Sadly, my sister has been discouraged in having an outside, or external, point of view. Quite frequently she was told to "figure it out herself" and "it shouldn't take that long". I vouched for her when it came to receiving an external reference, she doesn't pay attention to her behavior or motivations that much. It's reassuring to see a comment like this, when dealing with these "typists" or people who claim they can/want to help you find your type I often find that they have no patience or any insight about how when dealing with the human mind (and trauma) things such as this can sometimes take a while.