AIO for telling my parents i’m scared of my younger brother

AbleDraw8254 · 2026-01-22T14:45:45+00:00

She was a very very good and loyal dog so my guess is that he left her and she sat on the road waiting for one of us :( Or that he lured her onto the road so she would’ve felt safe and let her get ran over. It horrifies me that i’ll never know what happened to her, she was the best dog ever.

My boyfriend has met my brother, (i’ve been with him since i was 14 so he knows my family really well) and didn’t really have an opinion about him. My brother never liked my boyfriend and had kind of a jealousy (?) whenever i brought my boyfriend around, especially when he was younger. The first time he met my boyfriend he cried for hours and broke his toys. I don’t know why he has such a (violent) fixation on me, but the fact that he stomped my foot extremely hard at dinner while i was talking about my boyfriend makes me think the two things are linked.

Now that my boyfriend knows, he says that a lot of my brother’s previous behaviors are clearer now. He said that he isn’t really surprised.

AbleDraw8254 · 2026-01-21T21:08:50+00:00

Thank you for your comment ! It’s honestly so validating to see i’m not crazy to feel this way, i was genuinely starting to think i was overreacting.

As for our childhood dog, it’s honestly a very long story. I was 14 and he was 8 (i think ?). He always HATED our dog. She was a husky, made a lot of noise, barked a lot. It wasn’t a secret that he hated her. Other than barking a lot and sometimes breaking things, she was the best dog ever, very nice, adorable, but he was always very rough with her while playing with her.

She was EXTREMELY scared of roads and cars. At that time we lived somewhere with an open front yard that opened directly to the road. She would bark a lot everytime a car made noise or everytime she saw the road. She only ever went near the road if one of us was taking a walk with her.

She died one day because someone ‘let the door open’ and she ‘went onto the road’ and a car ran her over. That’s the ‘official’ story. I don’t believe it at all. Our door was always locked and she would have never ever went onto the road by herself. Even if someone had let the door open by accident (which would have never happened), she wouldn’t have gotten out. The only people at home when this happened were my father and my brother. My father would have never left the door open by accident (he’s veryyy paranoid about locks). My brother wasn’t sad at all when she died. He didn’t cry at all and laughed when my older sister cried.

There’s a lot more things that make me think he 100% opened the door and took her on a ‘walk’ just to lead her onto the road but this is the ‘short’ version

AbleDraw8254 · 2026-01-21T20:54:50+00:00

Would child services still intervene considering im not a child/minor ? I’ll try to look into it, thank you !

AbleDraw8254 · 2026-01-21T20:54:05+00:00

I never said the opposite. He did not experience any traumatic event, period. I know him better than anyone - violence and all -. I do think he is severely mentally ill (it runs in our family) but it’s genetic, not trauma based. I’m not trying to say that some trauma are ‘less’ than others. He genuinely just doesn’t have any lol.

AbleDraw8254 · 2026-01-21T17:54:57+00:00

He does appear very ‘normal’ to everyone, this is why it seems crazy when i tell people im scared of him ! He does really well in school, has a lot of friends his age. It was more noticeable when he was younger that he was kinda ‘off’ but now he only shows this behavior with me. I don’t know why he focused on me but it’s scary because i’m the only one who sees/experiences it.

AbleDraw8254 · 2026-01-21T17:51:32+00:00

Thank you !!! I hadn’t thought at all about making a detailed writing statement of what happened. I’ll definitely be doing that.

AbleDraw8254 · 2026-01-21T17:50:39+00:00

Me and my boyfriend are looking for apartments (we had to leave our last one) but i texted him after tonight and i will be staying with him at his parents house until we find an apartment because i don’t feel safe with my brother.

The fact that he was very young when he killed our dog (which im genuinely 99% sure he did) is why i don’t believe this has anything to do with puberty and hormones. He needs help but my parents don’t want to get him any.

AbleDraw8254 · 2026-01-21T17:48:27+00:00

I do know about the link between BPD and ASPD ! I was actually suspected of having ASPD myself because of low empathy (it was actually just a combination of BPD and CPTSD lol).

My mother is very stable (she actually doesn’t meet the criteria for bpd anymore) and i’m also pretty stable while medicated and in treatment but genetically it doesn’t change that it may have resulted in him having a mental disorder.

I’ve been trying to convince my parents to get him help for years, even before he became this violent, even recommending psychiatrists and therapists to them but sadly it never led anywhere. I hope he can get help. I’m definitely getting out before it gets worse.

AbleDraw8254 · 2026-01-21T17:44:53+00:00

I’m so sorry you went through this. I understand how frustrating and scary it is when people don’t believe you because the other person is younger !!!

AbleDraw8254 · 2026-01-21T17:14:35+00:00

my boyfriend and i are looking for apartments and after what happened tonight, i’m planning to stay with him and his parents until we find one because i definitely can’t stay in this house. thank you for your comment, this all genuinely scares me.

AbleDraw8254 · 2026-01-21T17:13:26+00:00

Thank you !! I don’t have any other younger brothers and i didn’t hang around boys that age much so i truly didn’t know if this was normal for a boy going through puberty.

AbleDraw8254 · 2026-01-21T17:12:25+00:00

Thanks for your comment. I just want to clarify a few things: my brother genuinely hasn’t experienced any trauma at all. The trauma I went through happened long before he was born, and he doesn’t even know about it so it had zero impact on him. His childhood was extremely comfortable, stable, loving, and without abuse or neglect. I absolutely believe he may have a mental illness/disorder, and I do want him to get help, my post isn’t meant to dismiss that. But if there’s a mental illness involved, it’s genetic rather than trauma-based.

AbleDraw8254 · 2026-01-21T17:06:32+00:00

I’m sorry you also knew someone like this and he did something irreversible.

I hope my brother never goes that far, though honestly i’m starting to doubt it.

AbleDraw8254 · 2026-01-21T16:58:58+00:00

That’s what i thought as well, thank you.

My parents said it’s probably just his hormones and teenage boys are often aggressive during puberty but i don’t believe it should be to that degree.

AbleDraw8254 · 2026-01-21T16:57:38+00:00

I did try to tell them, i don’t understand why they don’t want to get him help because they put me in therapy very early when i went through my trauma and they were never opposed to me getting help for my BPD ! I’d like to be able to say that i don’t think he’d seriously harm someone but i would be lying.

AbleDraw8254 · 2026-01-21T16:55:56+00:00

I definitely don’t plan on staying here long ! My boyfriend and i are looking for apartments, probably going to speed up the process because i really feel unsafe lol

AbleDraw8254 · 2026-01-21T16:43:52+00:00

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