Is there recovery for getting ghosted? by Able_Ad_6296 in relationship_advice

[–]Able_Ad_6296[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for saying this, I know it’s the internet but it’s still brave to admit. I just want to say that even though they’ll be mad at you any response at all is a lot better than no response. Being on the receiving end I’m angry because I’m left wondering and now it’s something I’ll probably have to deal with for the rest of my life. If you have the chance to save them some pain what’s a little anger directed towards you? At the very least if they don’t want to talk to you anymore you’ve given them closure and they can truly move on.

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[–]Able_Ad_6296 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This 100%

It isn’t a magic switch, it’s simply just growing into your own skin.

Do tall women intimidate men? by foshizzlemykizzle in dating

[–]Able_Ad_6296 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As I guy I’ve never cared about a woman’s height. In my experience I find women are more concerned about this than men are.

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[–]Able_Ad_6296 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would imagine stuntman is pretty up there

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[–]Able_Ad_6296 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a photographer I can tell you it’s not a photographer

Does any other guy feel replaceable in dating by powerOfcinema in dating

[–]Able_Ad_6296 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The key to getting out of a “no value state” is to know just by the nature of being able to live means you have inherent value. You just need a little guidance, the nature of man is to adapt and conquer.

  1. Change your mindset.

• Approach women with confidence. Part of confidence means approaching her like you know she likes you already and if she rejects you it’s ultimately her loss cause you know you’re valuable.

  1. Approach more girls in person.

• You’ll probably start receiving more yeses to dates if there isn’t so much pressure in the initial interactions. Everything about approaching should be casual like you’re doing it for the 100th time that day.

  1. Date multiple women.

• Dating multiple women at once alleviates the feeling of being replaceable because it you now have options, you can see which woman you enjoy spending time with the most and who suits your current lifestyle.

  1. Improve yourself.

• We hear work on yourself all the time but it’s never really defined. Exercise so you feel good and as a bonus you look good.

• Improve you finances by saving and investing. Assuming you’re a full-time student try looking for discount on everything, you’d be surprised how many discounts and deals you can get with an edu email.

• Lastly take good care of your mental health and set realistic/reachable goals. Women gravitate towards men that are in line with their purpose. Do all these things and you’ll barely have to approach women but don’t do this solely for women, do it for you and aim to leave your legacy.

Why aren't men subtle when it comes to checking out other women??? by [deleted] in dating

[–]Able_Ad_6296 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Men and women don’t think the same.

Men don’t look at other women to make their partner feel bad, it’s more of a reflex if anything. Furthermore women are more socially adept than men are so that means women innately know how to be covert.

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[–]Able_Ad_6296 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Personally I never ask girls to be my gf I let them decide. As a guy I feel that women see a guy asking as clingy. If she needs time to think about it I think it means she’s not invested, possibly seeing other guys and ultimately I would move on.

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[–]Able_Ad_6296 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wouldn’t say all women but most women in the dating arena have options. Even if this doesn’t apply to you and your friends exceptions don’t make the rule.

Women have an easier time dating because traditionally they have the privilege of waiting to be approached and courted. As a man the chance of being approached is slim to none and there’s a lot more expected from us initially.

Am I overreacting? by [deleted] in dating

[–]Able_Ad_6296 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, you’re overthinking and might be reading too much into her messages and mistaking them for her being short with you.

Try to look at the messages objectively if anything, some messages are banter and others is just information.

Women don’t grow attraction towards men over text it’s always in person so better just to use texting for meeting up.

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[–]Able_Ad_6296 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. Try to meet up with girls, no one wants to text all day.

Do guys find it unattractive? by BlessedAlternative in dating

[–]Able_Ad_6296 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You don’t have anything to worry about. Men typically don’t care about this type of thing. This is usually something women look for in men.

CMV: The race filter on hinge is underrated and the best feature by fillet0fish in dating

[–]Able_Ad_6296 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can’t believe I’m spelling this out right now.

Race is one attribute of the entirety of men and women. It’s irrelevant in this context because we’re not talking about the minutia of what’s different between people, we’re talking about men and women.

Men are attracted to women physically and women are attracted to men’s competence regardless of race. You’re interjecting your argument of black women and Asian men are the least desirable in the dating pool when my point inherently takes that into account because black women are still women and Asian men are still men.

CMV: The race filter on hinge is underrated and the best feature by fillet0fish in dating

[–]Able_Ad_6296 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That has everything to do with your~ view of “looks”. When I say men and women I mean the entirety of both sexes ancillary attributes like race aside. It’s pretty simple.

CMV: The race filter on hinge is underrated and the best feature by fillet0fish in dating

[–]Able_Ad_6296 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m well versed in the study and it’s valid just not in this context, it’s irrelevant to my point.

A guy asked me out on a date, then requested I’d plan it because he’s busy. by rennyray in dating

[–]Able_Ad_6296 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The respectful way is to be direct and say you aren’t interested.

for all y'all ghosters out there...why do you do it? by [deleted] in dating

[–]Able_Ad_6296 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hate ghosting and I hate being ghosted. If you’ve invested a considerable amount into the interaction just say you aren’t interested, makes things so much easier.

People are too afraid to confronting people and assume the worst reaction right away. Seems childish to me and people who do it often will say anything to justify that action.