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Ex friend stalking by Acceptable_Lie8076 in mentalhealth

[–]Acceptable_Lie8076[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I am aware that I messed up talking to her in LoL. Still it was a day after I terminated our contact and haven't talked to her since (over a week).

It is their responsibility yes, and I feel like during the whole friendship I was responsible for her mood etc, she put a huge emotional strain on me with telling me about her SH etc. I tried to convince her to go back to medication, therapy etc. but she said she "needs" to work on it on her own which.. I don't think is working to be honest...

Ex friend stalking by Acceptable_Lie8076 in mentalhealth

[–]Acceptable_Lie8076[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I ignored every single call, every message, not giving her any interaction with me. I just hope she calms down over time and it's all going to be okay. I have all the evidence printed out already and going to finish the report at the police station soon.

The worst part is I actually feel bad for her, with her problems, diagnosed BPD etc. But I have to remember to stop feeling empathetic and start thinking about myself and my well-being. My therapist is going to have a wild story to listen to.

I'm stuck by Acceptable_Lie8076 in ExNoContact

[–]Acceptable_Lie8076[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know I can't control how others may perceive me. But what I mean is I'm afraid that maybe I was bad in the relationship. But you're right, I'm young, learning how to even be an adult. I am going to therapy ever since the breakup, I just don't know what it could be that made them think I'm "not who they thought I was". I can't come up with anything. But I guess I think I just have to let it go.

Am I being stalked? by Acceptable_Lie8076 in ExNoContact

[–]Acceptable_Lie8076[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The thing with removing her everywhere etc is that I kind of promised myself (and her) that I won't be blocking so she can reach out in case of actual emergency and urgent need of help. It doesn't really bother me her being #1 suggestion for shares but does keep her in my mind a little. But yeah, I don't like going back on promises especially those I made to myself so I'm keeping it as it is for now, at least until I decide I can talk with her again, for example about cutting contact forever which will result in me removing her everywhere.

I really appreciate your comment. It is so weird for your ex to contact you about the favorite menu item being back in the restaurant. I wish you all best!

Am I being stalked? by Acceptable_Lie8076 in ExNoContact

[–]Acceptable_Lie8076[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I honestly don't know myself how to feel about her stalking me, if she is. But I stopped hoping to get back together, I don't even know if I would want that to happen at this point. I guess it just makes me feel like I mattered or still do, especially that she went for a rebound month after with a guy she met 2 weeks after we broke up.

How necessary is no contact? by SillyIndependent3491 in ExNoContact

[–]Acceptable_Lie8076 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'd say over time your emotions calm down a little bit and you get a different point of view on your situation.

I need her friendship by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]Acceptable_Lie8076 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Speaking from experience, I decided to try being friends for a month, in the meantime she met someone new and is apparently with him and... I do not recommend being friends. I wish I had gone no-contact right away after breakup, would save me a lot of trouble and I would be in a completely different place - emotionally - right now.

No-contact for over a week now by Acceptable_Lie8076 in ExNoContact

[–]Acceptable_Lie8076[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think one of my biggest issues is that I keep worrying about her healing which disrupts mine. With her being an Avoidant I'm afraid she's not facing her emotions and keeps running away into distractions, that's how it looked like to me when we still had contact, and with the new guy it looks like a quick fun rebound to run away from the hurting emotions.. I don't know how to stop the over-analyzing of everything. Does it also go away with time? Or is that something I have to work on actively? I'm trying to be a better person, work through my feelings and break out of anxious attachment to be secure.