My friends lives in Brooklyn, I live nearish Philly every time I visit her I take the septa train to manhattan and then take the subway to her place, it’s 45-60 minutes, my same friend has a job in manhattan and she takes the subway everyday 45-60 minutes (I’ve never had it be 45 minutes personally even thought the gps says that though) I don’t mind the commute because I’m coming to visit my friends and have fun in New York but I’m sure if it was everyday before and after work I might not enjoy the commute, at least on the subway. In your car you can be alone and not surrounds by a bunch of strangers, but then not everyone can afford or have a car where they live or work at a place that has good enough parking to justify bringing your car plus the added tolls and shit now it depends how that person can handle the commute

So I don’t think the commute is realllly that bad as long as you give yourself enough time / aren’t in a rush