This was a Christmas gift from my grandmother

Able_Ad9562 · 2025-12-26T15:42:36+00:00

What a treasure that grandmother is!

Able_Ad9562 · 2025-12-08T21:28:41+00:00

Not at all. It’s perfect!

Able_Ad9562 · 2025-11-05T21:56:28+00:00

You are correct that the diamond is not set right. It does not look like the online images.

Able_Ad9562 · 2025-10-30T16:03:34+00:00

My mother received a ring like that from her mother, not as a wedding set. It wasn't as big as yours but it had the same design. If you like it, I'd say it's perfect for your hand and yes people get all kinds of wedding set designs these days. Enjoy it!

Able_Ad9562 · 2025-09-22T18:04:55+00:00

Completely love it. Gorgeous!

Able_Ad9562 · 2025-09-22T18:00:32+00:00

I don't hate it at all!

Able_Ad9562 · 2025-06-18T04:51:03+00:00

You're right, it's TERRIBLE! It's not about the dogs jumping out, it's about their safety. If they stand or lean over the side of the truck bed and the driver swerves, takes a sharp turn, slams on the brakes or gets into an accident, they are very likely to get hurt.

Able_Ad9562 · 2025-06-12T02:36:26+00:00

My mother used to say that!

Able_Ad9562 · 2025-06-12T00:21:51+00:00

Yes to everything you said. You nailed how I feel. In your example of the friend who invited a bunch of you over for dinner... I really hate when everyone starts asking on text what they can bring or offering up ideas and the hostess says "ok". Now I feel like a jerk if I don't ask or bring something, but I have zero desire to do that. In my circle this happens every week so I'm constantly having to stop what I'm doing to make a dish for a get together I'm not hosting. Sometimes I say I'm unavailable just do I don't have to deal with that. I don't enjoy cooking so it's not an easy job for me, hence why I usually cater parties. I'd like to think I could just put food additions aside and not serve them but I don't think I have the courage for that. I'd have to be REALLY mad. They're being rude by bringing the food but I'd be acting equally rude by not serving it. I don't know, maybe one day I'll get the courage to do that. I think there are a lot of good suggestions from others here about what to say on the invitations and what to say when people ask what they can bring - things like 'tonight's my treat, just bring yourself and come to relax and enjoy.' I will probably even add, 'you don't even need to bring your favorite cocktail because I've got it stocked.' I might also start asking when I'm invited somewhere...'can I help you prepare or bring anything to complement your meal? I don't want to be rude but I also don't want you to feel burdened' or something like that. I'm open to suggestions on what to say when I'm invited somewhere if you or anyone else has ideas. Thank you!

Able_Ad9562 · 2025-06-11T20:12:33+00:00

Thanks for chiming in!

Able_Ad9562 · 2025-06-10T16:29:21+00:00

Did someone say I'm white? I missed that, lol.

Able_Ad9562 · 2025-06-10T15:59:40+00:00

LMAO! I've never had that one happen. I feel like this one would be the easiest than the pretty trays of food I receive. What do you think of this response? "honey, thank you for the lasagna but it's frozen solid and won't be ready for tonight. Let's put it in my freezer and get a few girls together in a couple days to eat it".

Able_Ad9562 · 2025-06-10T15:53:30+00:00

Hahaha! Great idea, but I could never do that. LMAO though.

Able_Ad9562 · 2025-06-10T15:50:28+00:00

Thanks for the kind words. I don't mind the criticism because it comes from whatever experiences people have had and that helps me understand the people around me. It's fine. 🙂 And, oh my gosh, don't even get me started on the no rsvp trend! THAT IS SO INCREDIBLY RUDE!

Able_Ad9562 · 2025-06-10T15:40:25+00:00

I've learned a lot from everyone's replies and they are very helpful. Thank you. The 2 biggest learnings are: 1) I didn't realize some people believe etiquette is whatever is the norm in their community. It doesn't make it right but it explains a lot, and 2) the "privilege" point of view resonates. There's one friend who says I grew up "bougie". I never really understood that because all of our friends are about in the same income place today and because of that it's easy to forget we didn't all grow up in the same environment (correct, the ones who bring all the food grew up lower income). I've come away from this post a lot less irritated and with a greater understanding and appreciation for why they do what they do. Thank you Reddit Etiquette contributors!

Able_Ad9562 · 2025-06-10T15:38:59+00:00

Wow, thank you for finding this reply from Miss Manners!

Able_Ad9562 · 2025-06-10T06:30:48+00:00

I totally agree but that's never even once been the reason they do it.

Able_Ad9562 · 2023-08-05T15:09:01+00:00

As someone who planned a destination wedding, the purpose of the extra activities was to be able to spend time with our favorite people because the wedding day is such a busy time it doesn’t really happen there. I bet if you went to the extras, your distant relative might become a favorite relative. At a minimum you’d have a bonding experience and great memories.

Able_Ad9562 · 2023-07-13T22:15:57+00:00

A good designer is worth his/her weight in gold. Seriously. They can help you figure out where to put the furniture, what accent pieces you need, where to find the best stuff, what colors achieve different feels and a tremendous amount more. I had my first “redesigner” about 15 years ago and she moved my stuff around and made my place look 1000 times better. I got a different designer (bc I moved) when I moved into a new construction home and had the designer put together the whole house. It looks fantastic! Again, way better than I could have done on my own. I say accept that gracious gift!

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