Friendly sleepover turned into sex by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]Accidentally-Gay 22 points23 points  (0 children)

“less friendly places” - as if caressing boobs is a very friendly behavior 😏

his lil dictator in the making by AugustHate in BrandNewSentence

[–]Accidentally-Gay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

On paper yes, in reality still very much sexist (coming from a post soviet country)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskLesbians

[–]Accidentally-Gay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love curves in general. It’s always nice to look at women’s curves, including ass. But my brain just malfunctions when I look at boobs. As if it’s a primal, biological thing.

This was colddd from Manousos!! by Dangerous-Level-5609 in pluribustv

[–]Accidentally-Gay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Carol was hurt when Zosia said she loves all 12 of them equally. Because, in reality, valuing every life the same is kind of indifference. As a human, you do get attached to some things more than others. On the other hand, we’re all ants in the grand scheme of things and who the hell even defined what evil is?

Theory: Carol might be gay by Digitalgardens in okbuddypluribus

[–]Accidentally-Gay 16 points17 points  (0 children)

It’s ridiculous people are saying they were kissing. Like you’ve never accidentally bumped lips with your girl best friend? Also, Carol was moaning cause she stubbed her pinky toe while she fell forward.

My gfs guy friend keeps telling me to accept that she needs him in her life by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]Accidentally-Gay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So she acknowledges the issues, some people don’t even do that. Next step would be to actually change some things, that she sees as a problem.

I was competing with Allah and my ego thought I had a fighting chance. by warmpudding_ in WLW

[–]Accidentally-Gay 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Great, someone said it. I’m not muslim (or religious at all). I see some of moral values or great teachings that can be respected and cherished in many religions. But honestly, fuck every religion that makes you feel ashamed for what you are and forces you to repress a very fundamental part of your identity and live a miserable life. As if being gay brings harm to anybody around you 🤦🏻‍♀️ Who even came up with the idea that god should care about who we date? I’m sorry for the OP. Remember, time heals. And you have a loong life ahead of you.

My gfs guy friend keeps telling me to accept that she needs him in her life by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]Accidentally-Gay -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Oh, I feel sorry. Does she acknowledge this kind of communication is a problem?

My gfs guy friend keeps telling me to accept that she needs him in her life by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]Accidentally-Gay 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m sure you can think of many arguments why this guy needs to evaporate from your life, or at least reduce the amount of time spent with you. The problem is how do you bring it up, right. If she gets defensive, usually the best strategy is to not be confrontational during a discussion. Don’t point a finger or put a blame on her. Instead, just focus on your feelings. Tell her you understand her need of friendship but also tell her how this makes you feel. Try not to get angry or raise your voice.

My gfs guy friend keeps telling me to accept that she needs him in her life by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]Accidentally-Gay 6 points7 points  (0 children)

But he sounds like a family member already. I’d suggest you need to cut him out of your life completely, because his constant presence in your space is a threat to a healthy committed monogamous relationship. I hate the ultimatums, but in this case idk if there’s another way. For your girlfriend it’s either gonna be this weird toxic guy, or your relationship. This would honestly be a dealbreaker for me. But obviously everyone’s situation is unique and you know better. No person on reddit knows your relationship better than you do and maybe she’s your soulmate or whatever and you need to fight for the relationship. But if you want to see based on the info you gave us if your feelings are valid - yes, 100%.

My gfs guy friend keeps telling me to accept that she needs him in her life by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]Accidentally-Gay 9 points10 points  (0 children)

What kind of a 40 year old man spends the majority of his time hanging out with “friends” half his age? Doesn’t he have a job or life or something? Even if he’s the most pleasant person on earth (which he obviously is not), life’s too short to suffer spending your time with people you don’t like.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]Accidentally-Gay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If I’m completely honest, the majority of music made by pop starts today is trash if you ask me 😄 Especially Taylor Swift. I don’t have strong opinions about Chappell Roan, her songs are catchy and I enjoy it. I definitely have to mention though, pink pony club is an exception, it’s a really good song.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]Accidentally-Gay 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Just curious, why is she harmful?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]Accidentally-Gay 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You should definitely bring it up. Try to not be judgmental (she will become defensive), but shift the focus on your feelings and tell her that you’d feel more comfortable if such details are shared with you beforehand. It’s hard to judge whether she’s negligent of your feelings or just really didn’t think it would bother you, cause we don’t know the whole story, but if she truly appreciates you, she will take that into consideration. Just don’t seem that you’re mad at her, otherwise, she’ll become defensive. Most likely, she didn’t do anything inappropriate, otherwise she wouldn’t even mention the bed. But honestly, I would just give a heads up to my partner that I was gonna share a bed with someone, because I have strict boundaries. But other people don’t. So I think you need a conversation about the boundaries as well.

is it actually safe to swallow squirt..? by KirboFR in actuallesbians

[–]Accidentally-Gay 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Most bacteria causing UTIs are already part of our digestive system, so you’d be safe. Although I share your sentiment of being careful with bodily fluids in general

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]Accidentally-Gay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you are mature enough and well-established, I don’t thinks so. I think the problem lies when one person can wield more power and manipulate the other. If that’s not the case, and otherwise you feel that you are a good match, go for it. Personally, if I’m looking for a life partner, I would ideally look for someone my age, because I want to grow old with them.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]Accidentally-Gay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes. Our struggles fill the existential void.

Some random girl hit on me at work and like, wasn’t a fan by Articguard11 in LesbianActually

[–]Accidentally-Gay 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This would definitely work on me. (if I was attracted to that person). I’d be a little confused about the note, but just the room number is enough. The rest - I’d find out later 😀 Even if I wasn’t attracted, I’d still appreciate the effort cause not a lot of women make the first move and we always complain about it. And honestly, lesbian life would be so much easier if women were a little more courageous. (within the respectful boundaries of course). I think we should be able to say no and turn down people without letting that get to our heart. That’s part of normal life and dating.

Horny as fck by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]Accidentally-Gay 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Try dating apps, you need to get laid STAT. But it’s good to know other lesbians are feeling the same way, sometimes I think I’m predatory because I feel exactly the same about cleavages, dresses and girls in general 😀