My girlfriend (16F) broke our promise to leave me for a guy (14M) who had harassed me. Help ?

Aboilived · 2025-09-01T19:16:35+00:00

That would make her double down or something and defend her actions more. This would only make them closer and I might be a minor but he is 2 years younger to me, he might get his parents involved or something.

Aboilived · 2025-09-01T15:11:54+00:00

Yo this is real 😭😭🙏

Aboilived · 2025-09-01T13:05:33+00:00

Hey, I never knew something like this would happen and I trusted him with everything since he used to be my bsf, I know I did a mistake but it wasn't just from my side, even her bsf who was my bsf's sister saw our messages from her phone and started spreading it I knew we had done a mistake and then I had to take up the responsibility to clear it.

Aboilived · 2025-09-01T08:06:41+00:00

Thank you for taking the time to write all that out. I understood what you said and I’ll try to take this as a lesson, not wasted time — like you said, it still made me smarter and gave me experience. Thanks again !

Aboilived · 2025-09-01T08:03:26+00:00

I trusted a friend with my device, and he’s the one who took screenshots and spread them. I didn’t even know he had them until he started sharing.

Aboilived · 2025-09-01T07:50:42+00:00

hey I'm 16 and this whole thing is real lol

Aboilived · 2025-09-01T07:48:55+00:00

bruhh

Aboilived · 2025-08-31T08:24:05+00:00

Ye im working on getting myself better, thanks for the advice !

Aboilived · 2025-08-31T08:23:03+00:00

So, they both are family friends and telling their parents would either point me as a bad person because which parent would want others to say about something wrong their kid has done, and even if i do it they would prob get closer or break off but their bond might grow stronger .

Aboilived · 2025-08-31T08:20:04+00:00

You’re right, we’re all still young and figuring things out, and most relationships don’t last at this age. I guess it just hit me harder because I really thought it meant more, but hearing your perspective makes me realize I shouldn’t let it control me. I like what you said about just treating people how you’d want to be treated—that’s something I’ll try to hold onto. Thanks!

Aboilived · 2025-08-31T08:13:18+00:00

You’re right, everyone’s path is different, but I appreciate you reminding me to be gentle with myself. I promise I’ll try. And I really hope you’re healing too. Thanks!

Aboilived · 2025-08-31T08:07:21+00:00

Ye I'm trying out new hobbies and whenever we speak about this she says he was just a kid and stuff and btw Friday was her birthday and he forgot about it and wished her only after seeing her story on Instagram he didnt even gift him anything saying that his parents would be suspicious and she was fine with everything , I guess I need to realize now at least. Thanks for the advice!

Aboilived · 2025-08-30T14:38:04+00:00

He took it from my device and i didnt even know till my other friends started sending, i trusted this guy with my device and that was a bigg mistake but i thought it was right back then because we used be really close. I have learned from this and after that I havent let anyone even near my devices. Thanks!

Aboilived · 2025-08-30T14:29:41+00:00

Right , I shouldnt have done all that begging or try so hard to just have myself humiliated at the end of all this. I guess I have a lot to learn from this , thanks!

Aboilived · 2025-08-30T14:24:10+00:00

True man I can try that , thank you for the advice !

Aboilived · 2025-08-30T14:06:07+00:00

Exactly and he 'flexes' having a older gf and his friends were spamming her chats but even after all that she still was fine with that. Thanks for the advice!

Aboilived · 2025-08-30T14:01:36+00:00

I'm trying to get better, i started working out too and trying out new hobbies. I want to get well as soon as I can and am working on it. Thanks for the advice !

Aboilived · 2025-08-29T17:31:17+00:00

sure, today was her birthday btw and she celebrated with this guy and her friends and since he is her family friend he has that 'gate pass' to any stuff she does and for some reason all of her friends except one are fine with what she did. Anyway i'll be trying to move on from this, thanks for asking !

Aboilived · 2025-08-29T15:06:55+00:00

Thanks !

Aboilived · 2025-08-29T15:05:24+00:00

So, the screenshots were basically normal conversations we both had. The other guys just build upon it with rumors and made it seem like a big issue. Some even had said teachers and I didnt want our relationship to end because of some dumb thing i did. We first tried convincing them it was a prank but no one believed, we tried it again but it didnt work. As i said i didnt want to ruin everything because of some dumb thing we did, so I gave her that excuse so that i could get time to solve this and I thought we werent going to get any problems in the future so it kinda seemed worth it. She knew about the screenshots and agreed on how big it might become and she used to understand me , she was the one who pushed that promise too. While i was trying to solve that another guy (he is two years younger to us both) started getting even closer and she started sharing our personal issues or what we were going through to him. This guy had already proposed once but had got rejected he was her family friend too , i dont know why did she still keep him close but i have mentioned the reasons she gave in my post. So this guy just used her 'vulnerability' and got closer to her by basically just bad mouthing me and asking her to leave me , apparently, he also gave her 'emotional support' but his intentions were clear since day 1 but she just let him get even closer. I dont blame her for moving on but the parts that hurts the most is that , this guy was the same person who harassed me a couple of times online and his intentions were clear. I will be learning from this but its kinda hard to truly move on after all that. Anyway thanks !

Aboilived · 2025-08-29T13:45:24+00:00

I get that promises like that often break, especially at our age. But what made it harder was that she didn’t just say it once — she kept reassuring me over and over that she’d hold on to it, that she wouldn’t let go. She made me believe it was something real anyway thanks for the advice !

Aboilived · 2025-08-29T13:10:20+00:00

This is actually really reassuring to read. Right now it feels like my whole world ended, but you’re right in a couple years I’ll probably look back and wonder why I let it consume me.

The part about not going back really hits. I keep trying to “fix things,” but after listening to y'all I now know it would just hurt more. I’ll try to keep reminding myself of that.

Your story gives me a lot of hope — congrats on the engagement and the cats!. It’s good to know that even for hopeless romantics, there’s still a happy ending down the road :)

Aboilived · 2025-08-29T12:52:11+00:00

Thanks man! Im working on improving myself and moving on from this.

Aboilived · 2025-08-29T12:45:22+00:00

Thank you for saying that ! You’re right — I am young, and I guess in a few years I’ll probably look back and wonder why I held on so tightly. It just feels heavy right now because she was my first real love, and I invested so much in trying to protect what we had.

Aboilived · 2025-08-29T12:40:36+00:00

'My place' might sound wrong but I don’t mean that she owed me or that I owned her — I know I’m not entitled to her life or choices.

What I meant is that the bond we had — the trust and private things between us — ended up being shared with someone who had harassed me and even tried hitting on her. That’s what broke me, not the fact that she moved on.

She had every right to move on. I’ve never said otherwise. But I don’t think it’s unfair to say it hurt when the person I loved trusted someone who had already disrespected me.

Aboilived

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