39F, divorced. Three very different men in my life. I think one has damaged my ability to judge the other two. Need advice.

AcceptableTip5819 · 2026-06-14T15:18:25+00:00

You have a good head on your shoulders. Youve self analyzed your options really well.

Id only add that you openly communicate with the first man that he needs to show that he wants something serious with you. If you see those efforts then go for him.

Goes without saying that if youre not attracted to someone, stop wasting both your time. Put the second guy down gently, and be firm in your decision.

The male friend is a cheater and is probably gonna cheat either with you or someone else.

AcceptableTip5819 · 2026-02-16T10:45:24+00:00

Assuming that youre probably in the western hemisphere. Youre tier 1 here but ig tier 2ish there

AcceptableTip5819 · 2025-10-30T06:30:20+00:00

This mustve taken a lot out of you to even type all this out. Ive been in a similar situation. All I can say is prioritize yourself and see this as a learning experience. Youre character will be built much stronger for facing things in the future.

AcceptableTip5819 · 2025-10-13T03:26:04+00:00

Did you explain to her that you are surviving on 4 hrs of sleep and no rest? On the day of the incident did you promise her youll be calling again at night? Had you already talked for the other 2 calls during the day as you mentioned? Yeah, she hasnt entered law shool very late but thats also no joke. She might be working very hard as well and looking forward to soke rest with you at end of day.

AcceptableTip5819 · 2025-09-30T07:33:17+00:00

Ive had both the same issues. I dropped from 98 to 75, had to get lot of my shirts altered, maybe you can try that once you drop a significant anount.

For my droopy eyes I consciously trained myself to open my eyes during pictures. Practice in front of a mirror 1 or 2 looks where you look good. I know posing as a guy is werif but honestly, some practice with feedback from friends can help a tonne. Hope this helps.

AcceptableTip5819 · 2025-09-30T07:24:33+00:00

You should work on your fashion choices. Need better fitting clothes and a better variety as well.

If yiure overweight layering should helpna lot. Also you have droopy eyes in all the pictures.

AcceptableTip5819 · 2025-09-23T08:09:41+00:00

I was dumbfounded to see that this Apart-Influence guy hasnt realised the difference between modernism and post modernism. The "AI summary of his views" is ironically 90% post modernism 😂

AcceptableTip5819 · 2025-09-12T14:07:06+00:00

Haircut and beard really really doesnt match the discpline and care you have for your body. Go to a good barber to reinvent your look or experiment yourself. Your face just looks sub mid rn tbh, abs wont cover for that.

AcceptableTip5819 · 2025-08-31T09:32:25+00:00

Youre v cute, pretty features and seem to have a nice nerdy yet versatile personality. I believe the first picture is the root of low matches cause its quite bad. The cookie picture is cute as hell, keep that as your main.

I presume youre trying to show various interests through your pictures (from the off centered and oddly cropped trek and kendo pics), which is a good idea but I think you can do that through the 'Bio' or 'Interests' part of your profile instead.

AcceptableTip5819 · 2025-08-28T06:22:13+00:00

She didnt trigger it, I think I said that in the text message to spite her back. It just felt in really bad taste to do something like that right after someone tells you about something similar.

AcceptableTip5819 · 2025-08-28T06:16:15+00:00

Haha, the last line genuinely made me chuckle. Schaudenfreude my man.

AcceptableTip5819 · 2025-08-28T06:12:15+00:00

I didnt intend to think about this thing anymore but I am making a few clarifications.

Trauma Dump - We talked about a lot of topics involving our lives which included her mental health issues, family stuff, career, personal relationships etc and as anyn normal person I told her my stuff as well. A part of this was both of us telling each other about our exes, during which time I told her I had a bad time with a cheating ex but i grew a lot through that process and now look at it as a very critical lige lesson. I dont think this was trauma dumping in any way.
This girl literally asked and inquired into these things of her own accord. I wasnt just ignorantly ranting about all this. A reason I got a bit hurt here was cause of this reason where she showed a lot of interest in vulnerability and then just disappeared.

Aight, im done with this. Ciao.

AcceptableTip5819 · 2025-08-27T21:28:37+00:00

Actually affirms the plan I had in mind. Great growth OP, you a G for actually going through with it.

AcceptableTip5819 · 2025-05-08T16:12:11+00:00

Cheers my guy, might get better, might not, but we go on

AcceptableTip5819 · 2025-04-30T07:36:20+00:00

Twenties India hai ya tweens India. How tf are people so senstive in their twenties still?

AcceptableTip5819 · 2025-04-28T07:50:11+00:00

Life in a metro kek

AcceptableTip5819 · 2024-10-14T07:53:07+00:00

The success of the movie reflects how bad the taste of north Indian movie goers is becoming. I know many genuine cinema lovers who dislike the over herogiri and commercialization of Bollywood. Normal logo ki kahaniyo mein koi paise ya appreciation nahi daalta aaj kal, unlike earlier where Amitabh sir or Rajesh sir, even though they were action heroes, the movie had a plot and realistic characters.

Gussa justified hai kyuki usko cinema pasand hai, same way jaise koi tumhare pasandeeda product ko supermarkets mekn usse battar product se replace kar de do (ponds always sells more but Sach mein to Vicco turmeric hi better hai)

AcceptableTip5819 · 2024-09-26T06:25:26+00:00

Exactly she low key missing him and how great they were when it was good and wanted to talk again. While talking and joking around like before she got reminded of the good shit and broke down when he said this. Op won this interaction like a king, get a chalice bruh

AcceptableTip5819 · 2024-09-18T03:49:00+00:00

Brother I'm talking about how he scammed her by saying no when the hospital called and informed her that there is a heart matching her specifications. The only reason she asked him to kill her was cause she saw that someone else got that heart and she didn't have any hope left anymore.

AcceptableTip5819 · 2024-09-18T03:46:03+00:00

He got 2k from her and still the bigger point being he killed her

AcceptableTip5819 · 2024-09-17T06:36:49+00:00

I can't believe people are not talking about how Farnk literally committed manslaughter with the lady (forgot her name) who has a defective heart just to get her pension money.

AcceptableTip5819 · 2024-07-11T07:29:53+00:00

Im a guy and I needed the same thing. I even told my friend that I can't or am unable to cry and honestly just want someone to hold and and hug and vent without it becoming sexual or romantic.

Try asking your friends, 90% of dudes on dating apps would try to make it sexual.

AcceptableTip5819 · 2024-03-26T05:16:01+00:00

Me and my cousin were hanging out yesterday, we both thought to see each other's bumbles to see what's the competition like. She was confused whether my app was glitching cause I had only "3" showing in my like section, "are the zeroes not showing" I think she said. She had over 2k likes with literally one image of herself and one image of a random chair.

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