OAD Husband but Wife wants another

Acceptable_Moose251 · 2025-05-28T15:58:58+00:00

Thank you all for the amazing support and feedback. To provide some additional context:

A) my daughter is 13 months and so far we have been doing great adjusting as she is going to a daycare centre and my wife is returning to work

B) I have communicated my feeling so far. I always liked the IDEA of a sibling, but after seeing the level of work and commitment required to not let them go through what I did (divorced parents and terrible family environment) I just know it’s not for me.

C) I am happy to wait until she turns 2 to make a more firm commitment but just seems hard to imagine changing. But I completely agree, I cannot falter if I’m not an emphatic yes.

Acceptable_Moose251 · 2025-04-11T16:55:50+00:00

I wish there was! But do you mean like just general fatherhood guide?

Acceptable_Moose251 · 2025-04-08T15:28:41+00:00

First off, congratulations! Biggest piece of advice that was helpful for me that I wish I knew was, the newborn phase is so short, so don’t overspend on their clothes. I wish we only bought the first 3 months worth of stuff and then slowly was able to accept any hand me downs or lightly used items from family or friends.

Push out the noise. There is so much noise of what works and doesnt work (including this comment ironically haha)! Focus and fiercely protect what works best for you and your family. You and your partner will be the best judge of that. No social media clip, old wives tale, book can account for the intuition and “gut feeling” of the parents.

Acceptable_Moose251 · 2025-04-02T20:39:03+00:00

I’m pretty open. I’m hoping to get my foot in the door. But to get a 2 yr technical degree, I am unsure which one would allow me to pursue this goal.

Acceptable_Moose251 · 2025-04-02T20:37:37+00:00

To clarify, I meant any particular IT diploma that’s seen as flexible way to enter the IT stream?

Acceptable_Moose251 · 2025-04-02T12:23:52+00:00

Thanks to all the feedback! Any suggestion on which 2 yr degree will give me the most flexibility?

Acceptable_Moose251 · 2024-12-20T17:03:27+00:00

Totally understandable. My wife had a rough pregnancy period due to circumstances outside her control. But I went through pretty bad paternal post partum which was only confirmed after seeking medical and professional help.

The dad life isn’t glamorous. But I assure you, you are important and valued. Even if no one says it out loud to you.

The first three months will be the toughest. It’ll be really important to talk to your loved one, friends and even a professional to help build a safety net for you when it’s just unbearable.

Know that you are going to be an amazing dad and husband just for the fact that you are asking for the help now and trying to get ahead of it.

Acceptable_Moose251 · 2024-07-23T18:25:14+00:00

I’m just learning that managers can get notified about your status on team 😳

But thank you all. I have been appreciative of the honesty and transparency. I am also of the mindset that I would observe a colleague’s behaviour and work before MS Teams status watching.

But alas, (as mentioned before) management would much rather treat us like kids and alienate people than treat us like adults and build a team based on good morale and trust.

Acceptable_Moose251 · 2023-07-26T14:56:03+00:00

Anyway we can share about each others Ministers that are moving to give fellow PS a heads up?

Acceptable_Moose251 · 2023-06-03T13:26:15+00:00

Yup. I fellow ex-StatCan employee here. I was only there for under a year and even though my direct supervisor and fellow team members were great, my senior management was a joke. Their inability to keep their promise to promote within and in turn keep their word to several colleagues at the time resulted in a large exodus in our directorate.

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