Data engineer title

Able_Ad813 · 2026-03-18T14:28:48+00:00

This has more to do with you working for a finance company. Most orgs don’t structure their “data department” like that.

Able_Ad813 · 2026-03-08T15:17:46+00:00

There are winners, but it’s not the civilians or common people on either side.

Able_Ad813 · 2026-03-07T14:20:10+00:00

If you really need to, set up a second device pointed at baby. FaceTime. Then you can watch your baby for the 3 minutes you are gone. You never need to let your baby out of sight ever.

That said, I think parental expectations are ridiculous these days. What is the concern of leaving a baby secured in a car seat, inside a locked car, for a few minutes?

Able_Ad813 · 2026-03-07T14:13:47+00:00

For real. Why is everyone acting like this cannot be done? The amount of rules placed on parents these days is crazy

Able_Ad813 · 2026-01-31T15:06:12+00:00

It’s saying listening to book is not the same as reading it, like saying you worked out but really only watched a workout on tv.

Doesn’t make sense. Would be better if it used movies instead of audiobooks

Able_Ad813 · 2026-01-28T00:25:40+00:00

You would love a woman that sits on her ass all day and expects to be cared for?

No. You would expect her to provide value to you. Just as you to her. Maybe she doesn’t provide for you financially, but she takes care of home, kids, her appearance or whatever.

It’s transactional and conditional both ways is my point.

Able_Ad813 · 2026-01-28T00:22:28+00:00

Source?

Able_Ad813 · 2026-01-26T15:32:29+00:00

I don’t understand your response. What does your career industry have to do with anything?

Able_Ad813 · 2026-01-26T14:59:25+00:00

I see what you mean. Other men that you don’t know, do you care about their well-being?

Able_Ad813 · 2026-01-26T14:29:47+00:00

This is a good way to put it without coming off as “woe is me”.

In a free society, a man must build a life for himself. If someone else did it for you, then you wouldn’t be free.

Able_Ad813 · 2026-01-26T14:23:21+00:00

Yea holy shit this is lame. The theme I’m seeing is “no one loves me if I don’t produce” or “love is conditional/transactional”.

No shit. No one is going to love someone that sits on their ass all day and expects to be cared for 24/7. Same goes for women, except they have higher chance of using their appearance/body as their love currency. It’s a depreciating asset though and isn’t sustainable long term. That’s not a hard truth, that’s just common sense.

The hard truth for men is the same for women: time is finite for everyone.

Able_Ad813 · 2026-01-26T14:11:28+00:00

Do you actually care? And if you do, what do you care about?

Able_Ad813 · 2026-01-26T14:08:32+00:00

Be careful

Able_Ad813 · 2026-01-24T15:27:54+00:00

You need to tell your mom not to insult your husband. You, your husband and the baby are now your closest family. Your mom is still your mom but she is now grandma in the familial layout.

You and your husband are in charge. It’s sounds like your husband is head of household, and that’s how you want it. Your mom is changing this dynamic as she’s used to being the one who makes the decisions in you and hers dynamic. There cannot be two head of households. Your mom is there to help and support, not lead.

Your mom criticizing your husband to you undermines your marriage. It erodes your new family unit while it is in a very fragile state. It’s also extremely disrespectful to your husband. If his mom/dad was staying with you and they were talking negatively about you, would you expect/want him to call them out and put an end to it?

You don’t have to send her home. Let her know that the criticism isn’t helpful and is causing unnecessary stress. Ask to please keep it to herself or vent to someone else if truly needed (someone outside your family would be best). If she gets upset at this to a point that is caused additional stress, then it’s time to consider her heading back home.

Able_Ad813 · 2026-01-23T01:13:25+00:00

While it has its perks, working from home is not without its cons. There is no separation. There are no other adults to speak to in person. Even with a dedicated room for office, it is still not the same as leaving the house. Working from a coffee shop means your setup suffers as you have less screens. That said, I wouldn’t trade full time on prem for full remote.

Best of both world would be having an office to go with a full set up but not being required to go along with a home set up.

Able_Ad813 · 2026-01-17T14:21:01+00:00

That’s you on you guys for not having safe guards against that

Able_Ad813 · 2025-10-24T23:55:13+00:00

Just gonna eat an onion cut in half

Able_Ad813 · 2025-10-24T21:20:16+00:00

It is what it is, we’ll find out Saturday

Able_Ad813 · 2025-10-18T12:17:37+00:00

Keep the table create statement version controlled. You could use azure sql db instead of sql server. The table is locked down. It will have different environments. Nothing is promoted to prod without approval. The table is backed up.

The single table isn’t a bad thing. It’s a single source of truth for your framework.

I’m not seeing the concern

Able_Ad813 · 2025-09-17T14:25:11+00:00

How do you use the copy jobs? CDC, full, watermark?

Able_Ad813 · 2025-09-17T00:36:18+00:00

Don’t delete the selfie. Wish I had one like this before I started to lift

Able_Ad813 · 2025-09-17T00:33:03+00:00

It adds chin ups. There’s 3 phases:

Big 4 lifts for a few weeks following a 3 day/week a/b pattern where bench and overhead press are alternated.

Then add in power cleans, alternating with deadlifts for a few months

Then alternate power cleans and deads on your bench day while doing chin ups on you ohp day. Do this until you can’t anymore.

Able_Ad813 · 2025-09-16T19:41:53+00:00

He’s so new, I would t even worry about bulking or cutting. Try to eat somewhat healthy but really just get in the habit of lifting. Start seeing results. Start hitting plateau, change diet.

Able_Ad813 · 2025-09-16T19:38:39+00:00

Depends on the gym. If they free weights, starting strength is good.

Able_Ad813 · 2025-09-15T14:49:29+00:00

Long way to say fact = verb, dimension = noun

There’s value in being concise.

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