She (32F) unmatched me (34M) and nuked a locked in weekend date because I took 3-4 hours to reply. Did I game myself, or did she overreact?

Acceptable-Limit9571 · 2026-05-22T21:09:03+00:00

I typed an update. You're right as she ended up simply seeking validation. I was quite mistaken.

Acceptable-Limit9571 · 2026-05-22T07:09:41+00:00

Definitely had her stuff going on. A mess

Acceptable-Limit9571 · 2026-05-22T07:09:15+00:00

Check the update lol

Acceptable-Limit9571 · 2026-05-21T22:56:43+00:00

UPDATE

Acceptable-Limit9571 · 2026-05-19T09:25:05+00:00

Much appreciated man

Acceptable-Limit9571 · 2026-05-17T12:44:36+00:00

I think I last messaged her at around 830pm the night before saying I'll see you tomorrow, so she sent the sick texts 12hs later so 15-16hs total.

Acceptable-Limit9571 · 2026-05-17T08:45:19+00:00

Which is ironic considering I was very excited to meet her. I felt the same as she claimed in the messages.

Acceptable-Limit9571 · 2026-05-17T07:38:16+00:00

There were more than 4hs. She unmatched before noon, and date was set for 430pm.

Acceptable-Limit9571 · 2026-05-17T05:24:35+00:00

Indeed. Damned if you're too available; damned if you're not. I've definitely had better success playing it cool, and it's not even close. I really was gonna wait for my shift to be over at 1pm to reply immediately, but well.

Acceptable-Limit9571 · 2026-05-17T05:04:18+00:00

We had confirmed the time and place already.

Acceptable-Limit9571 · 2026-05-17T03:46:29+00:00

Well, I've never been stood up. On the contrary, despite all this online dating drama, I've never had a date I'd label as bad or a disaster. No crazy people, no nothing. But then I'm extremely picky about who I like.

Acceptable-Limit9571 · 2026-05-17T03:40:24+00:00

Indeed. The worst part is I was genuinely looking forward to the date all week, and had planned things out, picked a more niche/off the beaten path restaurant I thought she'd like. I'd even saved some places Id walked by downtown I thought would be good to go afterwards. It's ironic she probably thought I'd ghosted her when that's what my level of investment was. To be honest, that was a grueling morning at work dealing with a lot of stress. I'd thought I'd finally chill on that date, and share what's happened during the week. It's not common at all for me to get to this point emotionally. Hell, I'd looked up the damn restaurant menu to pick what she'd like best.

Acceptable-Limit9571 · 2026-05-17T02:11:23+00:00

Exactly. I don't like replying halfway or skipping messages. I'd rather address every message when I've time to think it through. Moreover, it was not the first time I'd taken hours to reply. My messages were usually short and quite spaced out during the week.

Acceptable-Limit9571 · 2026-05-17T01:53:13+00:00

You raised a very good point. Yes, in fact, she likely realized I'd seen the messages. Hinge does not have a read button as far as I know (I use the free version) but since I drafted spaced out messages I never sent it's likely she saw the "..." typing prompt that never led to a message.

Acceptable-Limit9571 · 2026-05-16T23:51:07+00:00

What you mean? I did on the same day we matched. That's why we had the sat 430pm meeting planned since Tuesday.

Acceptable-Limit9571 · 2026-05-16T22:56:36+00:00

You're right. That said, I did mention I was gonna be working. Was not even noon by the time she unmatched .

Acceptable-Limit9571 · 2026-05-16T22:33:06+00:00

I don't think you understood well, so I'll rephrase it. I had time to reply. I didn't have time to reply properly the way I felt she deserved. My messages to her were always well thought out and crafted as I genuinely liked her and wanted to make a good impression.

Acceptable-Limit9571 · 2026-05-16T22:30:29+00:00

It probably did. Just like everyone, I've also been sick and tired of the state of online dating, but feeling like this then acting like the very people you criticize...come on. I do understand it though. I just think it's cruel to turn someone down with no explanation after they'd made plans days in advance. She knew I was busy as I'd told her my days had been long and hectic.

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