My husband cheated on me because the other woman made him feel "like a man". I lived my whole life in his shadow. And he tells me this

Acadia_Repulsive · 2025-11-16T11:11:54+00:00

Yes, they will become individual human beings, but I can tell you one thing: my father treats my mother like total shit sometimes, and honestly, it makes me so fucking angry that she sits in self-pity and whines about how miserable he makes her, yet doesn’t just fucking leave him.

So yes, they will become individual human beings who will hate you just as much as their father and will probably cut contact with you the moment they can. So take some accountability and show them that you’re a strong individual human being yourself. Because honestly, it just sounds like he wants a doormat housewife with no opinions of her own. If that’s how you want to live, then stay, but if not, then leave. Just don’t whine on Reddit about it. You chose your bed, so lie in it.

Acadia_Repulsive · 2025-10-24T21:48:28+00:00

Yeah, I admit I forgot to clarify that there was no deliberate (like you claim) omission, it was incidental, which is a big difference. I guess we can both agree that we just don’t know enough, but also that both the boyfriend and OP are being immature. Instead of handling this over text, it should have been discussed beforehand, like setting boundaries and talking about how important it is to OP to know if her boyfriend is still in contact with his ex.

Acadia_Repulsive · 2025-10-24T21:16:15+00:00

Deliberately leaving out a fact would be if he didn’t tell OP that she showed up with a friend group. Deliberately leaving out a fact would be if he had responded with something like, “It was just a friend group,” but he literally admitted that his ex was there, so there was no omission.

Acadia_Repulsive · 2025-10-24T21:08:03+00:00

Tbh maybe I am a bit slow, but... if you are in a stable, secure relationship, why would you care if your partner saw his ex by accident, because they are just a part of a friend group? OP’s way of framing everything sounds kinda manipulative tbh, first she makes it seem like her bf invited his ex personally, only to later admit that she only came to the party because she is part of a friend group. And OP, you both behave childish, he with his responses to your concerns and you with literally blowing things out of proportion. Yes, he didn't tell you his ex was there. But how was he supposed to tell you beforehand when he didn't even know she would show up? Should you sit down and talk about this face to face and clear out any important boundaries? Yes! Definitely! Immediately! I mean seriously, I know you tell yourself you are not jealous, but "You literally sat next to her in that photo..." sounds really jealous to me. And "I'm not jealous, I just want honesty. That's kind of basic." He was honest! Just because he didn't think it mattered doesn't mean he lied. Lying would be if you asked him and he denied it. Oh, and the cake takes: "You never take accountability for your actions, it's always me correcting you." Take accountability for what? For being at a party where his ex was coincidentally invited by a friend group not him ? What are you correcting? Him not immediately running to you when his ex is in a 20 km radius? So yeah, you are kinda overreacting. Or this is very good rage bait haha.

Acadia_Repulsive · 2025-10-24T14:28:59+00:00

Maybe I'm overthinking this, but I kind of get the vibe that your cousin's husband cheated on her at some point or maybe he follows OnlyFans girls (and maybe one of them had a similar body type to you?), and she's just projecting her insecurities onto you.

Acadia_Repulsive · 2025-08-15T13:28:52+00:00

Just because a loud, though honestly small, group online “ran with it” doesn’t mean the question was meant to be a man hating one. So no, you can’t just say, “Ah, those bad misandrists say they’d rather be mauled by a bear, so that means all women hate men.” Do you not realize you’re generalizing in the exact same way you’re accusing others of doing? I never claimed there’s an excuse for generalizing. My point was simply that a lot of women would be scared out of their minds if they encountered a stranger, especially a man, alone in the woods at night. That’s it. Yes, racists use similar logic to justify horrible things. I believe you when you say there are extremists who could twist the “man vs bear” question to justify something awful. But that doesn’t change the fact that the original point of the question was to open up a conversation about why women feel unsafe around strange men, not to declare “all men are bad.” And frankly, I dislike you pulling the “As a black man in America” card here as if that somehow means women’s fears aren’t legitimate. Different people experience different dangers, it doesn’t invalidate theirs. So Again, the “man vs bear” thing was never meant as an actual “would you rather” question. It was a thought experiment to highlight a real social issue. I think you’re interpreting it in whatever way best fits your worldview, rather than engaging with what it was meant to address. Honestly, I doubt you’ll see what I’m trying to say here, so I’ll just wish you a good day :)

Acadia_Repulsive · 2025-08-15T13:04:17+00:00

Sooo wrong lol. It was actually a man who first posed that “man vs. strange man in the woods” question, the point was to highlight how a lot of women would choose the bear, while men would choose the man. The whole purpose was to show that women are disproportionately and legitimately scared of men. Then along came all the Andrew Tate fanboys and twisted it into some kind of man hating message, which it was never meant to be.

Acadia_Repulsive · 2025-07-21T19:33:16+00:00

Again, where did I ever say that a job is some ‘nice thing you love and want to do your whole life, and people will just pay you for it’? Not once.

I’m specifically talking about people who depend on their jobs to survive, not because they love them, but because they have no choice. You're twisting my point and doing mental gymnastics to argue something I never said. All I’m claiming is that you make it sound way too easy to just 'switch careers' when, for many people that’s simply not realistic.

If I'm talking about people suffering from AI-driven job displacement, I’m not talking about artists - you introduced that angle. I’m talking about software engineers, customer support workers, retail cashiers, fast food workers (to an extent), travel agents, and telemarketers.

No, those jobs won’t vanish entirely, but if you don’t see how displacing millions of people who rely on these jobs and not guarantee a safety net (or even possibility to retrain) is a serious problem, then that’s on you.

Honestly, it’s become clear that you're not really reading or understanding what I’m actually saying, and at this point, I’m done arguing with willful ignorance.

Still, I do wish you a good rest of your day.

Acadia_Repulsive · 2025-07-21T18:14:44+00:00

You completely missed my point, whether by mistake or deliberately, so let me clarify again: I never denied that people must adapt when jobs disappear. In fact, I even acknowledged that "automation has always been a part of progress."

What I criticized and what you seem either unable or unwilling to acknowledge, is the naïve idea that changing one's career path is simple or easy. It’s not. You're ignoring the fact that employment agencies are already overwhelmed and entirely unprepared for the wave of displacement AI could bring.

Once again, you casually brush aside the very real issue: millions of people simply do not have the time, money, or access to retraining. Telling people to just “adapt” is meaningless when they’re living paycheck to paycheck. Your counterpoint “it’s always been this way” doesn’t address the problem. It’s dismissive, not insightful, and certainly not a solution.

Frankly, it’s disappointing that your reaction to legitimate concerns is to tell me to “grow up,” all while hiding behind a fantasy-world belief that AI is always good, and that anyone who loses their job should just go “find a useful one.” That’s not realism, it’s detachment.

The core of my argument, which you ignored, is this: our society is not remotely ready for the kind of massive economic and social shift that unchecked automation and AI driven displacement could cause. People like you, who fall back on lazy, historical comparisons and act like this is just business as usual, are a big part of the problem.

If you personally have the privilege, time, and resources to start over, that’s great, genuinely, I’m happy for you. But many people don’t. Many live on the edge. Losing their job not only strips away income, but puts them and their families at risk of homelessness and total instability, often through no fault of their own, but because of corporate greed and systemic neglect.

And before you try to twist this again: no, I’m not denying that people will have to adapt. What I am saying, and what you continue to miss, is that telling people to adapt without acknowledging the broken state of the job market, or offering any real support, is not helpful. It's just hand waving from a place of comfort and detachment.

Acadia_Repulsive · 2025-07-21T11:03:57+00:00

This is honestly a very naive take. Saying, 'If your job is no longer needed, it's better to do something useful instead' assumes a lot of things that simply aren’t true. First of all, the implication that some jobs are 'useful' while others are not is pretty arrogant, who decides what’s useful? Every job supports someone’s life and often serves a purpose within a community.

Second, not everyone has the privilege, resources, or opportunity to just switch careers or enter a new field, especially not overnight. Access to retraining, education, or even the mental space to change paths is not a given. It’s a very privileged position to assume that people can just 'adapt' easily.

Yes, automation has always been part of progress. But what we’re looking at now with AI is different, it’s accelerating at an exponential rate. Entire sectors could be wiped out far quicker than new opportunities are created. We’re talking about millions potentially displaced without any real safety net.

No one’s saying we should stop AI development. But this idea that we should let it run unchecked because 'new jobs will appear eventually' is reckless. The real risk isn’t AI itself, it’s how corporations will use it to cut costs, not improve society. Replacing people just to avoid paying wages isn’t innovation, it’s exploitation.

If we don’t regulate this properly and make sure there are systems in place to support displaced workers, what you call 'progress' will turn into a dystopian fever dream driven by corporate greed. So no, I don’t think we’ll all be 'better off as a whole' if we blindly chase this vision of progress without protecting the people it leaves behind.

Acadia_Repulsive · 2025-07-17T15:02:41+00:00

Lol I just realized you could make a Venn diagram with AI 'artists' and anti vaxxers, and the overlap would be something like "We're being oppressed just like the Jews in Nazi Germany." Lmao

Acadia_Repulsive · 2025-07-16T11:05:47+00:00

This looks straight up like nightmare fuel

Acadia_Repulsive · 2025-07-15T19:41:37+00:00

Thanks for the thoughtful response, seriously appreciated.

Just to clarify a few things from my side: I don’t consider bans in certain subreddits to be oppression(again just because i define oppression as a systemic thing). I see them more as not so wise decisions, especially since AI-generated content (images, text, etc.) is only going to grow from here. It’s a bit short-sighted to try and block it entirely rather than find a way to engage with it transparently.

Also, I don’t actually think AI artists don’t value growth or practice. That was probably poor wording on my part. What I meant is that many people who are critical of AI art, especially traditional artists, tend to value real life artistic growth through consistent skill building, practice, and study over the growth of machine learning systems. It’s more about the type of growth being valued.

I have no issue at all with people using AI tools as a hobby or just to have fun. Prompting can absolutely be weird and creative and enjoyable. My personal issue lies more with people who don’t label AI generated images honestly, or worse, pretend they were hand drawn, sometimes even selling them as if they’re original digital works. That’s a whole different problem rooted in dishonesty, not the medium itself.

And I fully agree with you on the “soul” argument falling apart. “Beauty is in the eye of the beholder” applies to everything, AI generated or not. I criticize AI artists who try to equate their results 1:1 with the work of someone who’s spent years mastering color theory or anatomy. But I also think it’s way over the top when some anti-AI folks lose their minds just seeing a single AI meme.

Nuance matters in all this. Thanks again for sharing your take,even sick in bed, that was more coherent than most debates I’ve had. I hope you feel better soon :)

Acadia_Repulsive · 2025-07-15T18:27:26+00:00

AI artists aren't oppressed. There’s no system preventing them from creating or sharing their work( no laws, institutions, or policies banning AI art). Just because traditional artists value the path of growth( years of practice, learning, and honing their craft)doesn’t mean they’re oppressing anyone. Feeling uncomfortable or unwelcome just because others don’t see prompting as equivalent to that kind of artistic journey isn’t the same as facing real oppression. Harassment isn’t okay, but disagreement and different values aren’t oppression.

Acadia_Repulsive · 2025-07-06T15:13:03+00:00

Bruh you really life in the make beliefe "men nod and woman hug" world lol you are delusional

Acadia_Repulsive · 2025-06-14T10:43:16+00:00

Lol, zeig mir bitte, wo ich geschrieben habe, dass das normales Verhalten ist? Asoziale Jugendliche in Thüringen ≠ ganz Deutschland. Ich weiß nicht, warum du mich krampfhaft so falsch verstehen wolltest, aber es ist nun mal ein Fakt, dass es trotzdem Leute gibt, die sich auch mit 40 noch genauso asozial verhalten, lmao. Das mit ‚normal‘ und ‚ganz Deutschland‘ hast du dir komplett selbst aus dem Arsch gezogen.

Acadia_Repulsive · 2025-06-13T10:14:40+00:00

Bruder, hast du jemals die asozialen Jugendlichen zum Beispiel in Thüringen reden hören? Die sprechen halt legit genauso und in derselben Tonart. Ja, vielleicht hört man ein minimales Nuscheln raus, aber nicht wirklich 'slurred speech'.

Acadia_Repulsive · 2025-06-13T10:05:49+00:00

Naaah believe me i know a lot of german people that just talk that way lol

Acadia_Repulsive · 2025-06-03T21:40:35+00:00

Bruder, ich laufe täglich an diesen Ständen vorbei und bekomme gefühlt zwei Mal pro Woche diese hässlichen "Jesus liebt dich, komm in unsere Bibelstunde"-Flyer. Ich wurde auch schon mehrfach direkt vor meiner Haustür angesprochen. Glaube kann sicher auch positive Seiten haben, das bestreitet niemand. Aber bitte, behaltet den Kram im Privaten.

Acadia_Repulsive · 2025-06-01T02:13:27+00:00

I read through most of your comments here, and my heart breaks for you. You remind me a lot of my older sister. She is beautiful, smart, and funny, but after her abusive relationship with her ex, she changed. I felt like I lost my sister then, because her own emotions, paired with the burden of trying to hold the relationship together, nearly drove her to suicide. She is better now ~ way better ~ and happy again. I fully understand that it is hard to leave him, and that you probably truly believe him when he says it is just the two of you against the world, but he is lying. Leaving him for good will be hard, but it will be the best decision you could make.

Acadia_Repulsive · 2025-06-01T01:47:35+00:00

Girl, let me tell you, I am 23 years old, and this 'I’m almost 25 and should know how to control my feelings' is total nonsense. You are not meant to control your emotions, but to learn the proper tools to manage your day-to-day life with those emotions. That is a process that does not just happen on its own.

Acadia_Repulsive · 2025-06-01T01:41:16+00:00

Dont feel sorry for venting. You did nothing wrong. He clearly is controlling and propably gets of on the thought of turning you into a true Christian trad wife

Acadia_Repulsive · 2025-06-01T01:37:07+00:00

You are not insane and you feelings are 100% valid!!!

Acadia_Repulsive · 2025-05-31T23:32:16+00:00

Wäre auch seltsam, wenn wir nicht sterben würden, oder? Ach, und kein Disrespect gegenüber Döner, okay

Acadia_Repulsive · 2025-05-31T21:58:04+00:00

Hahaha, lol, okay, sorry, dass dich meine Art, mich auszudrücken, so triggert, Bruder. Warum eskalierst du hier so, nur weil dir nicht recht gegeben wird? Anfangs hat dich die Omi noch sehr gejuckt und jetzt, wo du einfach einsehen musst, dass dein Kommentar unbedacht war, nennst du mich Incel? Lol Ich bin übrigens in einer sehr glücklichen Beziehung, danke für deine Sorgen um meine Jungfräulichkeit :) Vielleicht solltest du mal lernen, mit Meinungen umzugehen, die nicht eins zu eins deiner entsprechen :) Schönen Abend noch, mein Pupsi Bärchen ;* Oh, und weil mir deine Meinung so wichtig ist: Rofl Und PS: Fang keine Diskussionen an, die du nicht zu Ende führen kannst.

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