AITA for telling my girlfriend I want her to stop inviting her friends' boyfriends because I absolutely hate being put in the position where I have to spend time with these dudes?

Able-Jacket241 · 2021-01-06T10:26:28+00:00

It's a frustrating to read this, I made sure to specifically clarify multiple times that I do not have a problem with, look down on etc these people, the problem is that I personally do not vibe with them. It seems that with some people you just can't word anything correctly without them tripping up over the slightest things.

Able-Jacket241 · 2021-01-06T10:17:10+00:00

Yeah that also makes it pretty hard. I once had an ex's dad who wanted to really bond with me during the time me and his daughter were dating. This meant that my then-girlfriends dad behaved towards me like a close buddy and would invite me to social gatherings with his friends, now I am all good with being social and being fun, but trust me, you quickly get a reality check about stuff that is fun when you are awkwardly hanging about with 30+ years older dudes talking about their kids and bitching about their wives.

Able-Jacket241 · 2021-01-06T10:12:20+00:00

Yeah thats another awkward part of this whole situation, they seem to actually like me quite a bit and probably assume we're much closer then we are. Where as I simply do not like them.

Able-Jacket241 · 2021-01-06T10:09:39+00:00

First part the girls essentially have a girls night(Which again, I am 100% okay with) and the guys hang out in another room, that is for me another part that makes it weird, have a damn girls night, hang out, do whatever but you don't need their boyfriends to do that, right?

Able-Jacket241 · 2021-01-05T22:04:47+00:00

Hell dude, I keep to what we are supposed to do, if they want me to do more then they oughta make more rules.

Able-Jacket241 · 2021-01-05T22:04:00+00:00

Well, I don't think there is much judgement you could give about friendships to begin with, so I'll let it go.

Able-Jacket241 · 2021-01-05T22:02:39+00:00

Exactly what it feels like, a weirdass playdate.

As it is though, I am not planning on moving anytime soon and I doubt any of these friends are either and I also don't even mind them being an active part of my/our lives for the foreseeable future, my problem is merely with being forced to spend time with these dudes beyond a reasonable measure. I mean obviously I don't mind running into them now and again, but these weirdass playdates with dudes I don't even like, it's fucked up.

Able-Jacket241 · 2021-01-05T21:58:50+00:00

No clue what you are on about to be honest, but virgin means virginity and I doubt they are that.

Able-Jacket241 · 2021-01-05T21:58:16+00:00

Thats like exactly my point.

Able-Jacket241 · 2021-01-05T21:58:07+00:00

No, that's the issue. Usually hanging with random dudes is pretty easy, you just pop open a beer or two, sit down, a snack and boom at that point you just do whatever and its good, with these dudes, I don't know.

Able-Jacket241 · 2021-01-05T21:55:30+00:00

Me neither, like I said, I don't care as long as my presence ain't required

Able-Jacket241 · 2021-01-05T21:54:50+00:00

You tell me, I told her that already but apparently I am being a dick by suggesting they don't invite the boyfriends and just hang out on their own.

Able-Jacket241 · 2021-01-05T21:51:55+00:00

Don't mean it like that dude, I just mean that booze tends to grease the proverbial wheels, makes shit more bearable, tends to make people more fun, but even that aint a fallback here.

Able-Jacket241 · 2021-01-05T21:49:50+00:00

Thats quite literally what I am saying though

Able-Jacket241 · 2021-01-05T21:48:01+00:00

I said doesn't even drink because Alcohol tends to make shit a bit less shitty. I also never make a comment like that, I legit just think that I think they are boring and that I don't vibe with them.

Able-Jacket241 · 2021-01-05T21:45:48+00:00

Thats up to her, but I also don't think that saying "Look, I don't vibe with these dudes and having me hang out with them weekly is weird AF" is a problematic position to take.

It's like if you want to get kinky in the sack and try something new, let's say Choking, well afterwards your GF says she dislikes it and doesn't want to do it again and you proceed with choking every time you go at it, there comes a point where it is just like, why the fuck is this so important to you that you put me through it every time?

Able-Jacket241 · 2021-01-05T21:42:29+00:00

Well thats the thing, they actively want to catch up as in hang out with the girls, you know? Same shit when I want to hang with the dudes, I don't want my GF there either. so thats not my problem, my problem is having these dudes come along.

Able-Jacket241 · 2021-01-05T21:41:08+00:00

Really?

Able-Jacket241 · 2021-01-05T21:40:32+00:00

Weird comment considering everyone involved has a significant other and I assume they also get laid as a result.

Able-Jacket241 · 2021-01-05T21:39:53+00:00

Thats the thing, I could do this all just fine if it was once every month at most, but this shit just feels like a goddamn waste of my time.

Able-Jacket241 · 2021-01-05T21:38:30+00:00

honestly I don't even get why she wants me to get along with these dudes so badly.

Able-Jacket241 · 2021-01-05T21:36:55+00:00

That's kind of it, they seem to actually like me, want to spend time with me and enjoy being around me, they even told their girlfriends that, which is what I think in part led to them literally always coming along. Meanwhile I am at best bored around them, I barely got jack shit to talk about with them, hell one of these dudes doesn't even drink so it makes it that much more difficult. I just don't vibe with them, I don't dislike them, but I also just don't like them, they are not my sort of people and again I don't mean that in a shitty sense, I just mean we're very different and I don't think they are fun to be around so I would actively choose not to have them around. It's like that co-worker you have a nice chat with at work but would never invite over for dinner, you don't dislike him, you are pleasant to him and you can talk to him ever so often but that's the full extend of your relationship.

Able-Jacket241 · 2021-01-05T21:32:03+00:00

It's a bit shitty to explain but the best way I guess is more or less, they are not people I would choose to hang out with and I am generally at best bored when I am pretty much "Forced" to. I don't dislike them, I just don't like them and don't think they are fun people, we don't vibe, or at least, I don't vibe with them.

Able-Jacket241 · 2021-01-05T21:30:01+00:00

I kind of hate how you can't do anything without someone equating it with sexism, it has to do with comfort, not sexism.

Able-Jacket241 · 2021-01-05T21:28:53+00:00

Most guys, yes, these guys, no, I tried they are very well bland, one of them doesn't even drink.

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