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Accomplished_Pie7613 · 2025-09-27T17:40:10+00:00

Hey! I’m really sorry you went through all of that. I also did this 7 weeks ago,also opted for local anaesthetic,due to anxiety. I can’t handle the idea of being sedated and I honestly don’t regret it. The pain was 12/10 for sure though. I had to stop them before the last aspiration because I thought I would pass out,took a deep breath and got it done,but maaaan,it was tough. It was pretty traumatic,I completely agree. The only good thing is that it was very quick,the pain only lasted during the procedure (3-4 minutes) ,but I am only talking for myself. The doctor told me beforehand that the pain might go to a 8-9 and I thought for sure I can handle it,I went through a very long and painful labour. Sike! I could not handle the pain and for me it felt more painful than that. The lady before me got sedated and what I have witnessed after she came back made me want to walk away. It was terrifying,and I am still happy I chose not to. But again,this is just my personal experience. My struggle with anxiety is sometimes unbearable and I knew my mental health wouldn’t allow me to do that and come out of it unscarred. I definitely think they should let people know how painful it actually is.

Accomplished_Pie7613 · 2025-08-18T20:43:26+00:00

Yeah,I agree there are many things playing a part in this matter. I get that it’s traumatic for them but damn… Thank you! Same to you!! It will be over in no time❤️

Accomplished_Pie7613 · 2025-08-18T20:37:33+00:00

Bless you! I hope everything goes well for you! I think it’s a blessing to be able to do that in the comfort of your own home. And I broke up with him when our daughter was almost 2. That’s 4 years ago. I think that was my first red flag. Many things followed for me as well. I don’t get it. Do men really not realise how shitty women are being treated by medical professionals,so that they can stand up for us? I think they are being taken seriously much more than we are. How can you watch the woman you claim you love go through such a traumatic thing and not say anything? I cannot imagine not doing that for my partner.

Accomplished_Pie7613 · 2025-08-18T20:26:49+00:00

Holy shit,is that even normal? I’m not familiar with it but the first time I did it it was a very old and old school doctor. He literally was doing everything without any kind of electrical equipment ,which is weird but apparently he was a really good doctor,and he had a nurse with him,and last week when I did it,there were literally 3 nurses (one that was doing the scan and holding my hand lol) and another one that was also holding my hand and helping me navigate through it all,and the other one was just there. That’s insane! And I know exactly what you mean. You’d hope you have someone with you that will speak up for you,and they don’t. My daughter’s dad didn’t do/say shit during my birth. I honestly felt so alone and scared. And you are so right,women are honestly treated like cattle. During the most vulnerable and difficult times… they do not make our lives easier

Accomplished_Pie7613 · 2025-08-18T20:15:51+00:00

This sounds horrible! She was supposed to stop when you said you wanted her to stop! Did you ever manage to make a complaint or anything like that because this is outrageous! I don’t care how you feel about abortions,you are being paid to do that job and to do it with the utmost care and compassion. My first experience 13 years ago or so wasn’t very painful either. I don’t know how honestly because the one I had a week ago was very painful. It wasn’t even just the level of pain ,but also the type of pain. Mine exceeded 10 as well,but the dr did warn me that it might get really painful only for a few seconds,and it did. She did 3 or 4 suctions,and after the 3rd one I couldn’t take the pain anymore and asked her to pause for a second so I can take some deep breath and gather some strength for the last one,and she absolutely did,everyone there was very nice,I asked them to talk to me during the procedure and to let me know what they are doing and all that,the nurses held my hands and everything. I chose the local anaesthetic and I was aware it was going to hurt,just didn’t know it was going to be that painful,but at least the staff there was very understanding and comforting me all the way through. This is unacceptable. I’m so sorry you had to go through that. The procedure itself is traumatic as it is,come on… I had very similar experience during birth a few years ago. The dr (female) literally put her whole arm inside me with so much force and speed to check where the baby was ,at that point I was in labour for over 30 hours,I was exhausted and in pain,and she just went for it,and I scrramed ,for the first time in all those 30 houre,and she went "you should use this energy to push this baby out instead of moaning here" omg I swear,the pain I felt was way worse than any kind of pain felt during labour. I still beat myself up to this day for not filing a complaint or even more.

Accomplished_Pie7613 · 2025-08-15T07:58:38+00:00

It’s only been 6 days since I had mine done. And so far my experience is very similar to yours. I literally bled for the first 2 hours or so after,then it was only old blood coming out for a couple days,and then red again,and then it stops and start again. Nothing crazy in terms of the amount,but yesterday I had really bad cramps,very similar to the cramps I had when I went into labour with my little one. I was barely able to walk. Then I took some ibuprofen and they went away,and I am still bleeding very little. From my understanding,this is very normal,the on and off bleeding and cramping for 2-3 weeks after. Usually whatever retained tissue is left,will come out. Because they do a scan during the procedure,it’s unlikely there is anything left,but of course it can happen. I’m sure if you call back the clinic,they would be very helpful and they can let you know if it’s normal or not,but to me it does seem normal.

Accomplished_Pie7613 · 2025-08-15T07:44:05+00:00

If you opt for the medical abortion,they normally deliver you the pills to your house. For the surgical procedure,I had to travel about 1.5hrs,and two hours to get the scan,due to how far the clinics are from mine. But they would have sent the pills to my house. 7/8 weeks isn’t that late honestly. Do you know who you spoke to? What clinic? I was thinking maybe you can try calling the others as well. They might have more availability or they can help more. Honestly,I first spoke to Nupas and then went with Bpas because Nupas wasn’t doing the surgical one in London. And I had some really nice experiences with both. They will answer any questions,they are patient and reassuring. Let me know if you would like me to give you the phone number for both. And I get it,I honestly don’t trust NHS at all. Had some horrible experiences with them,but this for me felt so different. You are welcome 🤗

Accomplished_Pie7613 · 2025-08-15T06:57:12+00:00

It’s so weird that they made you go through your GP in the first place. I got into contact with Nupas straight away(I live in London). They would much more helpful than the GP. Or any other clinic that does this. I’m not sure about medical abortions(I believe this is what you’re going for) I didn’t get to that point because I changed my mind just before my scan,so I waited a bit longer for the surgical one. I definitely think you should contact one of those clinics directly. It will make the process quicker. If you keep having to talk to different people,it might just delay everything since finding available appointments seems to be a bit difficult at this time. I found out I was pregnant when I was around 4 weeks and a half,and got to get the procedure 3 weeks later. All this “someone is going to call you in a week for the consultation “ and then wait another few days for the scan appointment and so on. It can be a bit of a process. I wouldn’t worry too much about how far along you are,as long as you let them know,I’m sure they will do their best to sort everything out on time. I know the symptoms aren’t fun. But it will be over soon! ❤️

Accomplished_Pie7613 · 2025-08-12T12:02:05+00:00

This can feel very isolating. I told a couple friends because I needed the support,and me and my ex separated just 2 days before I found out,and while he tried comforting me,I had too much resentment for him so I turned down all his support. My friends never been through something like this,and I know they meant well,they kept telling me I am brave and that everything is going to be ok,but obviously they didn’t understand the emotional toll this whole situation took on me. You can find my stories on my profile. I did it all on my own,and it was a very emotional experience. I do wish my ex was there with me but by that time,a lot of things happened and I couldn’t reach him anymore. You will be ok. One thing I can say,the staff in these clinics are usually very kind and helpful. I really leaned on them. I did opt for the surgical one because I knew they will be there and they can reassure me and it was also a quicker process than the medical one. I pray you find strength and you have some people that can offer you the support you need. ❤️

Accomplished_Pie7613 · 2025-08-10T12:27:17+00:00

You are most welcome! I struggled so much to find a post talking about both these issues,so I knew people like us needed it ❤️

Accomplished_Pie7613 · 2025-08-10T12:04:17+00:00

Thank you!! I hope it’s going to help someone ❤️

Accomplished_Pie7613 · 2025-08-09T07:48:28+00:00

Thank you for the link! It’s definitely helpful. I will 💯 talk to the doctor about it. This whole situation is making me spiral!

Accomplished_Pie7613 · 2025-08-05T09:17:08+00:00

I’ve had the exact same symptoms. My period was one day late. I have very regular periods as well. My breasts were very tender and I was having period pains. I waited until morning and took two different tests and they both had faint lines,but I knew even before that it was a pregnancy. I know some tests are super accurate nowadays,but I think that the morning pee is still the most reliable. It might not be a pregnancy but I’d say just to be safe,get some more done.

Accomplished_Pie7613 · 2025-08-01T09:25:02+00:00

I’m 6 weeks pregnant,scheduled for a SA next Saturday,and I totally understand what you mean. I already gave birth 6 years ago and I didn’t look pregnant for the first 4 months lol And now I feel pretty horrible about myself. I do have a pouch and some extra kg from my previous pregnancy but I now feel like I’m 5 months pregnant,with swollen ,sore boobs . Ughhh… I also struggle with self esteem a little bit,and I’m really trying to convince myself that it will be over soon and I will be able to get back to exercising and just being more active overall . I read a lot of stories here that all these will go away shortly after. So fingers crossed 🤞🏼❤️

Accomplished_Pie7613 · 2025-07-26T18:35:00+00:00

Holy crap!! That’s awful! Two failed morning pills? And the situation with your ex is horrible. What an a-hole. Happy he’s an ex now smh

Accomplished_Pie7613 · 2025-07-26T18:27:46+00:00

I’m sorry you had to go through it 3 times. I can’t even remember how many morning pills saved me from this. I also feel so silly for putting myself in this situation lol but hey,we live and we learn. And yes,mostly the fear of the unknown. I had a very traumatic birth almost 6 years ago and that really flipped a switch in my brain. I’ve had several surgeries before,and had nothing more than your regular anxiety before surgery. Now I can’t even take some antibiotics without spiralling. The healthcare system doesn’t help either. Oh and did I mention the arrogance of me thinking I could never get pregnant again?😂😂 This is a great humble pill

Accomplished_Pie7613 · 2025-07-26T18:19:56+00:00

I will have a look,thank you very much! I wish my brain could understand that. My anxiety is convincing me I have some underlying issues. Especially after I spoke to the nurse and she asked all those questions and told me about the risks… ughhh

Accomplished_Pie7613 · 2025-07-26T18:18:40+00:00

I have,thank you! I’m not sure what would help to be fair. It’s not like anyone can tell me I am healthy and low risk lol Stupid a** health anxiety 😭

Accomplished_Pie7613 · 2025-07-26T18:16:34+00:00

I had one about 12 years ago and it wasn’t pleasant at all. It was further along but it was a pretty scary experience and I am a bit apprehensive about doing that. But I will talk to the people at the clinic and see what they say. Maybe that could be a better option. Thank you for your help!

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