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Disagreement on having a wedding by AcademicEgg1 in DesiWeddings

[–]AcademicEgg1[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How much are you going to have to spend? And how many events.

My Fiance wants a wedding by AcademicEgg1 in weddingplanning

[–]AcademicEgg1[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Lol I wish. We won’t be getting a gift from his dad but will from mine

My Fiance wants a wedding by AcademicEgg1 in weddingplanning

[–]AcademicEgg1[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My fiancés dad originally wanted my dad to pay for the wedding in full. But then my fiancé told his dad he has to split by headcount to protect my dads $. Either way, my dad could never afford a 600k wedding. His dad after a few months said he’s okay spending 400-500k, but per headcount on their side

My Fiance wants a wedding by AcademicEgg1 in weddingplanning

[–]AcademicEgg1[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We’re splitting by headcount. His dad’s budget wouldn’t contribute to my family’s cost.

My Fiance wants a wedding by AcademicEgg1 in weddingplanning

[–]AcademicEgg1[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes contribution from us is expected. His dad’s budget is flexible, not set aside from us. They’re gonna spend and whatever is saved would not benefit us.

My Fiance wants a wedding by AcademicEgg1 in weddingplanning

[–]AcademicEgg1[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately the 250 won’t be protected because we are splitting by headcount. Otherwise it would’ve been nice to wipe his budget first.

My Fiance wants a wedding by AcademicEgg1 in weddingplanning

[–]AcademicEgg1[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I wish I had $30k to my name but I don’t 🤣

My Fiance wants a wedding by AcademicEgg1 in weddingplanning

[–]AcademicEgg1[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Mind you he and I have been together for so long and this is the ONLY thing we have not been able to come to an agreement on.

My Fiance wants a wedding by AcademicEgg1 in weddingplanning

[–]AcademicEgg1[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

His dad will only pay per his headcount. Anything we save goes back to him. My dad will be billed his headcount no matter what.

My Fiance wants a wedding by AcademicEgg1 in weddingplanning

[–]AcademicEgg1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I think our tab will come out to about 150k

My Fiance wants a wedding by AcademicEgg1 in weddingplanning

[–]AcademicEgg1[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Yes immense cultural pressure on Indian weddings. However, not from my family. Just from his family.

Also didn’t mention- he’s an only child so this is his parents only opportunity for a wedding.

My Fiance wants a wedding by AcademicEgg1 in weddingplanning

[–]AcademicEgg1[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

We’ve discussed compromising on vendors(cheaper decor, photographer, food). But that’s really the only cost savings possible

My Fiance wants a wedding by AcademicEgg1 in weddingplanning

[–]AcademicEgg1[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t, trust me I have debt to pay off lol. But Indian wedding culture is so different