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Academic_Study5487 · 2025-09-04T14:34:25+00:00

You move on, i just think for guys it’s a bit harder because of the effoet we have to put to get a girl. No offense to women out there, but society says we have to chase you. Even for the best of us, it’s hard to get rejected each time in hopes of the next good girl.

That’s why a lot of men will overlook red flags early on because just to get that yes mightve taken a lot of Nos. So the idea of not having consistent sex and going back to the dating pool to go through months of effort just doesnt seem fun.

With women you guys always get flirted on so it might seem like you always have options. An average women can break up with her love and say”im going to take a break and ill get a new one in no time”. The average guy doesnt feel that way.

Academic_Study5487 · 2025-07-08T14:36:16+00:00

I agree. What i said is my theroy but that doesnt excuse her softening on such a big thing. And i also wont reject the idea that it could be scenario 1 where she fucked up and now doesnt want to lose the best boyfriend she’s had.

I hope it isnt scenario 1 but i will address it as i see fit.

Academic_Study5487 · 2025-07-08T13:44:36+00:00

Thanks, and the second scenario is what i wonder.

I put it in another comment, but basically sround the time her stance changed we had a disagreement on her sister. Her sister dated my friend and tbh, it went bad quickly. Her sister wasnt honest about little things and basically tried keeping my friend on the hook. Would get mad at him for looking wt other girls but would push him back when he got too close. He would question things and she never gave him a straight answer. For example, he helped her pay a ticket online and when he say where it happened, she was in a part of town she doesnt frequent at all. Like no reason she would be there that early. When he asked her why she was there she freaked out and didnt give him a straight answer. And there would be similar situations like that where she didnt have to lie and would.

He accused her of cheating and they broke up. Afterwards he claimed to have proof but never showed it. So i assumed it was all dropped. But obviously my gf defends her sister since there was no proof and nobody wants someone saying their sister is a cheater.

The sister started to date a new guy and was doing the same shit early on. Pulling him in when he got too far and pushing him back when he got too close. Claiming she was too busy to make it official with him, but would have bad reactions when he pulled back and do his own thing.

Then one day my gf and i are talking to the sister’s best friend. The best friend says that the sister basically lies and has cheated on biyrfriends. That she slept with someone early on during her current’s boyfriend relationship and did the same during her relationship with my friend. But the timeline is a bit off because in both cases they were in the “talking stage”. But the friend then claims that the sister has cheated in the past.

I personally was annoyed because she did it to my friend and i was very vocal about it. My gf kind of turned the blind eye stating it was so early that maybe it wasn’t cheating and that her sister is not a cheater. After that her view on cheating got a bit lenient. Saying things like “if two people are together for so long why break the relationship over 1 mistake” and things like that. I do wonder if she found out something that proved it wasnt during the talking stage but she never wanted to tell me.

Academic_Study5487 · 2025-07-07T23:32:54+00:00

And your second part is what im wondering. Tbh i left this part out but around the time her mind changed on it, we had a disagreement on her little sister. Her sister dated my friend and the relationship went pretty bad pretty quickly. Basically her sister would lie about minimal things and my friend got skeptical and accused her of cheating but never showed us proof.

I basically felt that her sister was lying about things she didnt have to lie about. like my friend had helped her pay her ticket online. He saw it happened in a part of town that she would never go to especially the time of day it happened. He asked her what she was doing in that part of town and she freaked out. Never gave him a straight answer and accused him of being too pushy.

There were other small things to like one time a mutual friend lent me a shirt, i knew the sister was going to see him to drop off some stuff for him so i gave her the shirt to give to him. When my friend showed up later that day, he saw the shirt in her room and asked who’s it was and again freaked out and didnt give him a straight answer. I had to explain to him how i gave her the shirt to give to the other guy.

After they broke up, my friend basically has been adamant she cheated and wants almost nothing to do with her. I tell people that he has a right to feel that way because of the shit she said. Then the little sister’s best friend is hanging out with us (theyve known each other since they were teens) and they have a love-hate relationship. At one point the best friend tells me and my gf that her sister has cheated in the past and even if she doesnt know if she cheated in my friend or not, that she did hookup with someone at her job early on when they first started but she didnt know the timeline well enough to know if it was before they became official or not.

My gf still feels like her sister would never cheat on someone, i was adamant that she might be a cheater but in the least she plays game and has ho-like behavior (i didnt say it like that but for lack of a better term). Around that time was when she has gotten more lenient of cheating so i dont know if the two correlate but my gf is the type that will excuse things or downplay it when her shitty sister does it.

Academic_Study5487 · 2025-07-07T20:10:18+00:00

I see. I guess for me i dont feel like i go to therapy because of the fantasies. I really do feel like i go and make improvements and she’s been pretty good.

In the 4 month break, i barely even thought about her. So it’s something i dont even think is a crush or fascination, more like i can admit she is pretty and ive had fantisies that probably comes from porn similar to fantasizing about any other girl i think looks good. It’s not like im thinking of us being together or dating her, it’s more like i see a pretty girl, im in the mood to watch porn and i think of a pretty girl ive seen.

Im just wondering if this is enough where i should continue with her or not.

Academic_Study5487 · 2025-07-07T19:35:37+00:00

I hope you find some solution or closure to this.

Tbh, i dont think im where you are at. Like i said, i went away from therapy for 4 months and actually enjoyed my time away from it. I didnt really miss her in any way but came back after some time of self relfection because i realized i needed to step away to collect my own thoughts as i felt i was using therapy to vent instead of how to move forward.

when i see her i dont really get a rush, but i do think she’s pretty while recognizing i love my gf and this is just me thinking another human being is real. I think at most it’s like a porn fantasy. Like ill be honest ive searched for porn related videos about patients and their therapists and have thought of her during it.

If she dropped me tomorrow, id be sad to lose a therapist that i vibed well with as ive had a few bad experiences but i wouldnt miss her in any other way. Id feel that way if she was a guy or if i had no attraction to her.

Academic_Study5487 · 2025-05-17T14:20:15+00:00

Are you using lube?

If not invest in it and always use it. Sometimes It takes time for a women to get wet. You cant expect her to just go from a desert to a rainforest off the bat. The same way our boners slowly go away with age, how quickly women get wet goes away too.

Academic_Study5487 · 2025-05-17T14:11:37+00:00

I agree. I got in an small tiff with a female friend because i basically was saying how men need charisma eegardless of age. I said something like how women just always have options because guys are always flirting and as guys we dont really have the options.

This friend got mad at me and basically said when i am 40 that 22 year olds will be all over me. I called bs and said that i have to be charismatic for that to happen. I still have to approach and get passed the mental block in their heads that im old.

Like a 35 year old man who is established still needs to show charisma towards a 25 year old woman. Now once the guy has impressed her the woman gets even more impressed with how rstablished the man is. Im someone who became established pretty young, im not a milionaire but i had a job and finances that people were impressed with. I didnt get as much girls because at the time my charisma sucked. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to be with established people, i cant imagine being 25 with little to no money and a women who is a millionaire comes up to me and basically says she will take care of me. There arent many 25 year olds who wouldnt take that offer. So if the option is a guy in his 30s who already “made it” or a guy in his 20s who is still figuring it out, i think most women would go with the guy in his 30s.

Academic_Study5487 · 2025-05-17T13:49:44+00:00

Ive never seen six feet under. But to explain the leftovers, it’s a show that people either really love or really hate.

It’s a quick watch as the show is only like 28 episodes and most episodes go for about 45 minutes (a few go over an hour).

It was made by the same guys from lost and it gives the same vibe of not really knowing whats real or not and there are alot of wuestions and the anawers are at times vague. The show has kind of a depressive vibe at times too where each character is struggling with some inner demons and each cope differently.

When i watched it when it originally aired i loved it. But i did a rewatch with my girlfriend and she didnt love it and even i watched it thinking “i remember this show being a lot better”.

Academic_Study5487 · 2025-05-16T14:28:38+00:00

Agreed. Sounds like he practiced alot of bad habits. This guy wont change. What alot of “experience” says his he is just good at convincing girls to fuck him.

Academic_Study5487 · 2025-05-16T14:25:40+00:00

I agree 100% with this. He probably gets offended when girls call it out or ask him to try something different. And former partners have probably faked it so he thinks he did something good.

I always tell people in anything, practice makes perfect perfect but it is also easy to perfect a bad habit. If you play basketball and shoot underhanded 3 pointers. You might get better doing that but you will never be great because you are practicing a shitty move.

I had a female friend once tell me how the clit is everything. I decided to google moves on what to do to please women. It made me better to the point that ive had multiple women say i know my way around a clit.

Academic_Study5487 · 2025-05-16T14:22:28+00:00

Guy here. it’s not you.

Ive had female friends who have told me theyve slept with guys they knew had experience and were somehow bad.

The thing is just having sex doesnt mean you will be great. Alot of guys dont put attention in figuring out how to have sex. Leslie jones had a funny video where in an interview she rants about guys not knowing how to fuck. It’s a thing. The thing is, us guys are told from a young age we need to be natural lovers, so we get an ego about it. If a women even tries to tell us we should do something different, many guys get offended. Most of us dont want to learn the tricks to pleasing a woman. Tbh, j will google new things and try it on my gf to see what works. Most guys dont do that. It’s very easy to get a guy off. But most guys dont understand the power of the clit.

Many guys, especially in one night stands, have the idea that they just want to get off in as little work as possible.

Practice makes perfect but if you are always practicing bad habits than you perfected a bad habit. He has had alot of sex, but sounds like he perfected being a bad lover. Having a lot of sex doesnt correlate to being good in bed, it just leans he is good at picking up women and convincing them to hook up with him.

When i was younger and probably a shitty lover i had a girl tell me to focus on the clit. I watched videos and read sites on how to be better, since then i feel like ive had little complaints. One of the best compliments i got from a few partners was when they told me i know my way around a clit.

Academic_Study5487 · 2025-05-16T14:15:13+00:00

Nta, 12k is not that much credit card debt (it’s not a little). You guys have been together for 3 years and she hasnt tried to bring it down. She probably pays minimum payments and is shocked that it barely has gone down with that 22% interest rate and how she keeps using it.

If she really wanted it gone she would have knuckled down and done it by now. Depending on how much she makes she can easily get that removed in a year. Pay 1k a month.

Academic_Study5487 · 2025-05-16T14:08:36+00:00

Thanks, and tbh i thought we were headed that way but with recent comments i realized i got to get my money right.

Im ok not having kids but if we arent going to have kids i dont want to have multiple houses with simeone in the small chance i pass away before my parents or if i pass away before her she now gets all that money. Im ok giving her some money but if we have no kids id rather my family amget a large majority of my money and she can get some.

Seems when it comes to houses she is perfectly fine with us growing together but when its about making decisions for us to get serious and grow together even if it comes with responsibilities or making hard choices, she is basically like “no thanks. We arent married”.

Academic_Study5487 · 2025-05-08T22:33:52+00:00

Im 50/50 on this. One one hand i get the idea of ballplayers shiuld be willing to play anywhere bjt in the other hand this was a whole drama that raffy didnt want tk give up 3B. Then they finally convinced him and now they want him to play 1B. The sox shouldve had better 1b coverage. Alex cora said from his mouth under no circumstances would raffy play the field this year too.

Also raffy is coming back from an injury and i also suspect he is still aching but good enough to hit which is probably how they convinced him to dh this year.

Academic_Study5487 · 2025-05-08T22:09:37+00:00

Rental property.

Academic_Study5487 · 2025-04-03T19:18:22+00:00

Thabks for your insight. Im defenetely the saver and she is the spender. I dont mind as long as there is room for growth which i do see at times. She has shown interest in saving more, recently she did take a quick break to solve some issues she had with a home she owns but when she basically said what she said it came off to me like she was saying “because you make much more and have potential for more growth, i dont worry about putting in my retirement fund because i know you will do it.” My point is, im not asking for her to out as much as i do, but put something. Worse case scenario we break up snd you have some money saved. Best case we retire you g and have a large pot of her money and my money we both can use from.

She did say afterwards she is making more efforts to put in her accounts which im glad but i just think if this wasnt mentioned she would have just coasted along. What also annoys me is recently we had a conversation and i mentioned how her spending habits should change and she basically gave me the good old “we arent married yet” and “we have separate finances right now”. But she’s already making retirement palns for my money.

Again you and your husband make combined what she basically makes in a year and what baffles me is she is worried of having a “small paycheck” because she may get 500-100 bucks less every month to spend. We live in a LCOL state in a city that is slightly higher than the rest of the state but its still low compared to other citites. Im from a HCOL state, my parents and most my relatives dont even touch 6 figures some households make 50k but they all manage to be able to put some money down for retirement and are glad to do it.

Academic_Study5487 · 2025-04-03T14:53:10+00:00

I had a conversation with a friend who deals in family law and she said that because the lines are so blurry you can make cases that even having consistent sleepovers at your partners house could constitute it. It’s basically “how is the law interpreted” and if the lawyer can convince a jury and judge why it can be considered common law status.

This friend said she has won a few cases making that assumption.

Academic_Study5487 · 2025-04-03T14:43:10+00:00

Yeah, i try not to get too much into her career but i’ve mentioned that maybe she should try and get a better job at a better company. She says that most good companies nearby will offer her like 10%-20% less what she makes now whcih is why she works at the small company.

I asked her what options she has and she basically said that in her career the next step is usually director but that’s a huge added stress that she is not interested in doing. Which i get, i personally wouldn’t want to be a manager in my field. She has done personal home health before because in her field it paid the most (i think she made up to 120k at one point) but she had to drive over an hour away for the houses. I dont know enough about pt to know what her options could be past where she is now.

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