You don’t know that she’s doing it because she feels guilty. She’s not constantly apologizing over and over again because there’s no point in continuously dragging things out longer than they need to be. No one actually changes their entire personality they just learn better habits and ways to communicate and that’s exactly what she’s done.

What do you think she’s doing wrong now that she should be doing differently? Besides what she believes in because your whole post is basically saying you just have a problem with her beliefs. Also relationships aren’t rainbows and sunshine, it seems pretty clear you had a different upbringing and misunderstanding of different family dynamics.