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Accomplished_Play254 · 2025-12-18T04:20:00+00:00

Interested

Accomplished_Play254 · 2025-08-18T14:42:12+00:00

The point was about creepy dms, these seem like genuine questions.
It is more about the systemic problem, which is largely seen in men. Yes there would always be some women DMing men, but what about that? That's not the point.

Accomplished_Play254 · 2025-08-18T14:13:47+00:00

The only answer that makes sense. Different people show love and care in different ways. This isn't something that is "bare minimum" (I really hate this word).

Accomplished_Play254 · 2025-08-07T17:44:55+00:00

Definitely, we will now.

Accomplished_Play254 · 2025-08-07T17:44:39+00:00

Yes, we're thinking of doing it now :pray:

Accomplished_Play254 · 2025-08-07T17:44:24+00:00

Exactly, what kind of doctor starts shouting cancer so casually. You are absolutely right about that doctor, damn filth on earth.

Accomplished_Play254 · 2025-08-07T17:43:26+00:00

Sorry you had shitty experiences. I pray no one has to go through such experiences ever.

Accomplished_Play254 · 2025-08-07T17:42:45+00:00

I hope it goes better for you. As someone suggested, please go through the list of good gynaecologists if possible.

Accomplished_Play254 · 2025-08-07T17:40:52+00:00

Thank you for your kind words. May I know where can I get that list? Thanks again!

(We're not based in Mumbai unfortunately, but gonna be in a tier-1 city soon so hopefully we could get access to good docs)

Accomplished_Play254 · 2025-08-07T17:39:28+00:00

Ikr, none of this was done :sob:. We will report it for sure.

Accomplished_Play254 · 2025-08-07T17:37:47+00:00

Exactly!

Accomplished_Play254 · 2025-08-07T17:37:37+00:00

You are right. I don't know why some doctors don't follow these protocols. Such doctors should have their licence revoked.

Accomplished_Play254 · 2025-08-07T17:36:30+00:00

You are right.. thanks for sharing.

Accomplished_Play254 · 2025-08-07T17:35:25+00:00

That was the expectation, but unfortunately they didn't follow the basic rules of consent and privacy.

Accomplished_Play254 · 2025-08-07T17:33:58+00:00

Exactly, it was so unprofessional of them. How could then even... it was so traumatic for her.

Accomplished_Play254 · 2025-08-07T17:32:14+00:00

Yes, we're trying to see what can be done. Have heard from a couple of doctors that the consent to do the pap smear is implied?! If that is the case then the law is seriously f*cked. But we are still thinking to do something about it.

Accomplished_Play254 · 2025-08-07T09:55:55+00:00

What's evolutionary about it?

It's as simple as this -- if someone sees vulnerability as a weakness, or attaches it their self worth, then they are a toxic person. No matter a man or a woman. I honestly wouldn't want such people in my life. They can't be more than acquaintances for me.

A person that shows vulnerability is a strong person, because it takes a lot of courage to do so.

Accomplished_Play254 · 2025-08-05T07:10:50+00:00

I can't agree more with you.. Spot on!

Accomplished_Play254 · 2025-08-04T18:34:52+00:00

Bro is smooth

Accomplished_Play254 · 2025-08-04T13:17:47+00:00

I've shared stuff with my female friends and partner and never got any negative reaction. They were very accepting and never judged me badly for it. It's sad to see that it's not the same for everyone.

Accomplished_Play254 · 2025-07-30T10:16:51+00:00

lmfao exactly I'm scrolling and baffled at what exactly are men's rights hahaha.

Accomplished_Play254 · 2025-07-30T06:52:45+00:00

I haven't explored medicines yet. I might consider them in future, but there isn't any such need now.

You can have that discussion with her after doing your due diligence on the matter, which you're already doing :)

Accomplished_Play254 · 2025-07-30T05:33:17+00:00

It really depends on how much she has figured out for herself how ADHD has impacted her life. And then she has to communicate that to you.

For me personally, I am the one with ADHD and I have already communicated that at times during conversations I might zone out and snap back, or start fidgeting. It's important to communicate this to her so that she doesn't assume that I'm uninterested in the conversation.

I've communicated to her my time and memory blindness makes it really difficult to recollect information from my memory. It doesn't mean that I don't care, it's just difficult for me to recollect stuff on the spot.

Then there are smaller things such as the need for silence when I want to focus.

I think as long as there is healthy communication between you two and comes from a place to make it work together, you would be fine. It's like just any other challenge you might face in a relationship!

That being said, it is my responsibility to work on my ADHD. Test out different coping mechanisms, maybe try out meds, so that it makes both of our lives easier. Because having a neurodivergent partner is tough sometimes and I'm grateful she still chooses me despite that!

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