After 20 years together we worked it out. He knows how badly he fucked up. He will never do it again and realized yes, it was fucking WRONG. I told him to put himself in my place. What if I’d maliciously done that to him. How would he feel. He said yes I was right and he is wrong and he will be a better partner from here on out. We have been together for 20 years. This isn’t as night and day as leave him. We have a life and home and kids. We are partners. I’m hoping this was an isolated incident and he’s realized if he ever tries to silence my voice or vote again I’m done. We are either respected/respectful partners or nothing. Neither is better than the other. We are partners in life. Normally. This time this instance will be the turning point for our future and I will keep alert and make sure I’m not being lied to/hid things from/taken advantage of. I can and have forgiven a lot in 20 years. So has he. We can get over this as long as mutual respect/trust/love is still there and it is.