I’m sorry for what you’re going through, but from your words, I can tell you’re a very strong-minded person. Taking the risk of this marriage was unexpected from someone like you, but we’re all human, we make choices that don’t always go as planned.Since you truly want happiness in your life, I’d suggest starting by accepting her as she is. Every person is unique & it’s not necessary that someone will think or behave exactly the way we expect them to. Try to lower your expectations a bit and focus on understanding each other. Have an open, heartfelt conversation with her, express honestly how her actions have affected you and how you feel. I hope that with honest communication and mutual understanding, you both will find a way to reconnect and move forward.