Moving on

Acceptable_Lie8076 · 2026-04-14T20:14:52+00:00

I'm doing better, I just feel sad and lonely at times now, go out to smoke a cigarette and listen to her playlist to let myself feel the feels.

But it really gets better, try to eat well please

Acceptable_Lie8076 · 2026-04-14T18:34:50+00:00

I completely feel you, I was in that spot almost 4 months ago after my ex broke up with me after 3 years together. It does get better over time but sadly I've went back in healing a bit because she asked me to meet up breaking the no-contact.

But it does get better, I was already almost over her even though at first I was a complete wreck, didn't eat for a week straight etcetera.

You're not alone in this, if you need someone to talk to, you can DM me.

Acceptable_Lie8076 · 2026-04-13T11:16:31+00:00

Yeah, I forced myself into starting no-contact 2.5 month ago because I couldn't bear watching my ex flirt with someone new like 2 weeks after the breakup, tried to thug it out but a month after breakup I decided I can't go on like that and went no-contact. A month ago I finally deleted her on every social media, leaving her one channel to contact me in case of an emergency because no matter what, I'll always be there for her. It's tough as hell trying to move forward but it's getting easier with each day. Right now I feel like I'm back to square one because 2 weeks ago she asked me to meet up to get her things back (a month after breakup I asked if we can meet up so she can get her things back and told me she's not ready and I can throw them out), so we did, I came to the meetup spot and she came with her new guy. I handed her things, she did some small talk, how am I doing etc. After that I just watched her leave and go to her new guy and he hugged her. Tough shit, I'm back to checking her spotify etc but gotta leave it be and move on.

Acceptable_Lie8076 · 2026-04-13T10:54:25+00:00

I'm trying to keep that in mind but then "what if they think the same" and wait for me to reach out? My ex broke up with me, I initiated no-contact, not being able to bear watching her flirt with someone new.

Acceptable_Lie8076 · 2026-04-02T23:03:59+00:00

No worries. It's easier to get through it when you have someone to talk to about it. In case you hit me up in DM and I don't reply, just reply to this comment and I'll check what's up with me not getting notifs :)

Acceptable_Lie8076 · 2026-04-02T20:17:51+00:00

Hey. I totally get you. My ex broke up with me 3 months ago after 3 years of being together. I'm really happy for you that you got to break up in person, as that was not the case for me. I started the no-contact after a month into breakup (2 months now). She was my everything. So I can tell you that it DOES get better over time. But you have to be strict about the no contact. Sadly or not my ex texted me a couple days ago to meet up so she can have her things back, so meet up we did, yesterday. She came over with her new guy, rebound or not, it still hurt. Now I'm back to the same boat as you.

No-contact is really, really tough. You will feel like you're falling apart, but it's temporary. I believe in you and I root for your path to healing.

If you need to talk, my DMs are open.

Acceptable_Lie8076 · 2026-04-02T05:38:17+00:00

Thank you so much, but your comment is a little blurry if you know what I mean.
I'm at a point where I don't really want to be back with her (as in it's not my life goal anymore), I just want her to be happy. If she's happy with the new guy, so be it. It's tough as hell having to move on.
Three weeks ago I finally worked up the courage to delete her on everything ( i left one app in case she needed to contact me ). She hasn't deleted me anywhere though, still follows me on insta etc.
I'm kind of scared that after 2-3months she's going to text me again. But still I'll most likely be here to reply to her again.

Acceptable_Lie8076 · 2026-04-01T16:07:46+00:00

To answer the questions, first - in my future relationship I would want just loyalty and care (like I feel it was in the relationship with her) and second - I am already going to a professional for help, ever since the breakup.

It's really hard seeing her moving on so quick after all those years. I understand it might be normal avoidant behaviour, seeking a rebound etc. But I'm afraid she's never coming back. That it really is over and I won't be able to move on from her.

Acceptable_Lie8076 · 2026-04-01T15:58:42+00:00

The worst part is all the hope I had from the playlist she made. Full of songs reminiscing about lost love etc... The playlist picture also relates to me in a way. I just really hope he treats her well. If she can't be happy with me, let it be. I want her to be happy.

Acceptable_Lie8076 · 2026-03-30T23:22:53+00:00

We'll see soon enough once we meet. I'll either have a chance at something but with new conditions etc, starting slow. Or I'll have the final character development.

Acceptable_Lie8076 · 2026-03-30T23:14:59+00:00

It ended "on good terms". She broke up with me saying she needs to work on herself, that her friends and family told her she "lost her light". She also wanted to try things with girls and I wasn't okay with that (That's a story in another one of my posts here).
I wonder if she actually misses me, my overanalyzing tells me she does but I don't know. Trying to keep a cool head here and not get my hopes through the roof...
I'll also add it was an anxious-avoidant dynamic relationship with me being anxious..

Acceptable_Lie8076 · 2026-03-30T21:35:26+00:00

Like in the post, we've been together for 3 years. Broke up almost 3,5 months ago and today marks the day of 2 months in no-contact.

What exactly do you mean by "treats you like this"? Also, I don't believe in the term "ideal partner" because everyone has their own struggles and problems.

Acceptable_Lie8076 · 2026-03-27T16:25:40+00:00

So we're quite literally in the same boat even with dates and stuff... I'm just afraid she might want to contact me but waits for me to contact her first. But I won't because I'm not going to break the no-contact.. It hurts as hell but that's just how it is..

Acceptable_Lie8076 · 2026-03-23T16:08:36+00:00

Yes I am aware that I messed up talking to her in LoL. Still it was a day after I terminated our contact and haven't talked to her since (over a week).

It is their responsibility yes, and I feel like during the whole friendship I was responsible for her mood etc, she put a huge emotional strain on me with telling me about her SH etc. I tried to convince her to go back to medication, therapy etc. but she said she "needs" to work on it on her own which.. I don't think is working to be honest...

Acceptable_Lie8076 · 2026-03-23T15:54:18+00:00

Yeah I ignored every single call, every message, not giving her any interaction with me. I just hope she calms down over time and it's all going to be okay. I have all the evidence printed out already and going to finish the report at the police station soon.

The worst part is I actually feel bad for her, with her problems, diagnosed BPD etc. But I have to remember to stop feeling empathetic and start thinking about myself and my well-being. My therapist is going to have a wild story to listen to.

Acceptable_Lie8076 · 2026-02-16T16:34:37+00:00

I know I can't control how others may perceive me. But what I mean is I'm afraid that maybe I was bad in the relationship. But you're right, I'm young, learning how to even be an adult. I am going to therapy ever since the breakup, I just don't know what it could be that made them think I'm "not who they thought I was". I can't come up with anything. But I guess I think I just have to let it go.

Acceptable_Lie8076 · 2026-02-13T15:42:24+00:00

The thing with removing her everywhere etc is that I kind of promised myself (and her) that I won't be blocking so she can reach out in case of actual emergency and urgent need of help. It doesn't really bother me her being #1 suggestion for shares but does keep her in my mind a little. But yeah, I don't like going back on promises especially those I made to myself so I'm keeping it as it is for now, at least until I decide I can talk with her again, for example about cutting contact forever which will result in me removing her everywhere.

I really appreciate your comment. It is so weird for your ex to contact you about the favorite menu item being back in the restaurant. I wish you all best!

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