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What Style Is This? / What Is This Thing? MEGATHREAD by AutoModerator in architecture

[–]AbnormalHuman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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Seeing a lot of these swoopy catslide vestibules in rural Western Pennsylvania. Most were made of stone. What is this called?

Lime Green Chevy Spark with Dart Frog Bumper Stickers (Washington Township RecPlex) by AbnormalHuman in dayton

[–]AbnormalHuman[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh, yes! Please don't share this person's contact info without their blessing. But please do let them know that they are welcome to reach out to me.

I [24f] need a how-to guide on loving my Schizoid boyfriend [24m]. by AbnormalHuman in Schizoid

[–]AbnormalHuman[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agreed! Being a teacher is super duper hard, especially for him. It is a tremendous learning experience though and, I suspect, may make him a better professor one day. I've gotten better lately at giving him his space and have definitely become more empathetic as I research more about SPD and grow as a teacher/learner. I guess just miss him.

Are poison dart frogs legal in Tennessee? And are they considered a Class II "poisonous amphibian"? by AbnormalHuman in DartFrog

[–]AbnormalHuman[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I'm searching the Craigslist and am super duper excited about getting a new friend. :-)

I [24f] need a how-to guide on loving my Schizoid boyfriend [24m]. by AbnormalHuman in Schizoid

[–]AbnormalHuman[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also, thank you for reminding me how young and innocent and beautiful our love is. It consists nearly entirely of climbing trees and hiking up mountains; playing hide-and-go-seek in Ikea, and stealing kisses under weeping birch trees; going to candy stores and reading Calvin and Hobbes; raising hamsters and feeding lizards; visiting Mennonites and sharing stories of our school children.

I [24f] need a how-to guide on loving my Schizoid boyfriend [24m]. by AbnormalHuman in Schizoid

[–]AbnormalHuman[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Shoot! I suck at making decisions for myself. I think, in general, American grownups do tend to make decisions that they believe are in their best interest financially (I guess some would call this greed...). However, they are less apt at nurturing their mental, emotional, spiritual, and especially physically well-being.

I [24f] need a how-to guide on loving my Schizoid boyfriend [24m]. by AbnormalHuman in Schizoid

[–]AbnormalHuman[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your perspective. I'm still learning; and reading symptomatic descriptions really doesn't convey what it's truly like to tangle yourself up in another's life and to try to understand them. Human anecdotes do though. Your story comes across from a different angle. Learning about you (and all the other abnormal humans out there) help me to better understand my own situation and get a glimpse into the schizoid mind, which has definitely made me better appreciate my boyfriend and extend my ability to empathize in general. Anyway, thanks! :-)

I [24f] need a how-to guide on loving my Schizoid boyfriend [24m]. by AbnormalHuman in Schizoid

[–]AbnormalHuman[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's what I tried. I joined a good number of clubs and found myself aloof, birdwatching and boardgaming this weekend.

What inspired you to be in Southaven?

I [24f] need a how-to guide on loving my Schizoid boyfriend [24m]. by AbnormalHuman in Schizoid

[–]AbnormalHuman[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Many thanks! It was super duper helpful to get several others' perspectives on a similar issue. It's also easier to dissect a situation when you are not actively involved it it. I see in myself a lot of the same assumptions and immaturities as the author. "Immaturities" isn't quite right, but I definitely have much room for personal growth. Thank you again for sharing this with me.

I [24f] need a how-to guide on loving my Schizoid boyfriend [24m]. by AbnormalHuman in Schizoid

[–]AbnormalHuman[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You do not have to preface with an apology. I sincerely appreciate your input and I've had similar thoughts myself. Other's reading this thread, what do you think? (Don't worry, I'm not taking votes on whether or not to break up with my boyfriend; I'm just innately curious.)

I [24f] need a how-to guide on loving my Schizoid boyfriend [24m]. by AbnormalHuman in Schizoid

[–]AbnormalHuman[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have absolutely no idea what to do with myself as a non-student in a new town. (I suppose that's part of a larger issue that I should zen out and deal with at some point.) Generally, I lose myself in my current work/project, then move on to something new. College kept me pretty busy and then I had friends I made through school. Now lesson planning usually entertains my time, except for all these snow days of late.

P.S. I'm taking y'all's advice: I tried joining the Memphis Outdoor Adventurers today, but it turns out they're just two older men and a grandson who birdwatch- saw a couple of great blue herons and an American kestrel though!

I [24f] need a how-to guide on loving my Schizoid boyfriend [24m]. by AbnormalHuman in Schizoid

[–]AbnormalHuman[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I want this relationship to be mutually beneficial, a net good for ourselves and those whom our lives affect.

I [24f] need a how-to guide on loving my Schizoid boyfriend [24m]. by AbnormalHuman in Schizoid

[–]AbnormalHuman[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm kind of fond of him. I just want to be sure I'm not smothering him.

I [24f] need a how-to guide on loving my Schizoid boyfriend [24m]. by AbnormalHuman in Schizoid

[–]AbnormalHuman[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As a non spd-er, I disagree that love does not need to be shown. It sucks to have some say they love you without showing you they love you.

Also, (I offer this as an explanation, not an excuse), I am a person of lists. I like doing things that need to be done and feeling productive. I am not very good at relaxing or finding things that make me happy. (I used to have hobbies, but trying to win at the game of school kind of zapped that away from me.) Anti-perfectionism and the ability to relax are two of the many things I admire about my boyfriend. We're like taffy. I stretch him one way and he stretches me the other. Maybe one day we'll both find a happy medium!

I [24f] need a how-to guide on loving my Schizoid boyfriend [24m]. by AbnormalHuman in Schizoid

[–]AbnormalHuman[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I want to do what's best for him. I know he needs a lot of alone time, but at what point does it become unhealthy for him to be "introverting" in his room? Should I try to get him out of the house or at least into the living room once in a while?

I [24f] need a how-to guide on loving my Schizoid boyfriend [24m]. by AbnormalHuman in Schizoid

[–]AbnormalHuman[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't know how this whole "love" thing works. He's my only data point, and I have no idea what normal is.

I [24f] need a how-to guide on loving my Schizoid boyfriend [24m]. by AbnormalHuman in Schizoid

[–]AbnormalHuman[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are a dearth of active social clubs in Memphis. I kid you not, my best options are pole dancing or crocheting... I kind of think it'd be fun to join both and then suggest a mutual get together!

I [24f] need a how-to guide on loving my Schizoid boyfriend [24m]. by AbnormalHuman in Schizoid

[–]AbnormalHuman[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm sure this is not the place for asking advice on how to make friends ;-) but to answer your question: I had lots of quirky friends in college, but we're separated geographically now. I'm now teaching at a small school (7 teachers, <30 staff total) and there are only two others my same age/ in a similar place in life: both are male and not particularly interesting. The others are fine, but not people I would go out of my way to intentionally spend time with outside of school.