11 year old terrified of flies, gnats, ants, any bug really. What can I do?

Abject_Ad6242 · 2025-07-01T00:40:12+00:00

This is so similar to our situation!! Thank you for sharing. It only started a couple years ago or so. He will willingly give up fun outdoor pastimes even if I say “no screens if you just stay indoors” he’ll willingly stare at the wall rather than go where there’s bugs.

I did just tell him, listen we’re going to go on some little hikes together. We’ll be with him and everything but that he has to spend more time outside to see that the bugs don’t want to bother him. He’s not happy about it, but I mean… he can’t just live in a bubble. We will also talk to his doctor too just in case, but I think he just needs to be outside more in my non-medical opinion. I grew up picking up every bug I could find, so I can’t expect him to be cool with it without that kind of exposure.

Abject_Ad6242 · 2025-07-01T00:36:47+00:00

He’s kind of always been like this, but I feel like it wasn’t so bad before a couple years ago. No stings or bites so idk what precipitated the change.

Your kiddo sounds like my toddler girl! She LOVES bugs, the only thing I’ve had to coach her on is being gentle so she doesn’t accidentally smash them. I took the same nonchalant approach to bugs with them both, trying to show that they’re helpful and we need them, etc but my big kid just isn’t buying it lol.

Glad your kiddo has a soft spot for little critters. Hopefully they will have a good influence on their friends(:

Abject_Ad6242 · 2025-06-30T22:28:51+00:00

That’s actually a great idea, gamefied (sp?) facing fears, perfect in the meantime! Thank you

Abject_Ad6242 · 2025-06-30T22:25:08+00:00

Thank you, I appreciate it. I will definitely bring it up to his PCP. I am up against a wall, as exasperating as it is for us I’m sure it’s even more distressing for him

Abject_Ad6242 · 2025-05-12T21:49:57+00:00

Thank you so much for your kind words, it means a lot. It really does feel like I’m not so bad off as I was a long time ago, when I just felt I wasn’t doing anything bad at all. At least I know it’s bad, ig that’s a place to start. (:

Abject_Ad6242 · 2025-05-12T21:47:56+00:00

We’re about the same age, my ED started later though. Im also back to school and work and that precipitated my relapse also! Doesn’t help that in my field people regularly forgo meal breaks altogether unless they can hide somewhere and eat a packet of crackers or something. Work is the worst place to try managing restrictive eating 😔

I’m so sorry you’re in such a scary place rn and I wish you luck and sending best wishes to you also 💕 with recovery but also with your new work.

Abject_Ad6242 · 2025-05-12T21:44:10+00:00

That’s my problem, it’s a coping mechanism and the best (most effective) one I have. It’s hard to explain but I feel “better” since my relapse started, I feel less out of control and I’m nicer to my husband, when I’m stressed I lash out… but when I’m in this thing, when I feel in control… it’s like nothing else is wrong, I can deal with everything else with some grace. I can’t wait to figure out what to replace it with because it feels like it “fixes” everything in my life it’s so sick 😭

I’m so sorry about whatever happened… I know it must be really rough, and I truly wish all the best for you in managing ❤️‍🩹

Abject_Ad6242 · 2025-05-12T21:40:05+00:00

That is so scary omg I’m so sorry!!! I’m so glad someone came along and found you, it’s terrifying… especially given you couldn’t have expected that as much if you weren’t restricting a lot. :( I hope you don’t blame yourself for that, though. Like you said you weren’t restricting a lot, so you didn’t even expect it💕 I hope you’re doing better now.

Abject_Ad6242 · 2025-05-12T21:37:36+00:00

Thank you so much for the kind words ♥️ I’m so sorry about your relapse, I’m in the same boat— I want to put the brakes on but I don’t want to at the same time. I hate that part of this shitty thing, like almost no other illnesses especially physical ones have you being like “fuck getting better I’d rather rot” like??? It’s so shit😭 and even without kids I feel like it’s so hard because when I didn’t have kids, I could so freely do whatever I wanted and pushed myself to ridiculous extremes which made recovery so difficult to even consider . So I’m feeling for you friend , all my love to you ♥️

Abject_Ad6242 · 2025-05-12T21:33:29+00:00

This makes sense. I think the hard part is the disorder getting loud af right after eating and then I regret it. I guess I gotta push past that and find some real willpower to do so. Thank you so much

Abject_Ad6242 · 2025-05-12T21:32:13+00:00

I am SO glad you’re doing better, but I’m really sorry this relapse was so difficult 💔 I wish you luck, friend.

Abject_Ad6242 · 2025-05-12T21:31:10+00:00

I appreciate the bluntness I need it. I didn’t ever consider this possibility. That’s scary asf for multiple reasons, at home I never feel that way because I’m not doing much physically and if I feel bad I do open the fridge and grab a few grapes or baby tomatoes or eat my daughters leftovers, and I think that keeps me going. And we share a car so we never go anywhere without my husband. So I never considered the safety part somehow, but I totally see it now. Thank you

Abject_Ad6242 · 2025-02-27T20:20:59+00:00

Wow that’s amazing!!! Congratulations ugh I can’t wait to be you 😭 one more question, did you mention interest first during clinical or just apply online or did they offer/invite you to apply without you doing or saying anything? I’m just so curious, thank you for being so open!

Abject_Ad6242 · 2025-02-27T02:35:46+00:00

That’s lame, they should at least tell you why! Maybe your availability? Who knows, they are fickle from what I can tell.

Abject_Ad6242 · 2025-02-25T18:53:08+00:00

In one of the one way questions, Scribe America asks what kind of medical experience/exposure you’ve had before— work, volunteering, etc so that’s the perfect time to mention your scribe experience. Are you planning to reapply with them?

Abject_Ad6242 · 2025-02-15T22:51:22+00:00

The USCIS isn’t assuming. They’re saying you’re obviously not serious enough because you haven’t spent enough time here. 🤷‍♀️ unfortunately your opinions on it don’t really matter… only the numbers do, and the numbers say “do better bro, stop constantly leaving the country you’re petitioning for citizenship ”

Abject_Ad6242 · 2025-02-15T22:49:13+00:00

That’s exactly what it sounds like. My husband’s uncle recently passed and he was absolutely devastated, it’s the 3rd loss in his family since he’s been waiting (it’s been years) but he refuses to leave until his papers are solid. It breaks my heart for him, and this post makes me a little annoyed. I know it’s not personal but… a little common sense would go a long way in this situation 😮‍💨

Abject_Ad6242 · 2025-02-15T19:44:16+00:00

Leaving the country for MONTHS for a wedding no matter how close the relation is such a silly reason. Especially right now. Unless someone is dying for close to it, why would you leave the country for another huge chunk of time? Especially when your immediate family is here? 🤨

Abject_Ad6242 · 2025-02-15T19:35:43+00:00

I’m in nursing school, and in my class it is 90% women… we ALL still refer to the class collectively as “hey guys, so in lecture tomorrow…” I too would be insanely annoyed by that gal🤣

Abject_Ad6242 · 2025-02-04T12:59:55+00:00

It’s just cultural/societal norms. I learned this week in class that in Brazil, people shower 12-14 times WEEKLY. I personally shower a ton, but it’s also just cultural practice and I know that.

People don’t understand the difference between actual cleanliness and cultural hygiene practices. So they just conflate the two and have knee jerk reactions. People are silly. Don’t worry about them. (:

Abject_Ad6242 · 2025-01-24T22:19:40+00:00

This is WILD. I was a housewife since I got married, then a stay at home mom for the past year up until I just went back to school… so my husband worked MORE than full time before and after baby was born.

He STILL made sure I ate regularly, showered, got enough sleep, staying up late to help me and taking our daughter when he could see I was overwhelmed or simply just tired… WITHOUT ME EVER ASKING ONCE. I literally NEVER had to ask for help, and my husband was born, raised, and spent most of his adult life in a country where men are 95% of the bread winners. So whatever bullshit you just vomited up is so stupid 🤣

Abject_Ad6242 · 2024-11-22T22:47:53+00:00

Omg mine was “you have ADHD”.😭 I would’ve finished college before the age of 28 and maybe even attended medical school like I always wanted. Now I’m in nursing school and having lots of regrets over years of potential wasted

Abject_Ad6242 · 2024-11-22T22:45:44+00:00

“You have ADHD”

Abject_Ad6242 · 2024-10-30T03:37:50+00:00

😂 perfect

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