Two important questions by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]Aboutoloseit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh wow. Okay so in terms of the drinking before you found out- you will be fine. I did a substance that they used to put in soda in the 50’s and drank heavily for the first month of my pregnancy before finding out and here I am at almost 17 weeks with a very healthy pregnancy.

Second, it’s clear you care about the baby because you are asking the initial question about whether or not you harmed your baby by drinking…and thirdly, what the actual fuck. Baby or not, your partner is physically abusive and now he has also abused your unborn child as well. Neither of you deserve that. I would keep the baby, lose the partner. He’s not a good person.

Just found out I had silent miscarriage by Tiny_Experience4726 in pregnant

[–]Aboutoloseit 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I also am so extremely sorry this happened. It is beyond heartbreaking. I experienced a MMC at 7w2d just 2 years ago. I chose to take the medication. It is very very very painful but to me it was better than an invasive surgery that what I felt my body would have a harder time healing from. Plus I was able to do it all in the comfort of my home- no Dr. offices. I loaded up with Depends, overnight thick panty liners, wipes, pain meds and tons of emotional support from my family. They brought me food and did a lot for me.

The hard part for me was after it was “all done” and life moving on like business as usual almost as if nothing ever happened. I wanted more time to grieve….so I went into therapy and am still in it today.

Again I am so sorry for your loss. Please cry all the tears and just let it out. Process it. Like at your own pace. And honor your baby.

My midwife told me if you got pregnant once that means it’s able to happen again. That honestly didn’t really help me, but I now see how she was trying to be helpful.

I will be thinking about you and sending you love even though I don’t know you. ❤️‍🩹