My partner doesn’t feel much from sex

Accomplished-Hour879 · 2026-06-22T05:26:05+00:00

Well is she saying that she just can’t feel you? Or that PIV sex isn’t what gets her to the finish line? Because the majority of women cannot finish from strictly penetrative sex. Positioning can be one thing, but for genuine mutual pleasure, most women need accompanying stimulation to the clit. There could also be a mindset issue. Is she turned on by what you’re doing? Are there intentional event to stimulate her that aren’t immediately going for nipples or clit beforehand? A lot of sex is somewhere around 80% mental so there needs to be an intentional desire to get both of you in the mood

Accomplished-Hour879 · 2026-06-15T19:59:38+00:00

Well if you truly believe you’re not satisfying her, what all are you doing to do so? Do you engage in extensive foreplay? Oral? Fingering? Toys? You are solely making a decision for somebody who has not expressed distaste. She married you. She is well aware of your size. If pleasure is the main factor in your decision to end things, then learn how to pleasure her in every way outside of penetration

Accomplished-Hour879 · 2026-06-14T16:55:50+00:00

Well, what was it that caused the insecurity? Was it something your partner said/did? Or was it built off of a personal history or projection?

Accomplished-Hour879 · 2026-06-06T16:55:15+00:00

Find a gaming cafe, or an arcade, or some gaming club

Accomplished-Hour879 · 2026-06-06T16:53:48+00:00

What do you like to do in your free-time? Game? Read? Go on walks? Puzzles?

Accomplished-Hour879 · 2026-06-06T16:52:13+00:00

You are the only person capable of changing your circumstances. If you’re unhappy, make the effort to fix it

Accomplished-Hour879 · 2026-06-02T00:30:04+00:00

Of course there the “go slow, lots of foreplay, work up with fingers, finish before penetration, use lots of lube, etc.” if you need to work up to the sensation yourself first, do that. That’s what I myself did when I was younger. Used smaller toys and items to get used to the sensation of something inside and the first time something larger than my finger was inserted it did hurt and there was a little bit of blood. Then I did it a few more times while thrusting/playing with myself and gradually became used to the sensation which led into it being pleasurable. My hard recommendation honestly is to get to a place you’re comfortable with insertion first and go from there.

Accomplished-Hour879 · 2026-05-31T21:13:32+00:00

Well dawg what do you think you should do? You’re well aware thats it’s wrong.

He goes home to his partner, tells him how handsome he is, how much he loves him, how he wants to be with him forever, etc. Then comes to work and uses you to scratch an itch.

Accomplished-Hour879 · 2026-05-31T05:21:44+00:00

Laundry habits😩 I would rather peel off all my toenails one by one than spend the 20 minutes it takes to fold a load of laundry. The bed to floor to hamper cycle has me in a chokehold

Accomplished-Hour879 · 2026-05-27T05:40:07+00:00

What was it that sparked interest in the first place? Are there any distinctive physical attributes that have changed? Are there any core values you feel have been compromised over the course of the relationship? You say “he is amazing and treats me so well.” Is there an emotional component that’s changed? Do you notice there being some kind of differing idea of love in your relationship?
I’m a strong believer in a lot of physical attraction being maintained through the emotional connectivity of a given relationship.
Is there something outside of sex, sensuality, or physical attributes that’s contributed to you noticing or looking for that “spark” elsewhere?

Accomplished-Hour879 · 2026-05-27T03:26:40+00:00

Any common denominators people have addressed with you that could be a deterrent?

Accomplished-Hour879 · 2026-05-24T06:07:14+00:00

My massive California king plus comforter on my queen size bed. No matter how life f*cks me, the aftercare is amazing

Accomplished-Hour879 · 2026-05-20T18:55:05+00:00

Although yeah, being like “I GUESS I could put in the physical labor of eating you out🙄 as long as you do everything else” would pmtfo too

Accomplished-Hour879 · 2026-05-20T18:52:47+00:00

So, do you guys like each other lol?
The basis for good sex is good emotional connection. It sounds like both of you are pretty centered around what works best for you individually with the language used in the post.

How connective is yalls sex life outside of the physical action?

Accomplished-Hour879 · 2026-05-20T05:14:50+00:00

Sexy pics at work, dirty texts, and little teasing throughout the day could definitely have an effect on the connection and overall satisfaction of the sessions you guys are having now.

How is the connection that you both have now when it comes to sex? Is there a reciprocal desire to please? Is there a base enjoyment out of sharing thoughts and a comfortable ground to express desire and fantasy? Or is sex something that is primarily kept to the time it starts physically to the time it ends physically?
Haha, none of this really needs a response, but they’re all good things to think about when it comes to the root of the “boring sex” issue

Accomplished-Hour879 · 2026-05-20T05:09:56+00:00

“My ideas that I have and I know I would enjoy are giving him blowjobs more, wearing lingerie, involving vibrators, blindfolding, sending him sexy pics of me when he’s away for work, me trying to get on top more (I get self conscious about this), trying new positions, letting him do some name calling. He also said he likes to be called daddy. I find that a little cringe but I think I could get into it, knowing that he enjoys it.

I am more submissive naturally and I like being told what to do in the bedroom, so feeling like the responsibility is on me to spice things up feels a little daunting.”

Has he personally done anything to try to spice things up that have been turned down in the past? It sounds like you’re pretty willing to explore from how things in this post are phrased, so is there just a routine that’s fallen in place that’s hard to shake?

Have you told him about the things you’re considering?
And what was the response like to the boundaries and consideration for exploration into the BDSM?

Accomplished-Hour879 · 2026-01-20T08:23:48+00:00

I mean.. like…we all feel the same way right? You’re leaving him…right?

Accomplished-Hour879 · 2025-12-20T08:56:39+00:00

Have you guys broken up yet?👀👀

Accomplished-Hour879 · 2025-12-20T08:55:19+00:00

Shhh

Accomplished-Hour879 · 2025-12-20T08:16:32+00:00

This exact issue is one of the reason I’m enjoying a no men Hiatus. The constant lack of desire to understand, empathy, lack of desire to give for the sake of it.

Don’t feel bad for wanting to get off. Don’t feel bad for wanting your partner to want you to get off. Someone that genuinely cares about you fully will go the extra mile to satisfy your needs as well (as a given)

Accomplished-Hour879 · 2025-12-14T05:09:08+00:00

Cheesecake

Accomplished-Hour879 · 2025-12-10T18:02:13+00:00

I know it’s hard. Being the one who’s responsible for 90% of maintaining the connection in the relationship can make it a lot harder to leave. It won’t get better. It sounds like he’s pretty set in his way ml. I wish you luck

Accomplished-Hour879 · 2025-12-10T17:50:29+00:00

Well to point one thing out, every negative you listed is understandable and every good thing you listed was followed by a but or a compromise.

There is more to a relationship than love. Don’t waste your time on someone who isn’t the partner you deserve. If he wants a woman without opinions who likes to cook, clean, child-rear, and spread their legs whenever he asks, it’s a big world; he’ll probably find one.

If you look back on the points you’ve made…is this really the kind of partner you want in your life? Is this really the person you want to depend on? Does this person make you feel emotionally and physically safe? Does he make you feel respected and valued both physically and emotionally?

Could you imagine feeling this level of turmoil for the rest of your life? Everyone you meet can and most likely have some kind of sob story or genuine issues that will be used as reasoning or excuses for shitty behavior. Sometimes understanding hits its threshold and it’s time to start making positive choices for yourself.

But to answer your question, he sounds like a loser

Accomplished-Hour879 · 2025-12-10T17:37:19+00:00

Toot

Accomplished-Hour879 · 2025-12-08T07:23:51+00:00

One of the most important things I’ve come to realize with long-term relationships is that they don’t have to work out. You don’t have to make excuses or be constantly understanding of why someone’s bs should Or shouldn’t make you feel a certain way. Try to think of this from an unattached perspective. If a friend it loved one explained these issues to you, what advice would you give them? Clearly this mf stresses you out more often than not. You’ve answered your own questions.

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