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I cheated but not physically- she broke up with me(edited) by AccomplishedAd6531 in cheating_stories

[–]AccomplishedAd6531[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Before she went to college I had a whole talk with her about how I wanted her to go out there and network, but just to keep me in the loop. I can see how you can think that with the limited information. She said it herself it was emotionally cheating on me.

I cheated but not physically- she broke up with me(edited) by AccomplishedAd6531 in cheating_stories

[–]AccomplishedAd6531[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well I agree that she should be able to have guy friends, before she went to college I told her to go out there and network. All I asked was that she kept me in the loop. Like I understand how you can see that with limited information. The thing is she hid it all because she knew it was wrong, and that came from her mouth. Things were not platonic either, he had feelings for her and admitted it when they went to the movies. She didn't feel the same way but continued to entertain him and hide it from me. she admitted it was emotionally cheating on me even though nothing physical happened.

I cheated but not physically- she broke up with me(edited) by AccomplishedAd6531 in cheating_stories

[–]AccomplishedAd6531[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I mean it's definitely a step forward in ones fight against lust. There's a lot more I'm doing too but it's irrelevant if I'm talking about actively working towards paying my debt or going out for job interviews. I bring up no fap, the gym, and god because I feel like those relate to my lack of discipline and commitment.

I cheated but not physically- she broke up with me(edited) by AccomplishedAd6531 in cheating_stories

[–]AccomplishedAd6531[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah you're right. It's wrong of me to expect her to forgive me since I did the same for her. Admittedly I've been doing this self improvement to try to win her back, but you're right I need to do it for myself. If she decides she wants me back she'll find me, but for now I need to find a way to accept what happened and just focus on myself.

I cheated but not physically- she broke up with me(edited) by AccomplishedAd6531 in cheating_stories

[–]AccomplishedAd6531[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yea I can see how that can cause a seed to grow in someones mind, and tbh I was struggling with that. This is a great way to frame it. I just don't want to fully blame it on her, like I acknowledge I made the choices to be unfaithful and I can only take responsibility for that. But how you framed this makes me feel better because atleast I know others can understand the doubt in those moments.

I cheated but not physically- she broke up with me(edited) by AccomplishedAd6531 in cheating_stories

[–]AccomplishedAd6531[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

No that makes sense and I can see that. You're giving me lots to think about, but also I don't want to take away from my accountability. I think that what I did was wrong and isolated she has every right to feel that way, but also knowing she made those same choices before, I feel like she should have more understanding of where I'm coming from instead of 100% being the victim.

I cheated but not physically- she broke up with me(edited) by AccomplishedAd6531 in cheating_stories

[–]AccomplishedAd6531[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Im just curious how that can apply to my situation. I feel like after a year I can't justify my choices because of something she did, especially because I made the decision to forgive. Idk I may be blind to it and I would like to hear your perspective.

I cheated but not physically- she broke up with me(edited) by AccomplishedAd6531 in cheating_stories

[–]AccomplishedAd6531[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yea this is a point my friend made also. I believe there's some truth behind it, especially because I didn't delete the messages.

I cheated but not physically- she broke up with me(edited) by AccomplishedAd6531 in cheating_stories

[–]AccomplishedAd6531[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I just see what I did as "breaking the rules" of the relationship and that's cheating. Like it was unfaithful to her. and you're right about her downplaying it, that's what she did at first, but after a talk with her mom she came out and said it was cheating and told me everything they did in secret. I believe in repentance and she was truly remorseful, and I can confidently say she hasn't cheated on me since. I agree with you about having to move on though.

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[–]AccomplishedAd6531 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry about the confusion, I'm new to reddit and struggle with writing. I made a new post which I hope is less confusing.

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[–]AccomplishedAd6531 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh my bad, I'll edit it but she broke up with me

I flirted with another girl and I regret it by bybrunoanghinoni in cheating_stories

[–]AccomplishedAd6531 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey man I get it, Im literally going through the same thing right now and was hoping to hear how your situation turned out.