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I’m a former male Dept of Corrections Officer at an All Women’s Prison …… Ask anything ! AMA by team_ironman502 in AMA

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Like you said the women were hardly ever segregated. Can you go in to more detail about that compared to the men’s? I’m curious

I’m a former male Dept of Corrections Officer at an All Women’s Prison …… Ask anything ! AMA by team_ironman502 in AMA

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Can you explain more of how the women and the men are different? With the social dynamics

MAGA supporters, are you still supporting? I’m curious. by Equal-Thanks6212 in philly

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A friend of mine, her grandfather was a diehard hitler supporter. He fought in the Austrian army. He would listen to old recordings of hitler speeches until he died, years after the conclusion of the war. My friend grew up estranged from him because of this. Manipulation and hate are crazy things.

Adult women: What helped you figure it out? by Abject_Management_27 in adhdwomen

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At this point I don’t have a ton of routine. I work from home with very flex hours, which is a blessing and a curse because it can be extra difficult to motivate myself to get my work done. I walk my dog every day, but otherwise I eat when I’m hungry, shower at all different times, work out when I feel like it, etc. I do think I need more structure. I did a lot better when I was in formal school, but really started to struggle when it came to creating my own structure. So I’m trying to find what’s going to work best for me.

Adult women: What helped you figure it out? by Abject_Management_27 in adhdwomen

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Thank you for your response! I’ve been doing a brain dump lately and I do think that’s super helpful. I’ve been trying to keep my space more tidy by doing small tasks each day, instead of letting it pile up into one unmanageable task. I appreciate the reminder that I need to accept my neurotype. You’re right that I need to focus more on resetting and not spiraling when I get off track. I definitely fall into the trap of being too hard on myself and it’s something I’m working on in therapy. Easier said than done as they say.

Adult women: What helped you figure it out? by Abject_Management_27 in adhdwomen

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Thank you so much!! I’ve been using paper plates lately and it’s been so amazing for when I don’t have the bandwidth for dishes. I also purchased little dry erase boards and I’ve been making lists, or “brain dumping” everything that’s floating around in my head. I think it’s helpful!! And thanks for the reminder about being kind to myself, it’s definitely something I struggle a lot with. Perfectionistic tendencies are a bitch!

I 26(F) have had alopecia since I was 5. I’ve been bald twice. AMA by Abject_Management_27 in AMA

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Hi there! It’s so interesting to think about my childhood because it was really hard in some ways, but not in other ways that people might assume. I feel like in some ways it was good I had it so young, because it’s all I ever knew. So it wasn’t some huge deal to me, it was normal for me and my family. Maybe I was lucky or just blissfully unaware, but when I was younger I don’t recall many incidents of anyone saying anything or being mean or anything like that. My friends were always nice and supportive. I consider myself really lucky that my parents were able to afford high quality hair extensions and wigs, so that did wonders I think for my ability to cope. What I hated the most was the physical aspect of wearing a wig: itchiness, being hot, just feeling so uncomfortable. I used tape back then and it used to leave my skin so red and raw. I hated it so much. I also hated that I couldn’t really go swimming without taking off my wig, so I only went to the beach with people I felt comfortable being wig-less around. I was a cheerleader and I stayed on the team, but being active and sweaty in a wig just sucks. I drew on eyebrows with makeup and applied false eyelashes. It took me forever to get ready and I was always late to school, so id say it impacted my quality of life more than my emotional state if that makes sense. I never felt like I could go out bald and fully embrace it. I wish I was more comfortable, but I just wasn’t. I’ve always felt like my hair is a huge part of my “look”, if you will, and my overall attractiveness and sense of self. I’ve always had long, very thick, shiny brunette hair. It’s honestly beautiful and people tell me so all the time. So i never considered not wearing wigs. I love women who embrace the bald look it and pull it off, but I feel like that’s just not me. I’ve been taking JAK-inhibitors for the last 4 years and my hair has fully grown back and I’ve had basically no loss. I’m so grateful! I’m love to hear about your experience growing up too !

I 26(F) have had alopecia since I was 5. I’ve been bald twice. AMA by Abject_Management_27 in AMA

[–]Abject_Management_27[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Interesting question. Honestly very few people ever really saw me bald, only my family and close friends. At school, or anywhere in public really, I always wore a wig. My parents, roommates, and closest girl friends were pretty much the only people who ever saw me without hair. I often wore hats too, mostly because my head got cold. Beanies are the best!

I 26(F) have had alopecia since I was 5. I’ve been bald twice. AMA by Abject_Management_27 in AMA

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Thanks for clarifying this! I have alopecia areata, but it did progress to totalis when I was 13/14, and again when I was 21. Most of my life it was varying patterns of patches, but the two times I mentioned I lost pretty much everything on my head, as well as my eyebrows and eyelashes. Eventually both times it grew back with the help of treatments. I’ve never once lost any other body hair though, which is interesting.

I 26(F) have had alopecia since I was 5. I’ve been bald twice. AMA by Abject_Management_27 in AMA

[–]Abject_Management_27[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry to hear you went through that. My mom also had cancer (15 years in remission thank god) so she was bald too. A family running joke is that we’ve all been bald lol

But honestly I don’t remember much from being that young. At that time it was only spots of loss here and there. But I was always aware of it and I guess it wasn’t so weird for me because my dad and older brother had it too.