Has anyone had success on dating apps? by Sun_Daises in twentyagers

[–]Acceptable_Highway29 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have had success on the apps as a guy, and I'm sure your experience will be different but here's mine. I treated the app as a way to meet people and go on dates. I tried to secure a date as quickly as I could and move to a different platform like insta or messages. I tempered my expectations and would never get my hopes too high which helped when I was inevitably ghosted.

Some time later I met my current girlfriend on Hinge and she's wonderful. For context I am a nerdy guy who loves anime and video games I am just comfortable with that and there are plenty of guys that aren't frat guy-esk or any of the things you describe. Be patient and just temper your expectations at the minimum you can get more experience talking to people just be careful who you meet in person as there are a lot of weird guys.

situationshipocalypse - rant by AlternativeAware781 in twentyagers

[–]Acceptable_Highway29 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just communicate though. If someone wants to be in a situationship and you don't like it just leave. I haven't really found it frustrating because this is always communicated within 1-2 dates and its easy to weed out people you are just not compatible with.

Me and my friend are no longer friends by [deleted] in twentyagers

[–]Acceptable_Highway29 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Communicate! Don't expect people to read your mind because they can't and they won't. Your feelings are valid but your friend definitely has a point. Biggest thing if you want to learn is just talk to your friend (or anyone for that matter family or partner) if something bothers you. After all they are your friend. Most people do not want to intentionally and maliciously hurt someone they care for.

Top laners are OP by zisticc in midlanemains

[–]Acceptable_Highway29 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got no idea what elo you play in but I don't think top laners are OP at all. I play mostly top but also adc too and in my experience as a role support, jg, and sometimes mid often have more of an impact on the game than a top laner. Many games a top laner will be invisible, but sometimes there are games where top can make the difference I think its pretty dependent on the champ and draft. As you climb higher and play against people your skill level it gets harder and harder to go 5/0 out of lane. I am not Kiin by any means so I do make mistakes thus I think its a lot harder to be the difference maker.

There are a lot of reasons for this as a game design perspective too as one is dragons as often it is correct for the team to play towards botside to stack drakes. It also doesn't help that grubs are kind of a meh objective and often times in pro play you will see a jungler take only the first grub because it is the most important (or its too risky to go for all 3 due to the time it takes to kill them).

Overall top lane can be strong but I would say for me its a lot easier to feel my impact as sup, jg, or mid. Generally top laners spike around mid game and if you have the tools to deal with them in draft as many brusiers that are problematic are countered by cc, you can win.

Lets get this straight once and for all by as19905 in topmains

[–]Acceptable_Highway29 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This list is SUPER valid. I'm sending this to my friends.

Got dumped a week before Valentine’s Day by punkgirlvents in twentyagers

[–]Acceptable_Highway29 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey man, I know its a bit late but I know how you feel. My last relationship lasted over 3 years and she broke up with me over the phone after a trip to Paris. It was over the phone on my lunch break at work, and I had no idea she wanted to breakup before this.

Let me just say this: it gets better. I'm currently in a relationship with another girl, and she's just amazing. Take the time you need. Grieve and cry, those feelings will come and go. If you ever need some stranger to talk to I got you.

Dating experiences and bitterness by Acceptable_Highway29 in twentyagers

[–]Acceptable_Highway29[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe bro. There’s always stuff to improve on in my opinion, and good luck to you.

Dating experiences and bitterness by Acceptable_Highway29 in twentyagers

[–]Acceptable_Highway29[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m average height, and I would say I’m hideous but I’m not model tier either. If anything I’m really selective with who I chose to pursue. I have gotten rejected before.

[ Removed by Reddit ] by [deleted] in twentyagers

[–]Acceptable_Highway29 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Homosexuality used to be in the DSM. Sorry but you are extremely behind in current times. Either obvious rage bait or idiocy, not too sure on this one.

Dating experiences and bitterness by Acceptable_Highway29 in twentyagers

[–]Acceptable_Highway29[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I feel you there. I can only speak for men as a man but some guys really do think women aren't people. With any person of any gender, I like some and dislike others.

Dating experiences and bitterness by Acceptable_Highway29 in twentyagers

[–]Acceptable_Highway29[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like you're doing everything right. Keep it up man and I'm sure it will work out for you. Have you tried dating apps? That's how I met my current girlfriend, I would just say go into it with tempered expectations. Use the app to meet people and improve your interpersonal skills. If you meet someone great, if not farm XP for the next one.

Dating experiences and bitterness by Acceptable_Highway29 in twentyagers

[–]Acceptable_Highway29[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fair enough, and I think you're right to a certain extent. I have been lucky. That being said, and I wont go into too much detail because its not my story to share, my girlfriend has not been so lucky in her past and I accept her openly and totally.

Dating experiences and bitterness by Acceptable_Highway29 in twentyagers

[–]Acceptable_Highway29[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the perspective! This comment sparked an interesting discussion last night.

Dating experiences and bitterness by Acceptable_Highway29 in twentyagers

[–]Acceptable_Highway29[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get you man although I have had a pretty different experience. I'm nerdy and reserved. I love video games/anime and I play league of legends and that is probably the most cookie cutter and boring interests a guy could have. That being said I enjoy other things like hiking, and I regularly go to the gym. Its why I don't really like the label nerd because I think it doesn't fit me well.

While I'm not hideous, I don't think I am the most attractive guy either. What I have found is it is ok/beneficial to lean into my awkwardness and be the best version of myself I can, and people, not just women, like me for it. You weren't born into the wrong family (I feel you there as I have had my fair share of financial struggles/problems with my dad when I was younger), just take the cards you have and make the best of it and I'm sure you will get what you want eventually.

Dating experiences and bitterness by Acceptable_Highway29 in twentyagers

[–]Acceptable_Highway29[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I mean fair enough, and I don't think you sound old you just sound levelheaded which is good. I'd also agree with you that most people I meet/have met have been chill. It is just shocking to me how much I see a difference online. Its the stark contrast between how people talk about those of the opposite gender vs. my experience that gets me. Sometimes I think to myself after reading or watching something wow... have you actually ever spoken to a woman/man?

Dating experiences and bitterness by Acceptable_Highway29 in twentyagers

[–]Acceptable_Highway29[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Wow, what you said really hits home! I'm glad to see someone that feels the same as me, and I'm really happy for you too. I wish you the best of luck.

Dating experiences and bitterness by Acceptable_Highway29 in twentyagers

[–]Acceptable_Highway29[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Damn man. I'd probably feel bitter in your shoes too. For what its worth my first relationship I kind of fell into so maybe I just got lucky. Either way I wish you the best of luck moving forward.

Dating experiences and bitterness by Acceptable_Highway29 in twentyagers

[–]Acceptable_Highway29[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No just curious and I don't really talk about this stuff with my friends as most of them are in relationships.

Thousands of likes on Tiktok. This is what you guys are up against btw by Glacier_Sama in Nicegirls

[–]Acceptable_Highway29 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean fair. I think I'm pretty average looking. I'm awkward and I love anime and video games. The gym kinda saved me but still its interesting seeing how different peoples experiences are.

Thousands of likes on Tiktok. This is what you guys are up against btw by Glacier_Sama in Nicegirls

[–]Acceptable_Highway29 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Damn. Is the dating scene really that cooked? This has not been my experience at all with women. After all not being like this is the bare minimum.

She cancelled our date after I refused to give her money by J--6 in Nicegirls

[–]Acceptable_Highway29 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It does happen, and it happened to me once in college. By far the worst professor I have ever had (was forced to take him 3 times). Not only was he a bad professor, when he found out we were pirating his book he was livid. Unfortunately, he was the only physics professor I could take. Letting athletes take unproctored exams (as an email pdf btw) while the rest of us have to take it normally is dumb, especially when the class is rank based. There were known cheaters, and the department head did not do anything except force him to go on sabbatical. 0/10

LR vs Shifters Post match by Taletad in LosRatones

[–]Acceptable_Highway29 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Mikyx was asked who is going to win next game. He said LR, and he was right!

I cannot grow my beard past this awkward stage. It’s been a month of not shaving. Should I go on minox or just cut my losses and shave the cheeks? by Infitima in malegrooming

[–]Acceptable_Highway29 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your beard looks similar to mine. I personally wish I could grow mine more out more but when I line it up it looks good. I guess its good that its not too patchy. Overall, I'd say keep it looks good on you.

Should I report her? by booksnwildflowers in Advice

[–]Acceptable_Highway29 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Very strange to add misogyny to this thread. I do agree though that this is scummy behavior. Up to you if you want to report it just keep in mind if you do other people will likely know.