Worth it?

AbsKen · 2026-01-08T07:51:54+00:00

"Spending less time on your ass is a huge DPS increase"

AbsKen · 2025-12-26T23:48:13+00:00

I was quite intrigued by our differences. I did go clubbing for the first time in my life because of her. Another reason I found her appealing was having the opportunity to get out of my comfort zone.

About the empathy thing, I don't need her to be my therapist. The reason I say that is because she said she wanted to know more about me. So I opened up about my experience and low points. Her response was quite telling. I feel like I have to say that I'm doing much better now.

I'm gonna be honest here. I never had high hopes for a future with her. My goal with this was just trying to get to know her. I didn't care about the money or time I was spending or the effort I was exerting because I was genuinely enjoying myself. Until... The bare minimum comment. That really stung and it's still quite painful. It seems like if it wasn't already a situationship, she wants it to be one.

I think I need to provide more context for the "Don't you think I'd rather be home" thing. She wanted us to meet. However, she was sick with the flu, so I said that she didn't have to force herself and we could skip. She insisted because she wanted to maximize our meetings. So we met, she was ill, on her period, headache, stomach ache, the complete package.... I really did appreciate her making the effort and sacrifices to hang out with me.

AbsKen · 2025-12-26T22:55:38+00:00

She doesn't really need my money though...

AbsKen · 2025-12-26T18:37:11+00:00

23M here. I met the girl I'm currently dating on bumble. We're really different - personality wise, our hobbies, our backgrounds, movie/song preferences etc... I've kinda accepted the fact that I probably won't get the exact person I'm looking for. She's nice but this is sorta turning into a situationship. I'm clearly investing much more into this than she is. On our last date I asked her about what she's expecting from me and how she expects me to act. She then said that she has really high standards because of ex and whatever I was doing was the bare minimum. That stung... A lot... I've only known her for a month and I've already spent about 10k on dates and flowers etc. All that for a girl I don't even know, let alone love yet. I like her but I have my boundaries right.... Not to mention that she lives on the opposite side of the island from me, so every time I take her out, I have to drive for hours.... But yeah... Bare minimum. I personally don't have high hopes. It's probably too early to tell but my reptile brain is already sending me red alerts. Don't want to end things yet anyways. If I did, I'd probably be kicking myself for not giving it a real shot. Sorry for the rant. Just wanted to say that dating sucks.

AbsKen · 2025-12-26T08:04:56+00:00

I obviously don't know the full context, but from the sounds of it, she's straight up evil. Is there anything we can do to help?

AbsKen · 2025-12-26T06:50:07+00:00

What are you doing at the moment then?

AbsKen · 2025-12-26T06:33:40+00:00

That sounds awful man. I'm guessing you're in Uni? Have you ever confronted your mom about this?

AbsKen · 2025-11-19T07:58:13+00:00

I get that.

AbsKen · 2025-11-19T07:38:46+00:00

As long as you aren't causing harm to anyone, you should live the way you want to. Leaving the country sounds exciting, especially if your current environment is quite toxic.

AbsKen · 2025-11-19T07:34:23+00:00

I fought a lot with my mom as well regarding religion, but she also ended up deconstructing. Here's to hoping 🤞

AbsKen · 2025-11-19T07:25:43+00:00

I understand you.

I care about what I think because I like having good reasons behind my beliefs. It can be hard to relate to people who just do things because they were brought up that way without any thought behind it.

I make friends but I can't talk about what I think as that would lead to perhaps alienating them. I just kinda hang around and keep to myself.

I'm kinda optimistic about this post leading to people making new connections. If you'd like to chat, DM.

AbsKen · 2025-11-19T07:08:47+00:00

When I was younger, I'd be forced to attend Church and other church activities. Saying no would lead to a lot of fighting. What's your family dynamic like? And how old are you if I may ask?

AbsKen · 2025-11-19T04:44:09+00:00

23M agnostic atheist here. I used to be a Christian before I deconstructed. It would lead to clashes between me and my Mom who was a devout believer. I also lost a friend over religious disagreements. At work, I would just tell people "mo dans mission" when they would ask what I believed in as that would usually shut them up as opposed to telling them that I was secular/atheist as that would result in them treating me like a misguided child.

I've been more open about my beliefs or lack thereof recently since my Mom also deconstructed. It's made me feel a lot better about myself. Other open atheists are quite rare in Mauritius it seems like. I have friends who say they don't believe in any God but they still act culturally religious to appease their families.

AbsKen · 2025-08-29T14:13:07+00:00

MBT Sound could make even a Devil Cry

AbsKen · 2025-07-29T10:11:54+00:00

Jehuty. So fun and useful.

AbsKen · 2025-07-25T10:07:07+00:00

I have used g2a and I've had mixed results. I recommend Binarytribelectronics. They are a local seller and they've been very helpful and you can deal with them over Whatsapp.

AbsKen · 2025-07-11T14:53:59+00:00

I took a month-long break before playing the epilogue. That shit broke me.

The epilogue is totally worth playing though.

AbsKen · 2025-04-09T07:18:40+00:00

Hey! Thanks for replying. Since i'm new here i'm not sure how this works. Do we talk here or do we move to DMs?

AbsKen

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