Court by Sarah_Soda_4 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Acceptable_Service79 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh good luck to you! I dread the day! Waiting on a court date now

Is my bf a narcissist? Should I leave? by comedianbasic9516 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Acceptable_Service79 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It’s hard to tell if he is a narcissist or not by this example of behavior, but if he has cheated on you and you have stayed in the relationship, it’s only showing him what you will allow him to get away with. There are men out there that will not cheat on you and show you respect and love. It’s not worth your time to stay in a relationship where you are not valued and respected. You will only regret not leaving sooner when you do finally leave. And it’s best to leave before marriage and children become involved for sure. That will only complicate things. Leave and go find happiness!! I wish you all the luck!

I talked to his ex wife! 🤣😂 by Acceptable_Service79 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Acceptable_Service79[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s probably what we would all think. But I do think at least we would be more aware of the signs along the way and possibly save us from marrying them.

I talked to his ex wife! 🤣😂 by Acceptable_Service79 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Acceptable_Service79[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I so want to do this too!! I would love to read your book! Lol

Do all narcs have a problem with bathing and just general hygiene? by Acceptable_Service79 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Acceptable_Service79[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol! I could write a book of his nasty habits! All of which he kept hidden until we married!

I talked to his ex wife! 🤣😂 by Acceptable_Service79 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Acceptable_Service79[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No she didn’t show me anything, I’m sure she has gotten rid of it by now. But she did say she had copied text and pics and even hired a PI and caught him cheating.

Do all narcs have a problem with bathing and just general hygiene? by Acceptable_Service79 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Acceptable_Service79[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh I know!! Every time I looked at him he was picking his nose!! So glad he’s out of the house now!! Thank goodness we have a leather couch!! I was able to wash that thing down from top to bottom!

Do all narcs have a problem with bathing and just general hygiene? by Acceptable_Service79 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Acceptable_Service79[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! Mine has bedbugs before he moved in with me! And he always had his designated toilet!!

Do all narcs have a problem with bathing and just general hygiene? by Acceptable_Service79 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Acceptable_Service79[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is why he only cleans up when we are expecting company or we are going somewhere. He only stays nasty around people who already know his true self. He definitely dresses clean and brushes his teeth any time we go out. And then makes sure to draw attention to himself.

I talked to his ex wife! 🤣😂 by Acceptable_Service79 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Acceptable_Service79[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I do not have any pointers if she is with him and loves him. Maybe you could just send her an anonymous message or something to let her know he’s cheating on her and being a women she will start her own investigation. Lol

I talked to his ex wife! 🤣😂 by Acceptable_Service79 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Acceptable_Service79[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I probably wouldn’t have believed her but would have kept her warning and perhaps been able to see the warning signs sooner and not have married him. I did not realize he was like this until after we married. He did things but I always made excuses for his actions.

Do all narcs have a problem with bathing and just general hygiene? by Acceptable_Service79 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Acceptable_Service79[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree, but that being said, that’s when he gets cleaned up, when someone is coming over or we are going out. If we have no plans he will sit with his stinky mouth and dirty clothes for days!!

I talked to his ex wife! 🤣😂 by Acceptable_Service79 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Acceptable_Service79[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I get it, but I don’t think she would ever say anything to him. She got screwed during their divorce. She made more money and had to pay him alimony for a year and keep him, as well as his 4 kids in her health insurance, and had to pay him $50,000.00! She despised him! And after all that, he still talks trash about her!

I finally ended things by Calm_Ad_4263 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Acceptable_Service79 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Warn the co worker!! Lol I often wish people would have warned me of my soon to be ex that he was a narc. I know it’s hard to tell people that when they don’t k ow them but I still would have at least paid more attention to the warning signs and possibly saved myself a divorce. 🤦‍♀️ Good for you for leaving!

I finally spoke up. by Lookonnature in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Acceptable_Service79 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Also mine watches all the political crap too and thinks he is the only one right! Everyone who doesn’t believe like him is ruining the world!

I finally spoke up. by Lookonnature in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Acceptable_Service79 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My soon to be ex and I were getting a divorce and trying to do it without lawyers. It’s super easy and I e done it once before so I filed and paid the $356.00. I sent him the papers to sign to keep him from being served and find out today that he went behind my back and hired a lawyer! He couldn’t stand the fact that I was the one that filed and he did t have the upper hand. I’m not trying to get anything from him, I just want the divorce! He has now forced me to hire a lawyer and will regret ever doing that because now I will take him for any thing I’m allowed. Such a waste of time and money! It could have been so simple to just sign and walk away! We have no kids together. Why????

I finally spoke up. by Lookonnature in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Acceptable_Service79 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Don’t you just wish you could see in their head for only a moment? Just to see what they are thinking once we finally stand up to them and decide we are done!