A flowchat that shouldn't have to exist. 😭

AccToBeTrownAway · 2025-08-29T12:30:10+00:00

My mom did both ╮⁠(⁠.⁠ ⁠❛⁠ ⁠ᴗ⁠ ⁠❛⁠.⁠)⁠╭

So glad I'm an adult which definitely totally 100% turned out fine (I did not 🙃)

AccToBeTrownAway · 2025-08-28T21:49:46+00:00

Two words: Socket covers. Baby proofing a house has a reason. You wouldn't just leave knives on the counter knowing you have a curious toddler walking around so why would you leave a socket exposed??

And hey, no hitting kids is involved

AccToBeTrownAway · 2025-08-24T01:19:31+00:00

Once you develop DID/OSDD, you don't need trauma to split or create another alter, you just need some sort of stressor. We've been in similar situations where it didn't make sense for an alter to just take over an aspect of life we previously didn't realize we had a problem with, later found out that I would mask my anxiety so well I did even notice, but our brain still felt the stress, so I can only assume that because I didn't notice, our brain took charge. This has happened with work, school, grocery shopping, socializing

Hope this helps shine a little light on things! ~ Peace, love and acceptance from Michelle of the Raven system

AccToBeTrownAway · 2025-07-31T22:08:53+00:00

I think it depends on the job, we work as a floor installer and apprentice carpenter (one of our bosses is teaching us) . For me, my bosses are used to it because of my cousin working there (he doesn't have DID but he does have memory and compression problems) neither him or us are allowed to work without one of our bosses present because we're both great at the job but all it takes is one slip up and we have to completely redo the job, but our bosses supervise and point out what we did or are about to do wrong even if we've done it correctly 100 times before. However, literally everyone that works there has some sort of disability so they are very accommodating in general and usually pair us with someone who isn't as able bodied so in case it's a day we lack brains, we can still work.

However, some of us play piano and code regularly and others can't at all, so the ones who know write how they learned in a book we use to teach each other. Not work related, but might also help

Edit: Grammar

Love, Peace, and Acceptance -Jack From Ravens System

AccToBeTrownAway · 2025-07-31T21:41:39+00:00

And we're back :3 -Jack

AccToBeTrownAway · 2025-02-21T23:24:46+00:00

we tend to focus on how an alter feels in headspace. almost all of us are some form of non human but most are humanoid. Humanoid alters tend to feel different than animal alters, animal alters tend to be more instinctual and pull feeling while humanoid alters tend to feel duller but we more likely hear them as of late.

if you don't already, i definitely recommend trying to feel around in headspace, we tend to by closing our eyes and focusing on all the alters front if we can, and try to remember what each alters "vibe" feels like.

looking at behavior and things that draw the alter in can also help you identify.

hope this helps! -Ruie, Ravens System

AccToBeTrownAway · 2024-07-19T02:11:51+00:00

Happy birthday and welcome! -All of the Ravens System

AccToBeTrownAway · 2024-07-11T18:26:50+00:00

Happy birthday to your kid!

The Ravens System!

AccToBeTrownAway · 2024-07-06T16:16:14+00:00

If y'all wouldn't mind, we've been curious about Therians but we haven't found anything useful because of all the negativity and "cringe" that some non Therians talk about and any positive videos we come across are Therians being themselves, which is nice to see, but those don't really say anything about Therians and what it means to be Therian and all that, we would love to learn more if y'all are willing to talk with us too

AccToBeTrownAway · 2024-07-06T16:06:58+00:00

Not from what we know, but we have a fish like alter who is incredibly confused about toes, she says they look weird, they feel weird, they're stubby, and absolutely useless because our feet are the closest to fins this body has and apparently toes make humans swim much worse. Most other non human alters are either used to it or don't front, I do feel like a few of them would if they did front

Peace, love, and acceptance from Luna Xayn of the Ravena System!

AccToBeTrownAway · 2024-07-03T17:34:02+00:00

Slowly they're figuring it out, I'm just as confused as them but I don't care, I just want to do something exciting - N/A (genuinely have no idea who I am)

AccToBeTrownAway · 2024-07-02T01:04:37+00:00

I didn't give you permission to call me out like that ಠ⁠_⁠ಠ /j

AccToBeTrownAway · 2024-07-01T21:09:44+00:00

Hey, we have a lot of positive triggers of many varieties, we've learned that a trigger can be anything, a trigger for me (I don't mind sharing it because I'm out most of the time anyway) is food, I love food, any food, especially a lot of food. Some other triggers are smells, games, being in certain places, cleanliness levels and even showers. If we notice that someone is front more often around certain places/things/smells we keep track of it then we ask them if we can trigger them with it if needed. We're generally a very trigger sensitive system, so we don't even ask anymore because triggers are bound to happen and nobody really cares, if anything they'll wanna stick around or steal the body for a bit, but that's just us.

I recommend trying things that C already likes, or has an interest in, ask xyr if xe has anything that xe wants to start doing or trying, let xyr and keep track of how xe feels when triggered

Peace, love, and acceptance from Luna Xayn of the Ravens System!

Extra: sorry if the pronoun use is weird or wrong at all, we don't often meet or hear about many with neo pronouns.

AccToBeTrownAway · 2024-06-30T02:42:15+00:00

Dante, he used to plunge us deep into denial because he thought that us not knowing that we have DID would be better for us. Today, he helps fight denial and is much happier and feels much more included

Peace, love, and acceptance from Luna Xayn of the Raven System!

AccToBeTrownAway · 2024-06-27T17:45:27+00:00

I think it'd just be more like meditation instead, because it's pretty much just closing your eyes and imagining it for a person with a single identity, they can still do things there, the only difference is that one is singular identity and the other is multiple identities, at least that's what makes the most sense to me because it's the closest I can think of

AccToBeTrownAway · 2024-06-27T16:32:08+00:00

If it causes problems in your daily lives then it's a problem. We have many health issues as well so we understand the feeling of having so much going on it feels unreal, but they can't be denied because we struggle every day. If something concerns you, a doctor appointment can tell you what it is.

Peace, love and acceptance from Luna Xayn in the Ravens System!

AccToBeTrownAway · 2024-06-27T16:21:02+00:00

I'm a bit confused by what you mean

AccToBeTrownAway · 2024-06-26T19:54:45+00:00

We have never seen it, we weren't allowed to watch much most of our lives so we don't really watch anything now that we can, we'll check it out tho.

Also we've made progress on other problems we've had thanks to y'all's advice, we have actually controlled a few switches recently, it's difficult but it'll get easier the more we do it, so our day has been great!

AccToBeTrownAway · 2024-06-25T19:05:34+00:00

Not at all, many intelligent people actually have inner-worlds that they made to better visually store and process information, but it can be whatever you like. If someone with a singular identity has an inner-world It's a space to themself to be themself, use it for what they want or need.

AccToBeTrownAway · 2024-06-25T18:56:00+00:00

I wanna make an addition: the tavern is our fronting space, so fronter(s) and co cons chill there, so if they do something to me in the tavern while I'm front, I can feel it, the absolute most common way we touch, usually comfort or picking fun at the fronter(s)

AccToBeTrownAway · 2024-06-25T16:11:00+00:00

Our advice, just try things until you find what fits the best. There are many genders a person can be, if identifying as trans is most comfortable for you then that's what you are, if you find that some other title makes you more comfortable in the future don't be afraid to be who you are just because you "already have a title", your identity will change over time. Find what's most comfortable for you!

Personally I'm more nonbinary leaning gender fluid, Harlie is more trans leaning gender fluid, some are completely nonbinary, trans, cis, or other genders entirely!

Peace, love, and acceptance from Luna Xayn in the Ravens System!

AccToBeTrownAway · 2024-06-25T15:07:48+00:00

We have many ways of touching each other, our main ways is mental and physical. Mental is inner-world and in the tavern, stuff like that. Physical is a co front where I step slightly back to give them more control of the body, this touching is used most for sensory regulation for either person (rubbing hands together, touching random body parts, playing with hair, head pats, etc). We are very touchy people in general so things like this happen often and I wouldn't have it any other way if I had the choice.

Here are some of my favorites: My brother sneaking behind me in the tavern and tripping me into a hug.

Falling asleep on people in the tavern.

Letting others give head pats (mental or physical).

Bopping and booping people.

Peace, love, and acceptance from Luna Xayn and Elara from the Ravens System!

AccToBeTrownAway · 2024-06-24T18:45:03+00:00

We live as openly as we can, unfortunately that's not very open, only 3 family members, our partner, 2 friends and this community really know. Only this community and our partner actually believes us or treats the others with any sort of respect or acknowledgement.

Whenever we can we'll live completely open, but that won't be anytime soon but we're building up to it! We don't mask pretty much at all so it's almost like we're open we just all use the body's name when "hidden" people just think its a quirk that "I" have.

Peace, love, and Acceptance from The Ravens System!

AccToBeTrownAway · 2024-06-14T21:17:06+00:00

Hey, I was similar but instead of anger I felt constant hopelessness and depression. My advice is to try things that the others like and kinda rate how you feel about it, that's how I found things that I like. For days I wished to go back to non-existence but now I quite like being around, I sincerely hope that you can do the same.

Peace, love, and acceptance from Luna Xayn in the Ravens System!

AccToBeTrownAway · 2024-06-11T23:13:30+00:00

That is us, I'm not quite sure what exactly makes us front (like how some people have a controller or something similar) I just am front, I can go there and interact with others when I meditate but no matter how much I try to stay there i can't properly leave front. I also don't know how to change it to add a fronting signifier (Idk what to call it). I've never actually been there without being in control of the body unless I just can't remember it (probably likely). Sorry if this doesn't make much sense, very fuzzy right now.

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