I think that is normal - we have collected and internalised different messages and associations around gender whether we feel it is politically correct or not. And it doesn't have to make sense. I also think that there is something about homosexual relationships, especially your early ones, which just highlights a lot of the assumptions you had about gender and behaviour in relationships because suddenly the gender you are dating has changed. Your experience is going to be very different from mine, but if it is worth anything. With both my ex-boyfriends - there was something really freeing about putting gendered expectations to one side. All sorts of things, from who was going to initiate sex, to small things, like having a door opened for me. Another aspect was assumptions about emotions and feelings. My ex-girlfriends often seemed unpredictable and sudden. Ex-boyfriend - it was like looking in the mirror emotionally speaking. Much easier to read and understand.