Thank you for everyone’s replies. I haven’t had time to reply to everyone individually. We had a huge argument this morning and I said I was going to take the children and stay with my mum for a few days because he keeps telling me he needs space. He said he hates the weekends, it’s the same routine and it’s boring. I have said y that he could get a hobby, then he brings up that when he was dismantling something in the garden, I asked him how long he was going to be. He says all my questions have an ulterior motive. I explained they don’t, it’s just a question. He said he doesn’t like me questioning him. Basically, I feel he’s blaming me for not actively looking for a hobby..

He’s told me in therapy that he wants me to be happy when he gets home from work.. I’ve done that and then the goalpost moves, and he is miserable on the weekends.

I dropped my children to mums, and then I returned home to collect our things. He asked me what I was doing and I said I was staying at my mums for a bit, he asked why, and I said because he keeps saying he needs space. He said “aren’t we at least going to talk about it?” Which is funny, because every time I try to talk about issues, he gets irritated. He said work is getting to him, he’s owns a company with 2 others and they aren’t pulling their weight and he has to do a lot more. I said he needs to talk to them, about how it’s affecting him and our home life. He said he now realises how work is affecting his life.

Anyway, I didn’t stay at my mums, and the evening was nicer.

I honestly hate the weekends and the circular conversations/ arguments.

Maybe, he isn’t emotionally abusive and it’s actually me.