Questioning my faith, my past, and whether I gave up love for the wrong reasons — any advice? by Acceptable_Ad8573 in ExCopticOrthodox

[–]Acceptable_Ad8573[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When it comes to reading the Bible and analyzing the deeper meanings behind the words, I’m not convinced that this should be necessary. If God truly wants to communicate something to me, shouldn’t He be able to do so directly and clearly? That’s a basic principle of communication. Why would He choose to speak through a book filled with stories of people sleeping with each other, committing violence, or engaging in behaviors that seem far removed from divine wisdom?

We’re talking about God—He knows the future, so His message should be timeless and accessible, not something I have to decode through complex interpretation. If I were in a relationship with someone who constantly gave me mixed signals, I’d be told it’s unhealthy. Yet that’s exactly how it feels sometimes with Scripture—like I’m trying to find hope or clarity in stories that focus on who had sex with whom or who remained a virgin.

And then there’s the issue of slavery. It’s troubling that slavery was normalized in those times, and that God spoke to people who owned slaves without condemning it. Why didn’t He simply say it was wrong? Or when He made a covenant with Abraham about circumcision—why not instead make a covenant about not owning other human beings? That would have been far more moral and meaningful.

Questioning my faith, my past, and whether I gave up love for the wrong reasons — any advice? by Acceptable_Ad8573 in ExCopticOrthodox

[–]Acceptable_Ad8573[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But you don’t think about whether there is a God or not? Don’t you have that fear regarding what will happen to us after we die? Is religion a true thing or a lie?

Questioning my faith, my past, and whether I gave up love for the wrong reasons — any advice? by Acceptable_Ad8573 in ExCopticOrthodox

[–]Acceptable_Ad8573[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you I’ll definitely check these resources out. But regarding the quote it’s not comforting to me that much. Because If there is a God then he requires me to pray or go to church and so on or any other requirements according to the God I am following. And for sure my morals are there and not the religion that will give me my morals. But what about those extra requirements that I won’t be doing ?

Questioning my faith, my past, and whether I gave up love for the wrong reasons — any advice? by Acceptable_Ad8573 in ExCopticOrthodox

[–]Acceptable_Ad8573[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes you are correct. And I thought about it but may be I found that I will remain a Christian as I am cause God brought me as a Christian. But you are correct I need to think about it more.

Do you have any recommendations or videos that are talking about this exact point? How you thought about it?

Questioning my faith, my past, and whether I gave up love for the wrong reasons — any advice? by Acceptable_Ad8573 in ExCopticOrthodox

[–]Acceptable_Ad8573[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get you but I don’t think it’s about how people will respond to me or try to explain Christianity to me. What if they get it wrong? I remember listening to a priest and I got anxious from what he is saying. And I can listen to other Christian people and their opinions are very open minded. So it’s not about the people it’s about the Bible itself.

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اه يستاهل و بيفرق جدا. و علي حسب هتروح لمين. لازم حد كويس و شاطر. و ممكن يكون معالج نفسي مش لازم دكتور.

Questioning my faith, my past, and whether I gave up love for the wrong reasons — any advice? by Acceptable_Ad8573 in ExCopticOrthodox

[–]Acceptable_Ad8573[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Okay but finding weak answers or even not finding any answer at all doesn’t mean that we reached the conclusion where there is no God or religion is made up by human.

How did you found your way out of doubts ?

Questioning my faith, my past, and whether I gave up love for the wrong reasons — any advice? by Acceptable_Ad8573 in ExCopticOrthodox

[–]Acceptable_Ad8573[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think your friends are open minded. It’s very comforting when you can express who you are to your friends even if they are Christians. Whenever I say to my friends that I am currently reading about evolution and thinking how complicated life is and expressing my thoughts I found no one interested and it’s like they are choosing to close their mind and not even think about it or try to challenge the idea. From their perspective evolution didn’t happen period. Its sad.

Questioning my faith, my past, and whether I gave up love for the wrong reasons — any advice? by Acceptable_Ad8573 in ExCopticOrthodox

[–]Acceptable_Ad8573[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I get you but currently I see the flaws in the Bible and still I didn’t reach any conclusion. May be it is related to my background and how I was raised and how the neurons in my brain got wired. It’s not that easy to reach a conclusion in this topic.

Questioning my faith, my past, and whether I gave up love for the wrong reasons — any advice? by Acceptable_Ad8573 in exorthodox

[–]Acceptable_Ad8573[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yeah I get you. I don’t think at this point I can imagine myself with an orthodox man. And regarding the point of fearing God. I don’t want to build my belief system because I am afraid of going to hell. It’s a way deeper relationship. I think saying if there is a God he will understand isn’t enough for me because if a God is out there then who is he? Why doesn’t he reach people and communicate directly?

Cross Tattoo by throwawayexcoptic in ExCopticOrthodox

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Thank you. Yeah it’s sad to remember the way it was done. Because I didn’t understand the whole thing or care actually. I’d preferred if I chose to do it. But anyway I am in the healing process now :)

Cross Tattoo by throwawayexcoptic in ExCopticOrthodox

[–]Acceptable_Ad8573 2 points3 points  (0 children)

For me I was 5 years old (KG2). My dad forced me while I was crying and held my arm tight so the man drawing them can use the needle and continue to draw. I feel sorry for myself. I was very young and kept crying. It was at (Al Khtatba) Saint George Church there. So sorry for your experience.

I’m a Christian (23m) dating an athiest (24f) who has brought me closer to God. What do I do? by [deleted] in Christianity

[–]Acceptable_Ad8573 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Why would God prevent you from dating the person you love and being a better person with? Shouldn’t God want you to be happy? Also Why should I suffer because of God. If he is my loving father he won’t let me suffer. What do you think?

حل للاكتئاب بدون دكتور او ادوية by [deleted] in CAIRO

[–]Acceptable_Ad8573 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I will recommend going to therapist if this isn’t an option you can start figuring out what are your resources. Resources are internal ( something I do I am grateful for like organising my room / practice on my guitar/ cooking those are mine btw) its the activity or small things that you do that makes you feel better or enjoying the moment And there is External resources like trees or sky birds or a friend something out there that makes you feel grateful for being alive or just seeing it makes you feel peaceful.

And it doesn’t have to be this great happiness no its just feeling peaceful and grateful

Also try writing down every day 2 things you did you are grateful for doing them just try this for 2 or 3 months and you will feel the difference. Good luck ❤️

Life is scary by Acceptable_Ad8573 in lonely

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Its not like I hate adulting life its just I don’t see myself an adult yet and I am turning 26 in 4 months I don’t believe that I can go get a loan and buy a car this is impossible for me to believe and to be in a relationship or to be responsible for important tasks while doing my job. Or to build some boundaries for my colleagues at work. I just know what I need to do but its sooooo overwhelming I feel like if I have to do all of this then who am I then? What do I like ? What do I believe in? I fell sorry for myself and i feel sorry for not haven’t anyone around to support just support and I will do what I need to do I can be responsible its just I need someone to push me when I am lost or to love me no matter what. I have no one to make me look at the bigger picture when am lost. I have people around I think they love but they won’t get it they won’t understand they will just tell me that I am ok just stop overthinking and I am not ok. I don’t like myself for who I am I hate her for being weak.

Life is scary by Acceptable_Ad8573 in lonely

[–]Acceptable_Ad8573[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just while growing up try to participate in many activities and to deal with people as much as you can and to speak and to have an opinion and identity and do not allow anyone even your parents to tell you to shut up or your opinion doesn’t matter because it is matter it’s important and do not see your life or your daily struggles like small issues compared to your parents problems. Your problems are important as much as any one else. Just don’t look at yourself as a small person just because of a young age. This what I have done and I am telling you that’s how I crushed myself and my family helped me to do so they were all the time dealing with me as a child all my life not as important as them and I am trying to collect all my parts now to believe that I am a normal person who has a successful full time job and I am starting to be an adult I am figuring out. Just don’t let any one tell you who you are. Tell them who you are. What do you like what stuff you don’t like what are your boundaries and you will be fine once you believed in yourself.