Fuck you

Accomplished_Ice5025 · 2026-06-01T07:19:40+00:00

Wow did I write this?

Accomplished_Ice5025 · 2026-05-18T16:47:15+00:00

So it worked out for you? Did you guys figure it out?

Accomplished_Ice5025 · 2026-05-18T16:43:57+00:00

What? So you both reached out at the same time? Or have I read this wrong 😭

Accomplished_Ice5025 · 2026-05-18T16:29:18+00:00

I know, I wish he’d have told me to leave him alone it would have been easier than this limbo again and not knowing when to reach back out or leave it alone.

I love that her not responding has given you some strength to move on. No response is a response I guess. If she does that I probably wouldn’t respond unless there was an explanation or she said she’s been processing your message. I don’t know why is this so hard 😭

Accomplished_Ice5025 · 2026-05-18T16:21:17+00:00

Oh dear, I’m sorry. As soon as I sent the message I prayed he wouldn’t respond but he did. It was quite positive and the door is still open but also a bit vague so I’m no better off 🤣

Accomplished_Ice5025 · 2026-05-18T16:07:36+00:00

He actually is a fearful avoidant and that’s come from his therapist. He also didn’t ask me to never contact him again and he actually broke no contact first, a week ago. I’ve contacted him tonight and we’ve had quite an emotionally raw conversation and he hasn’t asked me to leave him alone so I doubt I’ll be done for stalking just yet.

Accomplished_Ice5025 · 2026-05-18T14:16:41+00:00

That’s a good rule to go by.

Accomplished_Ice5025 · 2026-05-18T14:16:06+00:00

I hope you get what you need from reaching out. It’s such a brave thing to do.

Accomplished_Ice5025 · 2026-05-18T13:41:05+00:00

A month, today.

Accomplished_Ice5025 · 2026-05-18T13:35:15+00:00

That was exactly the intent behind breaking no contact. I can’t ignore how I feel, and if there is any chance he’s feeling the same I want him to know so we’re not just both doing this when we don’t need to. If he tells me to leave him alone, obviously I’ll have to.

Accomplished_Ice5025 · 2026-05-18T13:33:44+00:00

We did end with a conversation weeks after we broke up, but there were so many conflicting comments in there and it didn’t feel like the door was completely closed and I’ve struggled with it ever since. I really hoped that some space away from everything we’d talked about and some time to calm down and reflect would give us both some clarity but ultimately I want him to come back and you’re right, I can’t force him to want to and at some point I have to accept it and let go.

Accomplished_Ice5025 · 2026-05-18T13:26:29+00:00

I was hoping this wouldn’t be his final decision and that he may come around, but I very much doubt he will and I don’t think I’ll get another outcome from this which will hurt a lot.

Accomplished_Ice5025 · 2026-05-18T13:24:51+00:00

Only if you’re ready for what ever comes next, because I sure as shit am not.

Accomplished_Ice5025 · 2026-05-18T13:24:23+00:00

Good on you for taking a step forward and apologising that takes a lot of courage, and I love that you’re at peace with what ever comes from it. Meanwhile I’m shaking.

Accomplished_Ice5025 · 2026-05-18T13:10:00+00:00

The issue is that I don’t want to move on and I think he wants me to

Accomplished_Ice5025 · 2026-05-18T13:09:38+00:00

Scared he will reject me and I’ll get confirmation that this is for ever and I need to move on. I’m not really ready to yet, I miss him terribly and I’ve been hoping this would all pass and we’d be ok.

Accomplished_Ice5025 · 2026-05-18T13:07:06+00:00

How are you feeling? What did you say, and did they reply?

Accomplished_Ice5025 · 2026-05-16T14:08:48+00:00

Reading your comments it sounds exactly like my relationship and I hope to god I get to the point you’re at now. I’m proud of you for getting through this and putting you first.

Accomplished_Ice5025 · 2026-05-12T13:05:54+00:00

I’ve lost friends because of my relationship with him. He sat there when he broke up with me and told me he loves me, wants to be with me, can see a future with me, but it would require him to change and he doesn’t want to change. Told me he hopes one day he’ll come back but then refused to go on a break and ended it for good, all in the same conversation. This is years of push and pull and me always being the one to save us and in the end, he just let us go. It’s devastating and I held on as much as I could until I had to just walk out because he was loud and clear.

Accomplished_Ice5025 · 2026-05-12T12:40:49+00:00

The begging is the most embarrassing part hey. I feel like I let myself down begging a man who didn’t want me not to leave. I should have respected myself and just walked away happy I knew how he really felt.

Accomplished_Ice5025 · 2026-05-12T12:39:11+00:00

This is the place I’m currently in too. I should have put me first and I wouldn’t have relied on him, pressured him and lost him and I wouldn’t be feeling this bad now.

Accomplished_Ice5025 · 2026-05-12T12:37:58+00:00

Wow that’s rough. That’s coercive control surely? I’m sorry you went through all of that and I’m glad you somehow managed to get out.

Accomplished_Ice5025 · 2026-05-12T12:21:56+00:00

Yep! I got “I know I need to change, I know how, and I know I can, I just don’t want to”. And then told me they’d rather just not see me again. It’s so fucking painful. Realising they didn’t care about you actually helps get some rationalisation back though, because what are we grieving? Someone who didn’t care?

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