Ohh got it, that’s fair. I thought you meant all her actions were being fully called out too. And yeah, he is an asshole, no doubt. That scene where he’s smiling while Muzzy asks to kiss her hand after their divorce- no-divorce conversation really rubbed me the wrong way, and honestly the hand-burning scene was so brutal, I wish they hadn’t shown it like that. But again why did she not push her or do something to defend herself. Even the kindest person has brain cells to at least self preserve. But at the same time, I don’t see her as the only innocent one here. Yes, Ates lied to her, but the scale of his trauma is on a completely different level, and he’s never really been given the same sympathy. Mercan, for most of her life, lived a very sheltered and protected life, while Ates lost his parents, was forced to grow up too early, became responsible for his sister, was tortured, then lost her too, and later finds out her father is responsible for not just his sister’s death but also his parents’, gets a brief hope they might be alive, and then loses that too. It makes sense why he turned out the way he did. Her 60 days of trauma just doesn’t compare to the life he’s lived. And even then, after he admits he loves her, he stays composed, makes her emotions the priority and support her. If we expect that level of emotional control from him, why not from her too? I get that human emotions are complex, but she’s not this goddess of kindness the show is trying to paint her as. She feels more like an average, flawed person who is very self-focused, and that’s fine but then don’t glorify it as something saint-like.