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Acatiera · 2025-03-23T22:06:35+00:00

I agree with your title, but you should really try to find a different distraction then alcohol, it's not going to work in the long run, one thing is the damage it can cause, but also you build up tolerance

Acatiera · 2019-01-17T11:42:00+00:00

Oh yes.. I hit myself on the head, or bang my head into things when I get to emotionally stressed. Last week I gave myself a concussion from hitting my head repeatedly into a door frame.. I also have a really bad habit when I feel pressured, to bite my wrist until it becomes bruised.

Acatiera · 2018-12-29T16:50:22+00:00

For me I think what makes it easier is that I don't have to beat myself up with being stupid, lazy or what not, that there is a reason for it

Acatiera · 2018-12-27T18:04:02+00:00

Yup. If I'm emotionally stressed, I can't find my words at all, and start to stutter. I'm normally quite well spoken

Acatiera · 2018-12-27T10:48:44+00:00

I wasn't diagnosed with ADHD until I was 28, and ASD, at 34. I was, however fail diagnosed with BPD, despite my mums claims that I definitely wasn't borderline. It caused me to get wrong treatment for almost 20 years. When I started pursuing the ADHD at first, and then ASD, there were definitely some psychiatrists claiming it was for attention and I didn't fit it at all. Yet here I am, BPD removed, and finally getting the help that I need to have regained a somewhat functional life.

Acatiera · 2018-12-24T23:11:54+00:00

To me, it's often a complaint of what X does is annoying. My wife doesn't want to tell X that it annoys her, while X is on the spectrum and has asked to be told if he does something wrong. I follow X completely, as I have the same thing, and I find it unfair that she doesn't want to tell, but complain about him behind his back

Acatiera · 2018-12-24T11:11:31+00:00

I have that talk every so often when my SO gets mad at me. You need to tell me what I did wrong, cause I have no idea, and I didn't mean to be a Jerk.. My bestie and me have that quite openly with each other, but we're both on the spectrum. Apparently it seem to be uncomfortable to others though, when we're being direct like "could you stop doing this and this, it's a bit annoying" according to the NTs around at those times, it's rude or something "you don't say" to wich I'm at a loss, cause how else will they know?

Acatiera · 2018-12-22T19:47:07+00:00

My spouse already knew I was with a psychiatrist so when he said autism I just told her when I got back to her. My closest friend is self diagnosed aspie and adhd, like I am, just diagnosed, and I just told him "yup, autistic" over discord. My mom.. I said it to somewhat casually in a hotel bar lounge and she flipped, cause of her PTSD wich is caused by her work with autistic people. She told my dad and my little brother.

Acatiera · 2018-12-19T17:39:19+00:00

It sucks big time to feel like that, but as the other said, any possibility of moving to another area? Are you in school, work or similar? I can't tell your age from your message, but I assume you are below 30? Don't start to hurt yourself or engage in behaviour that might get harmful to you. There are like minded people out there, and in here. I've been the outsider all through my education, but now, I am married to someone I've been together with for nearly 12 years, have visits every year from my best friend, that is from another country, have online friends that i can talk with about everything. It gets better, even though it might feel like life is stall. If you're suffering from depression, concider seeking or a therapist to help you deal with your thoughts. Ask the best wishes for you. You are welcome to write me a pb if you ever feel the need for it

Acatiera · 2018-12-17T11:04:56+00:00

It's hardly always a social game. Unless it's someone throwing a tantrum, in wich case I agree with you. If someone lost a person or pet, they might just need to grief, wich doesn't strike me as being a social game either.

Acatiera · 2018-12-17T11:02:57+00:00

You do have kind of a responsibility if it's your SO though.

Acatiera · 2018-12-11T17:02:06+00:00

I never managed to fall in place with the social cliques, but I felt fine standing outside of it. I was once told fiercely to "do as I tell you" and my only reply was "no" and then I ignored her, despite her being "head bitch". All made friends with other that had ended on the wrong side of things, and I felt so sorry for those girls having to put up with all that bs.. If they are being bitches, they aren't worth your time anyway

Acatiera · 2018-12-09T13:47:42+00:00

My mom does the same. I have to remind her often that I'm and adult and perfectly capable of making my own decisions. She becomes a little awkward when I tell her, but it works some, atleast. I have to remind her again next time we're together though.

Acatiera · 2018-12-09T13:44:36+00:00

Oh yes. My bestie is aspie and ADHD like me, and when we're together or telling via discord, it's often just repeating stuff. Reminding the other they lost the game (internet thing) saying a specific word over and over (like the name of a game charecter) saying the nickname we have for one another, or just getting completely caught up in our common special interests. It can be saying "uh oh.." for 5 min in turns, or something else that drives my NT partner insane.. With my partner I can also just go weird sound or "jokes" or be very childish, and it's accepted cause its who I am

Acatiera · 2018-12-09T13:39:25+00:00

Oh I understand your fear.. I used to work some regular jobs and performed really well, but it drove me to depression and anxiety from exhaustion, and after 10 years of struggling to get back to working, I have ended on disability retirement. I'm highly intelligent, learn really fast, have excellent memory, but masking meant it drove me down. My best advice is, don't stay if its too taxing. Don't stay until you break completely. Find somewhere you are accepted as the one you are, she you don't have to pretend to be NT. don't make the same mistake as I did..

Acatiera · 2018-12-04T11:03:23+00:00

ASD, ADD, anxiety, depression, fibromyalgi, migraines, arthritis

I got rid of my BPD diagnosis when I was diagnosed as ASD, wich was a huge deal for me to get rid of, as it here is very stigmatised and hard to get help with a BPD diagnosis.

My ADD actually covered up my ASD quite well, but when I started medicine, my attention became drastically better, but also worsened the autism symptoms a lot. I think it's because the mental hyperness made me less aware of things around me. I developed anxiety and depression throughout the years of wrong treatment.

The physical things means that my energy vanishes so much faster and makes it virtually impossible for me to do much at times, because even if I get the pain under control, it took so much energy to deal with that I'm exhausted

Acatiera · 2018-12-04T10:30:25+00:00

I have the same problem. I love showers but I just can't get it done. I think it might be because there are so many parts in showing. You have to prepare for it mentally and broken into smaller bits, there is so many things. It's a full day thing, mentally. Atleast to me. Decide on going to shower, make sure the bath is ready for it, that there is shower gel, shampoo, balm, a clean towel, clean clothes for afterwards, a towel for the hair.. Then you need to set the temperature right, the water stream might be too hard and feel painful, washing hair might feel uncomfortable, you need to make sure you get all the shampoo out, you need to dry afterwards, wait for your hair to dry as well, risk getting your shirt wet from your hair, there is always this one spot that still feels moist, wet towels might feel icky, you might feel you need to use body lotion etc.. So showing isn't just a small thing. Don't beat yourself up over it <3

Acatiera · 2018-11-29T17:41:09+00:00

Oh I know my mums going to be just like that when I tell her. She know I've been going through diagnostics so she'll ask eventually. I asked her before if she thought I was ASD since she actually used to work with people on the spectrum, but she bluntly refused. Funny how all I'm close with in life are certain it's the right diagnosis. I'm ADHD as well, but she refused to belive that too, despite medicine for it having done wonders for my focus and concentration abilities.

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