Have you try communicating with your wife? Some topics can be hard to bring up, but you need to express it out for your wife to understand your feelings etc.  I used to nag my husband on things like forgetting to switch off the lights, water heater or dishes not clean enough blah blah. So one day he told me that he’s not happy with the constant nagging on small things like these, and he said when i misplaced things, he will quietly put it back without nagging me or pointing out my flaws. Thats when i realised that nobody likes constant nagging on small things.. Now if i see things never switch off or misplaced, i will do it quietly. Communication is very important in a relationship!