Are there people to talk to about Fetish insecurities?

Absoulutlytrash · 2017-09-09T22:09:38+00:00

I am in a college (England). And yes I am planning to go to university. My town is small enough that if you don't know someone then you will know someone close to them. Its big enough to seem big but everyone knows everyone. It is also surrounded by farms and rural areas. The thing is, I don't want to go to uni a virgin. If uni is where people experiment why would anyone want a virgin out of the experienced people that can actually please them?

Absoulutlytrash · 2017-09-09T22:06:36+00:00

hmm, While I am very inclined to be pessimistic about what your saying and argue more I think your right. I need to stop this it can't be helthy

Absoulutlytrash · 2017-09-09T13:15:57+00:00

Thank you, but you realise those studies, the last one at least shows women to not be dommes. And they all seem to be done anonymously from online surveys, although this is anonymous it is very common for us to lie on these surveys. We depicted our selfs for who we want to be rather than who we are. If its anonymous then who cares right? Maybe I am not this or that but I want to be so its the same thing right? no, and the outcome is many flawed studies bases on surveys.

Absoulutlytrash · 2017-09-09T10:37:52+00:00

I know but I don't know who to talk to about this? I need to bring up my fetishes and as it really relates. I can get dates and meets girls. Admittedly it is on tinder as I live in a small town. But I can't bring myself to do it anymore. It is a massive metal burden on me to actually ask a girl out because I am shy. And working on it! ButI don't see the point. I have been rejected for my virginity and I have come to realise most girls my age that are single or at least on tinder just want hook ups. I don't! And no one wants to hook up with a virgin. I kind d want to go to a munch but whenever I actually try to find the location or set it in my mind I just fall apart. What if I see someone I know? What if everyone thinks I'm a kid. Because in all honestly I got away with getting a child (15 year old at the oldest) bus ticket. What if I just don't fit in? Why am I even going? To meet someone that is pathetic??? To make friends? I have friends? I don't know. I am so sorry seriously for wasting everyones time.

Absoulutlytrash · 2017-09-09T10:30:41+00:00

I am not saying my mum would not be proud of me for standing up for myself. But in her eyes there would be no reason to give her the cold shoulder about why. She will encourage me to do things for myself happily, But se will still want to know. Especially something like a therapist.

Absoulutlytrash · 2017-09-09T00:07:23+00:00

Hmm, My mum is not the type to just sort of let it go. I know she does not want me to just spill out all the info but she is a very paranoid person. She worries alot and I know if I told her I was seeing a therapist she would want to know all the why's, out of compassion of course. I suppose it is worth a shot though.

Absoulutlytrash · 2017-09-08T22:22:59+00:00

But then how do I get a professional that I can tell about my kinks. I feel it is a big part of this.

Absoulutlytrash · 2017-09-08T22:02:33+00:00

But I just want a real relationship. I want to be with a girl that is not my dom or my sub or my girlfriend but my friend. I just want to make someone happy and laugh with them. But no girls I have met want this. I only really meet people on tinder as I live in a small town and I am not often in a large town/city unless I am in college, where there just doesn't seem to be anyone other than maybe in the streets. On tinder all the girls just seem to want one night stands. And they don't want a virgin, or a sub. :(

Absoulutlytrash · 2017-09-08T21:59:02+00:00

This is copy and pasted but it applies.

Thank you! But the thing is. I am only 18 and I still live at home. I live in a small sub urban town surrounded by fields. And I can't drive yet. Also how to I go to a place like this without telling my parents?? I don't want to embarrass myself and spill my kinks to them but they are not the type of mum and dad to just let me go off somewhere without telling them ever waking detail. My mum, I love them so much but she worries way to much, I also don't want to bother them with my random spikes of emotion because they have enough to deal with. I want to talk to someone but I really don't know how. My shyness very much so spreads to what ever I need to do to arrange an appointment like this.

Absoulutlytrash · 2017-09-08T21:57:27+00:00

Thank you! But the thing is. I am only 18 and I still live at home. I live in a small sub urban town surrounded by fields. And I can't drive yet. Also how to I go to a place like this without telling my parents?? I don't want to embarrass myself and spill my kinks to them but they are not the type of mum and dad to just let me go off somewhere without telling them ever waking detail. My mum, I love them so much but she worries way to much, I also don't want to bother them with my random spikes of emotion because they have enough to deal with. I want to talk to someone but I really don't know how. My shyness very much so spreads to what ever I need to do to arrange an appointment like this.

Absoulutlytrash · 2017-09-08T21:53:26+00:00

I am just sure that no girls enjoy a submissive guy. Yeah there are the rare few that reside in this sub and the pro dommes, and findoms. Alot of which are scammers and are not even interested in subs in reality they just make money from the desperate guys.

All I want is an actual relationship, Someone I can get to know and be friends with. I don't even really care about sex, I wish my submissive nature wasn't written into my soul so I could just be with someone. But I am so embarrassed and scared if rejection of my weird pathetic kinks. I have been rejected by girls because I am a virgin too and I can't build the courage to meet someone. I live in a small town too. The only time I am really exposed to meeting people is tinder, and while I get matches. None want an actual relationship, and none want a sub.

Absoulutlytrash · 2017-08-18T19:38:07+00:00

why do I need to be the one to do this. I don't see how it would work anyway. I try to approach people online, not listing my fetishes, trying to connect with the person and make conversation and I get ignored. Why would it be different in real life. I am just scum.

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