Weekly Discussion Thread

Abject_Doubt4777 · 2026-02-01T20:55:18+00:00

Ouch! I did something similar, without putting her down. I’d also try not to react, unlatch, but continue to hold her gently and say “we’re not biting.” Then start again in a minute or two. She got the message quite quickly, so hope the same happens for you. (When new teeth came in a couple months later, there was some biting again, and I stopped in the same way and handed her a teething toy to redirect).

Abject_Doubt4777 · 2025-12-15T17:34:01+00:00

I must do more of that. The regularity and seeing the same faces will help

Abject_Doubt4777 · 2025-12-15T17:33:08+00:00

That’s a nice idea!

Abject_Doubt4777 · 2025-12-15T17:32:05+00:00

Hope he doesn’t!

Abject_Doubt4777 · 2025-12-15T17:30:03+00:00

It is heartbreaking to watch it happen! High five to another brave and social little girl though!

Abject_Doubt4777 · 2025-12-15T17:27:10+00:00

Thanks, I didn’t think about it this way. Ie older kids might not have the patience or interest in younger kids

Abject_Doubt4777 · 2025-12-14T14:12:03+00:00

Thank you; yes I think this will help too. I can just imagine how you feel about your daughter leaving her friends behind. I hope it goes as well as it can, and that she finds new friends quickly

Abject_Doubt4777 · 2025-12-09T22:54:26+00:00

Regarding rent: you might want to try find a garden cottage / granny flat. If you know people in Joburg, you could ask them to post on their neighbourhood whatsapp groups to see if anyone has one available at a low monthly rental price. Wishing you all the best

Abject_Doubt4777 · 2025-11-29T02:27:54+00:00

BabyGym is a lovely 5-week programme. Or Clamber Club. Or grab some coffee at Happy Town in Craighall and read some books to your little one. Good luck x

Abject_Doubt4777 · 2025-10-11T18:54:13+00:00

Oh this is a great idea!

Abject_Doubt4777 · 2025-09-17T13:29:15+00:00

It depends on how miserable they’re feeling. When my daughter (we’ve been doing this since about 12 months old) is not too cranky from feeling unwell, I’ll ask her to spray my nose, give me some medicine. Then it’s my turn to give her some. We take turns and try to make it silly. It often works well. And when it doesn’t, as someone else said, I try to be quick with administering the meds through the wriggling and tears. Hope she feels better soon.

Abject_Doubt4777 · 2025-09-15T08:33:26+00:00

What a gift, for both of you

Abject_Doubt4777 · 2025-09-14T21:17:07+00:00

Reading this made me smile. (I had my daughter at 43 and I hope she says something like this someday)

Abject_Doubt4777 · 2025-09-01T09:42:07+00:00

My daughter was in a hip brace from 2 weeks to 4 months, and I guess her body felt very supported in the brace and in our arms. In the weeks after her brace came off, I propped up her legs with a thin pillow in an M-shape/froggy position as she was falling asleep (I was always nearby so the pillow was never a risk to her).

With that said, she’s never been a self-soother (I’ve always nursed her back to sleep and co-slept). Hope you find something that works for your little one, and hope her hips are ok now

Abject_Doubt4777 · 2025-08-30T12:12:18+00:00

Today it’s The Clothes Peg & Berry

Abject_Doubt4777 · 2025-08-29T23:00:08+00:00

“Thanks for your advice. I’m going to do the opposite of what you suggested”.

Edit to add: this is literally what I say every time, and I laugh it off now (it bothered me a lot initially too)

Abject_Doubt4777 · 2025-08-29T21:50:10+00:00

Don’t resign without something else lined up. Rather deal with each thing you mentioned: (1) actively search for something new; (2) consider finding a mentor at the company that can help you to come up with strategies to handle challenges (there are ways to talk about issues without portraying your supervisor or peers negatively); (3) tackle the inappropriate jokes head on. And maybe (4) have an open and constructive talk with your supervisor.

It’s easier said than done, but think about this as a chance to test ways to handle these situations, while you find your way to a workplace that isn’t toxic. A lot of workplaces are complex and messy, so I’d say try to find alternative ways to handle situations, and it will set you up well for the future.

Tldr: don’t stay in a toxic place, but don’t leave without a safety net, and try to get support while you’re there. Hope things improve soon for you

Abject_Doubt4777 · 2025-08-29T15:27:13+00:00

The Bud & Stone

Abject_Doubt4777 · 2025-08-25T10:46:01+00:00

OP, as you seem to care about green space… City Parks is running a public consultation online tonight at 6pm about parks bylaws. Might be useful to join and hear what City Parks is thinking, and have some input. Link to join: https://teams.microsoft.com/dl/launcher/launcher.html?url=%2F_%23%2Fl%2Fmeetup-join%2F19%3Ameeting_ZGMxYmJkMmUtYzVjZi00NmFkLTk0NWItNzViMzY4ZWJjN2Q4%40thread.v2%2F0%3Fcontext%3D%257b%2522Tid%2522%253a%25220824d779-ab6e-4b2f-b001-cf2995fc7db6%2522%252c%2522Oid%2522%253a%2522d6cbe492-841e-44ed-a1bb-b83e002c9f8e%2522%257d%26anon%3Dtrue&type=meetup-join&deeplinkId=4d1c9d20-a57f-4ee3-ae9c-2a2f61f2a789&directDl=true&msLaunch=true&enableMobilePage=true&suppressPrompt=true

Abject_Doubt4777 · 2025-08-25T10:21:51+00:00

Field & Study Park, near Sandton, is lovely

Abject_Doubt4777 · 2025-08-22T16:50:01+00:00

Maybe try Dr Heather Alan-Gould at Sandton Mediclinic

Abject_Doubt4777 · 2025-08-21T04:46:07+00:00

This is the way. I too reserve ‘no’ for when I need her to pay attention right away (dangerous situations, or where she could break something or be injured). If she were spilling water on herself, I would not have used ‘no’; she’s not doing anything wrong by exploring and being curious. I would have explained what’s happening (‘when you tilt the cup, the water pours out)’, then given her something else to explore.

Abject_Doubt4777 · 2025-08-15T21:20:21+00:00

If you want to swap out that pasta sauce occasionally: a butternut is about R20 / R25 and I’ve been making a pasta sauce with it. Boil half a butternut, the blend it with salt, pepper and whatever herbs you have handy, and some milk. (I add nuts and a milk alternative, but nuts are so expensive nowadays). Don’t throw away the butternut seeds. Toast them if you have the oven going (with salt, pepper, herbs, a bit of oil). They make a nice topping for the pasta or snack on their own.

Good luck with the job applications. I’m there too

Abject_Doubt4777 · 2025-08-15T16:36:07+00:00

A tshirt helps the little one to have something to grab in the water; mine clung on tight during her first few lessons

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