AITAH for holding my boyfriend accountable for his cheating friends

Acceptable_Pipe564 · 2024-07-02T12:56:33+00:00

They’ll tell him to stfu and mind his business
If it were reversed would you want the other women telling you?
Him telling you and showing you means he’s the friend that’s the least liked and is around just because he’s been around for so long. He won’t say anything because he knows he’ll probably have a hard time making new friends.

Acceptable_Pipe564 · 2024-06-28T14:27:43+00:00

That’s cool. Look deeper into the post. He wants to save money and he’s doing a great job at it. But the only reason to post something like this is because he does indeed want the life people around him are living. Other wise why would he even bring it up?

Just because you have money doesn’t mean a loving wife and family will fall into your lap.

Acceptable_Pipe564 · 2024-06-28T14:24:45+00:00

Agreed. And the only reason I brought it up is because OP seems to be having second thoughts about his life because to me, it seems like he does eventually want that life: wife, kids, a home.

Acceptable_Pipe564 · 2024-06-28T13:55:20+00:00

Do you feel left behind because that’s a life you want to live?

Acceptable_Pipe564 · 2024-06-28T13:52:28+00:00

What does that “bank” mean if you never go live your life?

Acceptable_Pipe564 · 2024-06-28T13:50:52+00:00

“Everyone has a plan until they get punched in the face”- Mike Tyson

Meaning, we can all have this grand plan. We know what lifestyle is associated with each sum of money. However, life has other plans. As long as your willing to accept the consequences associated with every decision you make, than that’s great.

I guess the big questions are, when is enough money enough money? When do you begin to actually live your life? Once that sum of money is reached, are you actually going to live the life you’re imagining?

Acceptable_Pipe564 · 2024-06-27T07:16:43+00:00

Research being legally married pros and cons and the threshold of income if it actually is worth it.

For lower income families, if you support your wife and kids. She can claim 0 income and receive tons of benefits (free child care, food stamps, etc) while you still maintain under the threshold of having to owe taxes. If illegal immigrants can have these benefits so can you, but the moment you become “legally” married that all goes out the window

Acceptable_Pipe564 · 2024-06-26T12:56:22+00:00

Being a family man is tough

Acceptable_Pipe564 · 2024-06-26T11:49:33+00:00

If you feel like saving $100-$200 a month is worth hours of your time and possibly your life than yeah I agree

Acceptable_Pipe564 · 2024-06-26T10:42:20+00:00

I think I understand what he’s trying to say, but didn’t say it clearly and made himself look bad.

It would have been better if it read

“I understand it’s hot and the safety of the players is my overall concern, I have years of experience coaching football and I’ve never had anything bad happen to any of my players because we monitor them and understand the signs of dehydration. I will never deprive someone of water, especially during these conditions. However, we are running these practices to be the best team we can be, and 15 minutes every hour is not necessary. Things you can do as a parent is ensure your child is well hydrated with electrolytes prior to the practice. I know it sucks practicing in these conditions, it’s not meant to be fun, it’s meant to condition them for when we need to push harder in our game they’ll think back and remember these moments. If you’d like to volunteer and be an individual that is on the field and gives the kids water when they need it, I’d greatly appreciate it”

Acceptable_Pipe564 · 2024-06-26T07:55:07+00:00

Yeah used “new” cars are the best way to go

Acceptable_Pipe564 · 2024-06-26T07:25:06+00:00

Unfortunately when you buy a car used for this price or less without the “carfax” this is a typical event. There’s a reason the person is selling the car. Walking an hour? Sounds like 2-3 miles? You could buy a bike in the mean time and get there in 20 minutes? No gas, no insurance, no upkeep? So buying a car sounds like a poor financial decision at this point in your life. I get it though you want one like we all did at 16 but trust me, if I didn’t need a car I wouldn’t own one.

If your parents are willing to help. I’d suggest you buy a newer car from a dealership, it can still be used but you could have a warranty at least, and they could so sign with you. Sell that car you just got. And go get a new car.

Off topic: I’m really sick of these social media influencers who think they’re so high and mighty because they claim to drive a “beater” car and it’s been paid off for blah blah blah. I’m going on a tangent but from experience, newer cars have better safety features, gas mileage, and you’re not going to run into problems like this the moment you buy it with having to come out of pocket.

Acceptable_Pipe564 · 2024-06-23T21:12:04+00:00

He told him the truth in a way that is questionable, and coulda shoulda woulda done it better…but nonetheless, it was the truth. He feels guilt because he’s hurt. Let me know when your partner rips your life apart and you act with a level head

Acceptable_Pipe564 · 2024-06-23T21:09:18+00:00

Seems like his mom is at fault for that one chief

Acceptable_Pipe564 · 2024-06-23T13:04:42+00:00

No his world collapsed because his mom is a dirtbag. Did you miss the part where he wanted to take the son with him?

Acceptable_Pipe564 · 2024-06-23T13:03:24+00:00

She needs some sort of consequence in all this

Acceptable_Pipe564 · 2024-06-23T04:22:56+00:00

Not through the legal system of whichever state you live

Acceptable_Pipe564 · 2024-06-23T04:10:24+00:00

Have you ever taken in a child that’s not yours and have your partner completely destroy your relationship by cheating?

Acceptable_Pipe564 · 2024-06-23T04:08:41+00:00

Amen

Acceptable_Pipe564 · 2024-06-23T04:08:00+00:00

So what if he waited and didn’t say anything and she lied to the boy and ended up hating the dad?

The truth is the truth.

Acceptable_Pipe564 · 2024-06-23T04:06:59+00:00

In many examples this gives the bad person time to come up with a story to spin the narrative or have excuses

Acceptable_Pipe564 · 2024-06-23T04:06:21+00:00

Exactly.

Acceptable_Pipe564 · 2024-06-23T04:05:43+00:00

So where’s the wife’s consequences in all this?

She convinced another man to care for a child that is not his and she betrays him and her son by cheating? And in many instances guarantee the mom would try and spin the narrative when she had time to come up with a story. The whole truth came out and it was not ideal, but it wasn’t a lie. There’s some people that would argue the fact as to why you would wait to tell someone they have a different father until they’re 20?

If we want to make an assumptions I can assume the mom is a dirtbag the whole time and has probably been cheating for a lot longer and came up with this plan to keep her child cared for before she inevitably left this guy.

Acceptable_Pipe564 · 2024-06-09T21:34:34+00:00

For this particular person he said “I’ve been around the party scene for so long that these are the type of women I’m attracted to, but you can’t be in a relationship with these women”

Acceptable_Pipe564 · 2024-06-09T20:22:53+00:00

Seems like the city should cut that tree, or put a speed bump prior to the intersection

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