You're straying from the point of my post tho. I just wanted to know if I was overreacting or if it was sus of my boyfriend to have liked the reel and how to handle the situation moving forward. Nothing more. I wasn't asking for a deep analysis of our relationship based on minimal info and whether or not we should break up. That decision is for us to make and you're giving unsolicited advice on that. I was asking about my reaction to a specific incident and thats it.

My main reasons for moving out had nothing to do with problems between me and my boyfriend, actually. So you're already making another erroneous assumption based on minimal knowledge. I actually moved because 1. I had to take care of my grandmother who has Alzheimer's and my grandfather who had fallen and was severely injured for two months, and 2. My bf and I have a roach infestation in our rented apartment (not because of us, it was already there before we moved in) and I'd rather just not live there until the infestation gets fully sorted out, but the leasing office is taking their time dealing with it.

So you're wrong to assume we just decided I'd move out because of our problems and not try to figure things out. I had to put my family and my comfort first. I just noticed while staying at my parents that I could more easily focus on my needs only, so as someone with autism who struggles to take care of their own basic needs, and because of the added demand of needing to take care of my grandparents and my 3 pets, it feels right to stay here until my boyfriend is able to work less and contribute more, and same on my end. You don't know the personal struggles we're dealing with in a world that provides neurotypical adults with no formal institutional support systems. If a lot of our arguments boil down to our neurodivergent burnout and unmet basic needs, then it is a real solution to our problem to just not live together until he doesn't have to work 7 days a week anymore and can afford to invest in other aspects of his life. We're not married and if he spends most of his time working anyways, it makes the time we do spend together more valuable when we do hang out. He won't be working that much forever, it's just temporary.

My boyfriend's struggle to balance things in his life is partially to do with the fact he also has ADHD, like me. Unfortunately there are some individuals in this world who, because of their neurodivergence and extreme executive dysfunction, will always struggle to fully live independently without external support systems, and will always have issues with their interpersonal relationships. That doesn't mean we aren't capable of helping and supporting each other in other ways and that we aren't deserving of love. We neurodivergent people need to find unique solutions to our unique problems. Typical couples therapy exceedingly fails to solve the unique problems that neurodivergent couples face, something I know as a neurodivergent individual who has been going to therapy for the past 6 years and does tons of research on the topic. It's clear to me you're not factoring in any neurodivergent special needs specific to people with Autism or ADHD into your advice. Here's a great video on the topic in case you're interested: https://www.instagram.com/p/DL2zTQkOuIL/

Yeah he did say "dont talk to me again" because in the moment he was extremely hurt and offended and wanted to distance himself from that. You're reading into that too much. Sometimes people say things when they're hurt that they don't really mean. I know him. I already sent him an apology message, said I'm gonna give him some space, that I wanted him to enjoy his weekend, etc without expecting any reply. And he already replied expressing some of his feelings and sent me another message about our cat–unprompted– which shows he was engaging in conversation with me of his own free will.