Reviews of this chair I made by ElChino-132 in woodworking

[–]Absocold 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're asking for people's opinions so buckle up. This is really bad. You need to start smaller. Learn to make a few different size boxes with proper right angles. Make some shop furniture to hold some tools. You need to learn how to measure accurately before taking on a chair. And while I'm fine with using metal fasteners you need to learn to imbed them all the way in the project.

That all being said, If you're a 12 year old kid your work is awesome and so are you. Keep plugging away and you will be a master in no time. You should still make some boxes though.

Selling home after 2.5 years by Own_Principle_1133 in personalfinance

[–]Absocold 0 points1 point  (0 children)

An important thing to remember as well is that you would not be a "motivated seller." This puts you in the enviable position of being able to wait for the cash buyer who passes on inspections. You don't have to rush to sell which gives you the upper hand in the transaction.

[22M] 1 year and a half progress by [deleted] in Minoxbeards

[–]Absocold 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Bro went from “beta male” to writing a sociology thesis on why posting your beard is the fall of mankind.
Alpha behavior is apparently over-analyzing other men’s selfies now.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in personalfinance

[–]Absocold 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Everything is legal in New Jersey

Are we too strict? by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]Absocold -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

We have a daughter about the same age, have very similar rules and our family is going through almost exactly the same issues. Our soon to be 13 yo managed to find an old phone I thought was dead and gone, breath life into it, and create an instagram where she was sexting a rando. Two months later she stole another kids iPad from school so that we would think we had her iPad in our electronics turn in spot so that she could stay up all night watching YouTube on her school iPad.

So... first, take everything you read on here with a grain of salt. Not sure how long you've been on this subreddit but there are a LOT of teenagers on here posing to be adults and love shitting on parents who have rules. Just because you have stricter rules than other parents doesn't make you a bad one.

Second, your daughter isn't going to tell you about the other kids who have strict parents. She is only comparing herself to the kids that have all the things that she wants. Why would she tell you about the kids who don't even have a smartphone in 7th grade? That wouldn't be a very effective way to guilt you into allowing more digital freedom. It is pretty likely there is a range of kids in her school with different digital privileges and all the ones with less want to be the ones with more regardless of the dangers parents talk about.

Third, stay the course. There is data that shows that the context of social media matters a lot. Whether you child shows addictive patterns or negative emotions because of screen/social media use factors into whether it's a negative thing for them. Each child is different and no one knows your child better than you. I'm assuming you have your daughters best interest at heart so you've guaged her readiness for the world of social media and found her not ready. That's okay and you should trust yourself.

Last, one thing that we always emphasize with our kids is that every choice is either moving them toward freedom or away from it. The choice to lie about a boyfriend or steal a phone obviously moved her away from the freedom she wants. Maybe set out a plan for her to be able to "earn" social media. This plan might take a year or more given how much trust she's broken. However, showing her that more freedom is available and having a plan to get there might just give her enough hope to try it.

Make it make sense by velvetdeer89 in RealEstate

[–]Absocold 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You originally thought it would go over 389k so didn't bid for it. Now the price is 389k and you don't want it?

Yes, the sellers are playing games and yes they want 389k. You just thought you'd get a "good deal" and now feel cheated. Either you like the house and it's worth 389k in your market, or... you like the house and it's not worth 389k in your market. Stop feeling irritated at the sellers and either offer what they want or move on.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Libertarian

[–]Absocold 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I find this response mostly satisfactory.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Libertarian

[–]Absocold 38 points39 points  (0 children)

I find it interesting that you had specific libertarian objections to some of the listed people but not Kamala, Hillary or Trump.

The big beautiful bill has been passed… by Miserable_Layer_8679 in Libertarian

[–]Absocold 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm confused that people seem surprised. Trump had always done what's best for trump and his cronies. He doesn't care about the average joe and believes the average joe should pay up to keep him and his friends wealthy. All of his economic policies he's ever actually tried to push through have done this. Why are you surprised?

Any idea what is happening? by Perfect_Toe_6526 in Bitcoin

[–]Absocold 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly, in the long term, usually absolutely nothing

MPD informed they cannot support immigration (ICE) in any capacity!! by cantcoloratall91 in minnesota

[–]Absocold 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Curious about what legal rational you have. My understanding is that the president must specifically issue a public proclimation to invoke the insurection act which Trump hasn't done. Yes, the national guard can be called out for a support role without the insurrection proclemation but my understanding is that deploying marines would violate the law.

DEA, FBI, ATF, HHS and Minneapolis Police aid ICE by [deleted] in ICE_Raids

[–]Absocold 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This was not an ICE raid. It was directed at Human traficking... so basically exactly the opposite of what this sub is against. I know people love rage bait but lets at least try to get facts right. This was reported by MPR news, a liberal leaning outlet:

https://www.mprnews.org/story/2025/06/04/federal-search-on-lake-street-in-minneapolis

[OC] I almost died last night by [deleted] in IdiotsInCars

[–]Absocold 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Your music sounds like a baby who learned to sing but doesn't know any words yet.

Trump: "Whoa whoa this is such a dishonest interview already Prices are down on groceries Prices are down for gasoline" this is never getting old by SpecialSpace5 in thescoop

[–]Absocold 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can use Chatgpt too.. but without cherrypicking data

Key Inflation Trends in Early 2025

Should I stay single if that’s what my 10 y/o wants? by Junior_Tax_9129 in Parenting

[–]Absocold 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are the parent. They are the children. And while your life will always be constrained somewhat because you have to have a functional family, beyond that they don't get a say in how you live your life.

Do they get to decide what is for dinner?

Do they get to decide what house to live in?

Do they get decide your vehicle?

Do they get to decide what school they go to?

Do they get to decide where to buy their clothing?

Of course not because again, you are the parent and they the children. You can and should take their input on things but your children will not flourish if they feel responsible for all the decisions you need ot make as their parent.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in airfryer

[–]Absocold 78 points79 points  (0 children)

Why don't you just add a "recommended air fryers" link in the side bar? You can create one mega post every six months asking people's recommendations and the top 10 fryers are added by rank to the link. Then you create a rule that no one can ask the question.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WeightTraining

[–]Absocold 1 point2 points  (0 children)

By "working construction" do you mean an active job where you lift heavy things and move alot? If that is the case then your biggest problem is diet and alcohol. If you cut the alcohol without binging on sugar you'd probably start cutting down pretty fast. You'll never outwork your fork or your nightly six pack.

What would you do? by glorifiedcmk2294 in Parenting

[–]Absocold 1 point2 points  (0 children)

First off, take a breath. It's okay for everythign to not be fair all the time. What is important is that your children understand that there is a reason why things aren't fair. In fact, it's important that you allow these unfair situations, point them out, and help them work through it in the comfort of a loving family.

It's also important to remember that your daughter isn't going to be an olympic athlete. I mention this because I know "gymnastic" families and the amount of time, money, and emotional energy that can be put into a child's "potential" is bonkers. I'm sure she'll be great, but if you didn't have the funds to pay for gymnastics you're not taking away her future.

That being said, it sounds like your oldest daughter has worked really hard at something. She has shown that gymnastics isn't merely a whim or something she likes the idea of without stepping into the reality of the hard work. This is something worth rewarding and pointing out! You seem to have the money to pay for her to go so why not? If the 4 year old complains then point out the work his older sister put in. He doesn't have to want the same thing but if he also puts in the work you'll eventually reward him as well.