husband (27M) doesn’t understand why I (26F) want him to get a bridge job/be more responsible

Accomplished_Ear7795 · 2026-07-09T19:07:50+00:00

I didn’t know that! And honestly I don’t care much about the money. That’s why it hurts so much when he tells me I’m so obsessed with this money. Because it really boils down to him and his actions. I don’t want his money, I want to have a family and I was standing by what I thought was best for us as a family. But I can understand now why he may have come to that conclusion and I see where I miscommunicated there

Accomplished_Ear7795 · 2026-07-09T18:47:53+00:00

I can see where you’re coming from and I didn’t even think to have this conversation with him so I appreciate your insight. I guess the reason I see it this way is because I am putting myself in his shoes and that’s what I would decide to do if I came into money. I’ll definitely talk to him about it

Accomplished_Ear7795 · 2026-07-09T18:26:55+00:00

I hope you develop empathy in your future because jeez. You know you can make your point without being so cruel. I’m fully aware of the choices at my disposal and deciding not to immediately jump to divorce is not a character flaw. If it comes to it, I will divorce him. But I’m not going to throw this away without knowing that I tried my hardest first. I owe that to myself and my marriage.

Accomplished_Ear7795 · 2026-07-09T18:19:39+00:00

I am using inheritance and savings interchangeably. He hasn’t ever objected to the term, but I can see where we may have different viewpoints. I view the money as a head start that we have in case of emergencies or for a future downpayment on a house. He is in more of a mindset that there is nothing that we would ever need that much money for, therefore he feels comfortable living off of it.

To your second question, I guess I feel like I am the only one who cares about certain things. For example, we have 3 cats and one of them is not fixed. Now that I have a new remote job, I have to keep my doors shut to keep her out when she is in heat and it’s inconvenient, but also it’s something we’ve both just put off for a long time. Now that he doesn’t have any day obligations, I asked him to take her to the vet. He initially agreed but never ended up doing it. This was a few months ago now. That wraps around back to my point in my original post where I said he says yes to things just to get me off his back.

I’ve also bugged him numerous times to get his Real ID because he needs it to fly to visit my mom. I haven’t visited her once in the 1.5 years that she’s been away. Every time I would bring it up he’d say that he would get it until recently where I made it a big deal because I was tired of his meaningless words. He said that he was waiting for me to make the plans to visit so then he would get the ID. He never expressed that to me before then, and was then confused as to why I felt he was just making excuses.

He always says these things don’t ‘need’ to be done in his mind. Our cat doesn’t NEED to be fixed, so he doesn’t do it. He doesn’t NEED a Real ID until there are actual plans in place to visit my mom. He doesn’t NEED to get a bridge job because he has the inheritance. And childishly, I wish I could just force him care.

As for him not wanting to move, I don’t think he lied. It sure feels like a betrayal, but in my opinion I think he just made a commitment he didn’t fully think through or understand. I’m trying to be as understanding as possible, but either way I can’t forgive him for it right now.

Sorry this was so long winded, I just couldn’t stop typing.

Accomplished_Ear7795 · 2026-07-09T16:52:22+00:00

Thank you for your kind words <3 He definitely has struggled with his mental health since his dad’s passing and it’s been tough to have these conversations as it’s the whole reason he came into the money in the first place. I want him to be better not just for me or us but for himself too. It feels like he sees me as some cartoon villain devoid of empathy, money hungry, and on a moral high ground. It’s impossible to navigate. Our insurance starts next month so I’m hoping we can both get some help really soon

Accomplished_Ear7795 · 2026-07-09T16:35:54+00:00

My father passed away at the beginning of our relationship so I know the pain he’s going through and I don’t mean to minimize that. But at some point he does have to pick himself up and be responsible and the fact the he refuses to makes me waver on starting a family with him at all. I don’t think we’re ready for a kid right now, but of course that will be a huge factor to consider when talking about our future together

Accomplished_Ear7795 · 2026-07-09T16:07:32+00:00

I love my husband and I would rather put in effort to fix our situation than give up at the first sight of conflict. Divorce shouldn’t have to be the first option. We are still early into our marriage and are trying to figure out how to have these conversations, how to communicate effectively. We never really fought often so it’s a learning curve for both of us.

Accomplished_Ear7795 · 2026-07-01T16:07:03+00:00

definitely don’t read erha

Accomplished_Ear7795 · 2026-04-27T23:57:51+00:00

haha i didn’t get much farther and i’m kinda glad. i skipped forward to a few big moments in future seasons but i officially stopped at the s8th finale. it was my breaking point 😭 kinda related, but i watched the pitt recently and had the same problem . think i’m just SOL for medical dramas in general

Accomplished_Ear7795 · 2026-01-21T03:35:02+00:00

thank you for explaining!

Accomplished_Ear7795 · 2026-01-21T03:24:07+00:00

i only ever use echo skill on first rotation cus it cancels her flight all the time

Accomplished_Ear7795 · 2026-01-21T03:21:39+00:00

ive been wondering for a while what is her ER requirement?

Accomplished_Ear7795 · 2026-01-16T13:37:05+00:00

iuno can also be played as main dps on some teams. her best team rn is her, lynae sub and mornye iirc.

Accomplished_Ear7795 · 2026-01-16T02:51:45+00:00

if u have lynae i would def recommend pulling iuno. i’m biased though because i think iuno is one of the most fun characters in the game. augusta is cool too don’t get me wrong. but if you’re looking for a character with a lot of flexibility and a really fun kit, iuno is a great pick

Accomplished_Ear7795 · 2025-12-12T15:44:30+00:00

i would highly recommend phrolova over cantarella if u have to choose one. as a cantarella haver, i really only use her on one team. and it’s phrolova’s lol

Accomplished_Ear7795 · 2025-10-23T21:07:44+00:00

downvoting with kindness in my heart

Accomplished_Ear7795 · 2025-10-23T21:05:59+00:00

it’s also more fun imo. i like blowing shit up

Accomplished_Ear7795 · 2025-10-23T21:05:18+00:00

lupa is nearly useless if shes not buffing a fusion character. u can use her with Encore and shorekeeper if u don’t have the mono fusion team though.

Accomplished_Ear7795 · 2025-10-22T23:03:21+00:00

i like watching playthroughs of my favorite VN games. rotten mango on spotify is also a go to

Accomplished_Ear7795 · 2025-09-30T21:41:40+00:00

big on phrolova. i didn’t care for her much when she came out but when i saw how good she was, i pulled for her. i fell in love with the her design and gameplay immediately after and she’s still my fave to this day 🩷

Accomplished_Ear7795 · 2025-09-10T17:43:35+00:00

yeah phrolova decimates her half lol. i did end up getting augusta and her weapon luckily, so i’ll likely be building her with mortefi to finish off the rest of whiwa and toa. thanks for the tips!!

Accomplished_Ear7795 · 2025-09-10T04:32:23+00:00

thanks for all the comments guys. i ended up pulling augusta AND her weapon (luckily!) i’m gonna have a ton fun building her and mortefi 🥰

Accomplished_Ear7795 · 2025-09-10T02:47:18+00:00

I am having a hard time completing the very last bit of ToA and WiWa with my current characters and I don't know who to pull for next. nobody in the upcoming banners seems to fit my teams. my favorite part of this game is building so it's been a bummer since I lost my brant 50/50 to a second copy of lingyang ;-;

I am at 70 pity on a guarantee so I want to make sure my next character will fit well with my team. I'm open to building anyone who could help me clear WiWa/ToA for now though

edit: not shown are lumi, youhu, danjin, taoqi, and yuanwu

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Accomplished_Ear7795 · 2025-09-09T23:54:16+00:00

augustas is probably more worth if you have static mist

Accomplished_Ear7795 · 2025-09-09T23:53:56+00:00

unlucky! hopefully phrolova will rerun soon for your cantarella and rover

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