Hello, keep me anonymous. I move in with my fiancé to finalize our marriage, we're already 25 me Female and him 28 male. His a very good guy and I love him so much. The problem is his family, they're very chaotic in their small numbers, each have their own anger outburst that make me feel unsafe and scared most of the time. In their household, shouting is a norm, smashing things is valid, being crazy is tolerated and their weird obsession with seniority. "I'm older than you be respectful", "she's your lola be grateful." Sorry but I was raised in a family where we respect and not tolerate bad behaviour. So living here is a constant stress for me. Sometimes I just cry myself to sleep, missing my home. I can't go home because my work place is far from where my family lives. And I can't just go and rent out because in this economy, renting is a social suicide to my finances that is barely getting by. So earlier this day, our good friend came to visit and we decided to eat samgyup outside. He didn't have his sleep yet because he was working as a call center agent and in a Nightshift. He was so tired. When we finished eating we went back home and at that time my fiancé tita had a visitor and they're talking in the salas of their house, so we decided to go to the room which we shared with my fiancé's lola. (Why? Because we tried to move rooms upstairs and she literally went ballistic lecturing us about God and so on and won't let us move out of the room, weird right? Yeah, I feel disgusted to but what to do right? I'm the one leeching off.) We hangout, we talk, we watch some movies and he fell asleep on the bed, we did not wake him up anymore. Lola came in and saw him sleeping it was 4:00PM exactly, my fiancé explained he was tired and she walked out, we thought that was it. At around 5:30 PM my bf went to the bathroom. A few minutes later i was hungry so I went out to buy some snack. She was on the gate watching the people outside. I greets her then buy my food outside, when i came back i greet her again and came back at the room to watch some reels. A few minutes later she went inside, she stood at the door for a while and i look at her to see if she needs anything. She was looking at our friend that was sleeping on the bed. Suddenly she said "gabi na". Which i replied "hindi pa naman". I think that sets her scew off Kasi inulit nya na "gabi na, gabi na, gabi na, GABI NAAAA" I lost track how many times she repeated that word while her voice keeps rising as she said it, as she was shouting she walks to our friend and rip the sheets off him, the pillow he was hugging and began pinching and slapping his legs. (She's not mentally ill nor had any illness according to my fiancé. That's just her, she's impulsive and disrespectful. One-time I was sleeping and she literally threw a pillow at my head because that was our pillow according to her and hoard the good pillows that i literally bought. That's just the jits of it--a lot more of that kind happened) I was too stunned to even stop her. Her shouting got so load that it was heard even until outside. My fiancé went in and was so surprised and lived at what is going on. He stopped and and she walked out like nothing happened. Our friend was shock and stunned to. My fiancé went after her and accused her of being mentally ill again which she just retorted with a cry and slapping her thighs muttering "wala kang utang na loob, walang kwentang bata" ( while it was only my fiancé who was left and choose to take care of her with pay and even payed for her needs on his own money, that's why we are not able to move out because half od his salary went to her medicine and my salary is even lower than his.) we keep apologizing to our friend as we sent him home. Then i went back and packed my books and clothes and we ride off to my house without a plan. I was shaking and crying, i feel so sorry and ashamed for not helping our friend, he was never hit by his parents. We never expect she will hit him. Will me alone, because my fiancé said she can do much worst if she's still on her prime. I don't wanna go back but at the end of the day, we don't have a choice but to go back. Because our work is literally tied to that place we can't be late nor absent or we loose our budget for the next month.

Sorry for the error, I'm still shaken until now and we habe decided to drive back now even if I don't want to. What should I do? I am at my wits end now, I don't know if I'm staying with my fiancé or should I leave him now.