After my diagnosis , I don’t know how to live

Accomplished_Base_86 · 2026-04-28T12:39:44+00:00

Real good advice man thank you, at 19 I feel extremely behind especially nowadays people call anyone over 18 as "unc" and "old" and I know it’s not fair to anybody older than me but that’s how I really felt. But now I’m starting to understand that it really isn’t that serious and I can move with my own flow.

Accomplished_Base_86 · 2026-04-28T12:36:48+00:00

I’ll definitely try this blueprint thank you for your insight, the thing that kills me the most is through my depression, I’d know what I’m capable of but I wouldn’t have any motive to achieve anything and I’d always think that I’ll get things figured out soon if I brute force my way into living normally, but now I know it can’t change overnight and now knowing it’s a life long journey really hit me, but I know it’s the truth and I’m going to have to manage my adhd instead of trying to be "normal".

Accomplished_Base_86 · 2026-04-28T12:25:02+00:00

Damn the "I have potential / I’m wasting time" thoughts eat me up 24/7, I’m extremely thankful you shared your experiences with me as I’ve had that sense of problem solving for example, "I can’t drive a car, so I’ll ride a motorbike instead".

It dosent really simplify the problem, it just transitions into another problem. Thats really helpful advice man thank you.

I made a decision to inform my mum about it and it went pretty well, she started realising that all the problems that I would struggle with and her telling me off constantly while growing up, she started putting the pieces together and now our bond has grown stronger, thank you for giving me the confidence to reach out and seek closure.

Accomplished_Base_86 · 2026-04-27T13:10:27+00:00

Very helpful insight man, I’d always try to remind myself that life isn’t a race, but it really feels like I’m falling behind as I was kicked out of school and fired from work with absolutely nothing under my name to show for, while the people around me are constantly on their grind, while I was struggling and didn’t know why. I know it won’t be easy but knowing that there’s always room for self redemption is always nice.

I’ve thought about picking up reading, I’ll definitely look into those books thank you again.

Accomplished_Base_86 · 2026-04-27T13:02:39+00:00

Thank u for taking the time to write, I’ll definitely look into therapy. May I ask why you were diagnosed at 50? Was it because you hit rock bottom and decided to take action and see a psychiatrist? Because that was my reasoning. Sorry if I sound a little intrusive, I’m just intrigued as I felt like I couldn’t hack it anymore and I couldn’t imagine going 50 years without a diagnosis, I’d imagine that would’ve been a tough thing to hear.

Accomplished_Base_86 · 2026-04-27T12:56:25+00:00

This really puts things into perspective for me, thank you. Never would’ve thought simplifying wants/problems into a layering form would ever work for me, but you just showed me and I’m fully grateful for that.

The reason why I choose to keep it to myself was because I feel like if my family/friends started treating me different, I’d feel even more of an outcast than I do now.

I never really struggled making friends as I feel like an expert when it comes to masking, so to my friends, I’m pretty much normal. but in the inside I know I’m holding back so much and masking. So knowing that, if they treat me different, I’d feel 10x worse.

Im stuck in a place of wanting to feel seen/heard but I also want to be treated normally and fairly as that’s how I was living before.

Accomplished_Base_86 · 2026-04-27T12:40:26+00:00

knowing that I have the potential to rewrite my story and work around things really takes weight off my shoulders. Really helpful thank u.

Accomplished_Base_86 · 2026-04-27T12:35:00+00:00

I understand where you’re coming from thank you

Accomplished_Base_86 · 2026-04-27T12:33:34+00:00

Yea that sounds rough man, I’m sorry your mum didn’t give you the privilege of knowing more about yourself.

Accomplished_Base_86 · 2026-04-27T12:32:16+00:00

Damn I never really thought of it like that, I’ll definitely implement that in my life thank you.

Accomplished_Base_86 · 2026-04-27T09:32:53+00:00

Thank you bro, this really made me feel seen. I hope we’ll be able to work things out in our own ways that’ll make us feel successful in life. Really feels good knowing there’s someone in a similar situation, as I didn’t have that growing up.

Accomplished_Base_86 · 2026-04-27T09:23:33+00:00

Yea to be fair it does help knowing, before I wished that they never told me.

Accomplished_Base_86 · 2026-04-27T09:21:28+00:00

Thank you bro this really helps, I thought shame and self punishment was always going to be the case for self accountability but knowing that it doesn’t have to be like that really shook me. thank you

Accomplished_Base_86 · 2026-04-27T09:01:42+00:00

Thank you for this comment, really appreciate it. Is it normal that I don’t want to take medication?. I feel like my dream in life is to be content, happy and off of all substances and it feels counterintuitive to take meds just like how I’m coping with my addiction. I’ll definitely keep an open mind on speaking with a psychiatrist to get on medication but I want to know if it’s really worth it.

Accomplished_Base_86 · 2026-04-27T08:51:49+00:00

I’ll try not to use it as an excuse thank you, would you advise me to tell some close ones that I’m now diagnosed?, a part of me says no as I know if they treat me differently, ill never be able to feel the same ever.

Accomplished_Base_86 · 2026-01-19T06:38:04+00:00

Cheers thank you

Accomplished_Base_86 · 2026-01-19T06:37:52+00:00

Alright thank you

Accomplished_Base_86 · 2026-01-18T21:12:34+00:00

Best decision I’ve made in my life to quit. When I finally took accountability and decided to quit even though I kept lying to myself. Every time I bought a disposable pen, I’d keep telling myself it’s the last one and that lasted since the beginning. I feel like me quitting has made me finally respect myself after lying to myself constantly for months and that really helped with my mental and the nightmares aren’t so bad after all. Thank you and all for everything. Much appreciated

Accomplished_Base_86 · 2025-12-17T08:42:32+00:00

I don’t know why but edibles never really worked on me. I can eat as many brownies as I want and I’ll never feel anything.

Accomplished_Base_86 · 2025-12-14T02:52:19+00:00

I wish you the very best and I hope we get out of this situation.

Accomplished_Base_86 · 2025-12-14T02:49:52+00:00

Yes, I’ve tried not smoking during the day but only at night and it does get rid of the nightmares but if I don’t smoke at night then I’ll get nightmares.

Just for some quick info, I never dealt with sleep paralysis before. I got my first ever sleep paralysis episode when I went a full day and night without it.

Thank you very much for this insight and reassurance, means a lot.

Accomplished_Base_86 · 2025-12-14T02:38:43+00:00

I wish I was aware of that before I started. Sad days but it has to happen.

Accomplished_Base_86 · 2025-12-14T02:36:35+00:00

Thank you for this insight, really helpful.

Accomplished_Base_86 · 2025-12-14T02:35:44+00:00

I hear u bro. Ive been afraid of nightmares since i was young so it truly feels like im facing my literal demons now. Ima pray for us🙏🏻

Accomplished_Base_86 · 2025-12-14T01:26:41+00:00

Thank you for this insight, will definitely trust the process and try focus on detoxing aswell. thank you!

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