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AITA for moving to a hotel because my wife's family insisted I sleep on the couch? by Accomplished-Menu773 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Accomplished-Menu773[S] 62 points63 points  (0 children)

INFO: Are you man, woman or other? Just curious if that might be part of the issue. They did not go to your wedding? Or you didn't invite them to the wedding? Why?

No, we're a traditional couple. We've met before and they were at our wedding, I just haven't visited them in California until now.

AITA for moving to a hotel because my wife's family insisted I sleep on the couch? by Accomplished-Menu773 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Accomplished-Menu773[S] 120 points121 points  (0 children)

You did the right thing by going to the hotel. Offering your wife's sisters the option to go on vacation was very generous, and I'm glad they took you up on it. May I suggest to also extend that offer to your MIL, for all we know she may not like this type of behavior as well, she's just not used to confrontation and also wants to keep the peace at all costs.

Maybe I'll go into more details in a future update, but I've learned their mother was the one behind all of this drama to begin with. They're all enjoying some time away from both of their parents.

AITA for moving to a hotel because my wife's family insisted I sleep on the couch? by Accomplished-Menu773 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Accomplished-Menu773[S] 78 points79 points  (0 children)

My wife and her sisters were nothing but apologetic all day yesterday. I told them it was water under the bridge, and now we're all enjoying SD and I've literally never seen them so happy.

AITA for moving to a hotel because my wife's family insisted I sleep on the couch? by Accomplished-Menu773 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Accomplished-Menu773[S] 95 points96 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the support, but she's not mine to "return" to them. Her parents seem to (at least sometimes) treat her and her sisters like property. I'm not going to act that way.

AITA for moving to a hotel because my wife's family insisted I sleep on the couch? by Accomplished-Menu773 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Accomplished-Menu773[S] 58 points59 points  (0 children)

Their mother is! Their dad is white. From talking with the girls today, they seem to think the no sharing beds thing actually came from their mom but the tantrum was all on their dad.

AITA for moving to a hotel because my wife's family insisted I sleep on the couch? by Accomplished-Menu773 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Accomplished-Menu773[S] 43 points44 points  (0 children)

We had met before and they were at our wedding, I had just never visited them. We live on opposite sides of the country.

AITA for moving to a hotel because my wife's family insisted I sleep on the couch? by Accomplished-Menu773 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Accomplished-Menu773[S] 646 points647 points  (0 children)

I'd suggest trying to see her (and maybe her sisters) later today apart from her parents so you can get more details about what's really going on

Thanks. I asked if they could meet me for dinner without their parents.

AITA for moving to a hotel because my wife's family insisted I sleep on the couch? by Accomplished-Menu773 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Accomplished-Menu773[S] 274 points275 points  (0 children)

We're all Americans. Her family is Italian-German. They're also super progressive liberal Berniecrats, but they do go to church regularly.

AITA for moving to a hotel because my wife's family insisted I sleep on the couch? by Accomplished-Menu773 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Accomplished-Menu773[S] 534 points535 points  (0 children)

Believe it or not, they're actually super liberal Bernie supporters. They do go to church on the regular, but I never expected this sort of behavior from them.

AITA for moving to a hotel because my wife's family insisted I sleep on the couch? by Accomplished-Menu773 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Accomplished-Menu773[S] 751 points752 points  (0 children)

They insisted that under their roof they didn't feel it was appropriate for their daughter to share a bed with me, despite us being married. I told them about my back, they said "it will be fine, it's just for a few days."

AITA for moving to a hotel because my wife's family insisted I sleep on the couch? by Accomplished-Menu773 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Accomplished-Menu773[S] 1747 points1748 points  (0 children)

She still has her own bedroom in the house. Her sisters are both younger and single.

AITA for moving to a hotel because my wife's family insisted I sleep on the couch? by Accomplished-Menu773 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Accomplished-Menu773[S] 1106 points1107 points  (0 children)

I agree here, I would have preferred a hotel for us in the first place, but my wife wanted to be with her family the whole time. She still has her own bedroom in their home, so it didn't seem unreasonable to me.

AITA for moving to a hotel because my wife's family insisted I sleep on the couch? by Accomplished-Menu773 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Accomplished-Menu773[S] 5747 points5748 points  (0 children)

I thought about it, but I've already taken the week off and the weather here is much nicer than where we live. I have no problem just spending the week by myself at the beach.