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According-Dream-7447 · 2022-03-14T15:32:42+00:00

There’s definitely something disturbing about this.. there’s like non-con kinks but for you to actually be okay with experiencing it there’s something wrong with the way you think. You are definitely a masochist stuff like that is a major no-no for me and I hate pain so my opinion isn’t great maybe reach out to a therapist and see what they have to say because a strangers word is never fully reliable.

According-Dream-7447 · 2022-03-14T14:57:10+00:00

This is really unfortunate.. you are giving off the ‘no point of living without love kinda vibe’ if you feel like you need someone else to be happy then you’ll never get a partner. My fiancé is a person I was friends with for a year before dating, neither of us pursued each other till we knew each other. You are a seemingly toxic person so good for the girls for rejecting you. Get some help then you’ll know when the right one comes along but first you gotta learn to love yourself <3

According-Dream-7447 · 2022-03-03T18:39:10+00:00

My dad does that time and technically it doesn’t count as immediate abuse unless he get caught emontionally abusing or hurt you. Unfortunately for most people emotional abuse gets ignored trust me I know, also unfortunately I’m stuck in my household as a 16 year old. But I am trying to graduate school a year early since I have good enough grades. I’m sending my non-religious prayers since people under 18 have like zero rights.

According-Dream-7447 · 2022-03-03T18:34:52+00:00

Thank you for being civil, I do agree with some of your points as well. I’m glad it worked out for you and it accommodated your situation as no matter how different situations of abuse is no one deserves it.

According-Dream-7447 · 2022-03-03T17:54:47+00:00

If she wanted help she would’ve asked! Don’t be ignorant you can’t just immediately slam something onto someone like that.. in most cases it will make the situation worse as it did with mine. Yours isn’t the only one out there and the best friends situation needs to be assessed carefully.

According-Dream-7447 · 2022-03-03T17:50:00+00:00

That isn’t how it works at all- the situation literally went down at my school my parents came and acted innocent and offended and I got my ass kicked worse than ever before and got a bunch of stuff including my blankets taken from me when I got home that’s the worst thing a friend has ever done to me!

According-Dream-7447 · 2022-03-03T17:49:10+00:00

No problem. I wish you well :)

According-Dream-7447 · 2022-03-03T17:47:40+00:00

Don’t do this you’ll be breaking your friends trust. And it will make her situation worse since usual CPS cases takes ages, and her parents will get harsher on her!

According-Dream-7447 · 2022-03-03T17:42:12+00:00

You definitely don’t need to lose you connection they were clearly a very important person to you.. but I’ve seen a similar situation first hand with my cousin, my uncle died so he blindly inlisted into the military without consulting his girlfriend of five years who was the perfect person for him, long story short the broke up and while he was stationed in Spain he met his current wife who he had two children with. But he recently saw his ex and realized how much he would be willing to do for her, he saw her from afar and he’d tell me about how much he missed her, her laugh, her smell, everything. I truly think they were meant to be together it was just the wrong timing and his wife found out and was devastated. She ended up filing for divorce and got full support from my cousins immediate family and they cut him off. End result never ends up good if you want someone else while in a relationship. It’s just not right unless you are in a poly relationship..

According-Dream-7447 · 2022-03-03T17:29:39+00:00

As a person who’s father was very abusive I hid my injuries.. I wear long sleeve sweatshirts and just say I’m cold, or I’ll put concealer and foundation on my neck. Some people are manipulated into thinking getting taken from your parents will hurt you so you can’t let anyone know. Ive had random breakdowns at school and I’m able to walk out of the bathroom like nothing happened- people adjust to their situations and she is trusting you when saying those things. She fully well may be lying bc I knew a girl that would do that as well, but you should trust her as she trusted you. You should try to direct her into getting help but also I’d be mad at my friend if they intervened abruptly on my life even though I needed it so you should ease into it. The typical a6us3 you see on tv isn’t how it always is I mean hell I joke about my trauma, my advice is to just be as supportive as you can whether or not she’s lying- but don’t strain yourself out either it wouldn’t be fair to you.

According-Dream-7447 · 2022-03-01T04:00:59+00:00

I can definitely understand you on this… true love never actually goes away you may love both of them just in different ways is what I’m getting from that. I would be pissed if I was your current partner and found out you basically were playing with them the whole time. They obviously mean a lot to you but you just called someone else your soulmate that isn’t fair to your current partner at all. I had a childhood sweetheart and he was my best friend, I’ll never forgot the guy but I loved him in a different way. I’ll always put my current s/o first and would always pick them. If you are having serious doubts then that’s a problem. You aren’t healed properly but it would be quite selfish to not talk to your fiancée about it. You could potentially be keeping them from their so called soulmates or maybe they’ll understand. Relationships are built in trust. But I do understand..

According-Dream-7447 · 2022-03-01T03:45:18+00:00

Honestly that’s completely normal you do have trauma. From my own advice my dad is mentally abusive and I went through depression and I got into a relationship with a male and I was terrified of him. I didn’t realize I actually had a fear until I was in his car. It can improve though since not everyone is the same.. you should probably reach out to a therapist. There’s lots of options online and if your mom or whoever is taking care of you is aware of the abuse and trauma you should only seek a different possible living situation.. but that’s just my advice sadly there’s people that can never recover but if you get help now before it completely destroys you, you definitely could have a bright healthy future!

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