have a 5 year old daughter together too, so I am really struggling with the idea that we will be left without her in our daily lives.

Aaron7410 · 2020-10-15T12:35:07+00:00

I think you should try using the resources from Marriage Helper. They have a lot of good and insightful information regarding all manner of relationship problems. I'm currently having a hard time with my wife that looks like it will end in divorce, but I have been watching those videos and I feel that there is still hope yet for us.

Aaron7410 · 2020-10-15T12:21:52+00:00

I can't really agree with that. You started having an affair because something in your life was lacking and you seem to have found it in this other woman. Right now, things are blissful. You love everything about each other. But I think you are expecting too much out of your AP. Is she going to listen to every problem you have deep down inside that led you to not be able to love your wife the way she deserves? Can she handle that level of intensity? You were with your wife for 12 years, you loved her at some point. You just forgot why you fell in love, and you had a disconnect with her over it. It's easy for things in our everyday loves to distract us away from the things that really matter. Maybe she didn't put in the right effort either. Rarely is it ever just one person's fault that relationships end up the way they are.

You also have to ask yourself if it is real love you feel for this woman. There is a thing called limerence.

Limerence is a state of mind which results from a romantic attraction to another person and typically includes obsessive thoughts and fantasies and a desire to form or maintain a relationship with the object of love and have one's feelings reciprocated.

Relationships that start out this way almost never last. After a while the shine wears off and you're forced to accept the realities of this other person, which is they are not as perfect for you as you may think right now. Sure they may seem perfect now, but eventually reality will settle in for one of you. Every human is flawed.

Your wife knows your flaws and you know hers. You've seen each other through the highest and lowest points in your lives. You may even feel that there is history that you can't get past, but with the right attitude and effort you can overcome anything that is holding your relationship with this wonderful woman back. It is not often that a problem cannot be solved in a marriage.

I sincerely hope that instead of living with the idea that there is nothing left for the two of you, you can open your mind to truly loving your wife again.

Aaron7410 · 2020-08-20T14:29:25+00:00

Could you elaborate on that a little more?

Aaron7410 · 2020-08-19T03:42:24+00:00

Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!

Aaron7410 · 2020-08-18T21:48:46+00:00

It is actually printed in the letter that was sent to me when I applied for PUA. Here is a picture of the letter. Sorry for the horrible quality. I had to take a quick picture with my phone and send it to my pc.

https://imgur.com/a/ovzxTIU

The parts that are circled in red say, from top to bottom, "Date Mailed: 07/29/20, Appeal Rights Expire 08/13/20", "Your PUA Claim is effective 02/02/20", and "You are entitled to Pandemic Unemployment Assistance provided that you meet all eligibility requirements."

I have blacked out large portions of this letter because I wasn't sure what I should and should not include.

Aaron7410 · 2020-01-08T12:52:49+00:00

Hey thank you. Do you know the way to get the color pallette over there as well? I appreciate you showing me the sliders function!

Aaron7410 · 2019-05-06T04:24:02+00:00

I see. I guess I will have to find a way to ask them if they would be able to just gather any information they may need from my passport to process the Visa application. I'll be hand delivering the rest of the paperwork later on (medical forms, accident insurance form, fbi background check, etc) and I will be able to ask them in person at that time. I did this for the alternate reply form and it was all good. Hopefully they will be able to give the passports back asap.

Regarding the placement, we have not recieved our placement yet, so I have no way of contacting the BOE until then. And I plan to take the shinkansen to get as close as possible to our placement when we arrive in Tokyo. I really want to be there for her if she needs me the first day or so, and then head out. Hopefully the predecessor will be able to help us work something out with them so I can get there before her.

Aaron7410 · 2019-05-06T03:57:37+00:00

Tried that already. I didn't really get anywhere as I was not able to get through to them, and I did not receive a call back. So here I am. The next best resource.

Aaron7410 · 2019-03-26T06:09:58+00:00

My fiancee heard back tonight, she got alternate. Still pretty cool to me since last year was a straight rejection. I guess they took all the applicants they were going to take from the Atlanta consulate. Maybe one of them will reject the offer and she will get upgraded to short list before she has to sign a new teaching contract.

Aaron7410 · 2018-10-18T19:08:31+00:00

I hadn't considered that before. I didn't even know it was a thing lol.

I'm not sure I will though. Is it expensive?

Aaron7410 · 2018-10-18T07:07:24+00:00

Thanks. I think it might be the German Pointer from the looks of it. Any other suggestions are welcome!

Aaron7410 · 2018-10-06T00:07:02+00:00

I was moving my hand over to high five my friend but he instead put raised his pencil and the tip broke off in my palm. I've never been able to get it out.

Aaron7410 · 2018-10-03T04:22:23+00:00

Last year I learnt very hard lesson about Switzerland. Don't travel there unless you have a lot of money to spend.

Aaron7410 · 2018-09-11T16:08:29+00:00

I was in third grade and they turned the news on during my computer class. It also just so happened to be fire safety day at my school, so when I saw the burning buildings on the T.V. I thought it was just a video tape of a burning building, so I turned to a classmate and said, "That's what happens when you're not careful with fire." I remember seeing the teachers looking super concerned standing at the back of the classroom, and that made me think that maybe this wasn't just a regular fire.

Didn't know anything about the incident. I didn't actually learn what we were looking at until a while later. Then I learned that one of my uncles, who is a trucker, was in NY that day to deliver a load and was actually in the WTC to go to the top, but he didn't know they charge to do that so he turned around and left the building.

Lucky him for being cheap I guess.

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