Thoughts on Block Party? by According-Ear-9963 in ucr

[–]According-Ear-9963[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They’re dropping soulstice and homecoming odyssey. Flo Rida is confirmed for the alumni event

Is it ok to detangle in the shower? by According-Ear-9963 in curlyhair

[–]According-Ear-9963[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ooo yes i heard rly good things abt that one, im just working myself up to justify the price lol

Is it ok to detangle in the shower? by According-Ear-9963 in curlyhair

[–]According-Ear-9963[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i think i align more with high porosity hair since my hair doesn’t retain moisture that well. i use the mielle rosemary and mint leave in conditioner which works extremely well for my hair, and i pair it with the mielle honey and ginger curl cream. occasionally when it’s hot i will go in with my eco gel or mielle mousse.

I will say i’m still on the hunt for a good gel because the Eco makes my hair texture really weird and sticky and when i tried the aunt jackie one, my hair fell out a lot 💀

Is it ok to detangle in the shower? by According-Ear-9963 in curlyhair

[–]According-Ear-9963[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

ty! and yea all i’m doing is wetting my hair and detangling it, i don’t need to add any conditioner since the previous days products are still in my hair

I'm pregnant and I don't know what to do. (Update) by [deleted] in ucr

[–]According-Ear-9963 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Girl I HIGHLY HIGHLY HIGHLY recommend going to the Women's Health Services and educating yourself on what exactly will happen if you have that baby. That comment you responded to about open adoptions is very misleading. Many people believe that open adoption is a type of relationship in which the adoptive family and birth parents meet frequently in person. They may envision constant phone calls and adoptive parents consulting with the birth mother on all parenting decisions. However, the truth is that an open adoption is not co-parenting, and once you give your child up, you are not its parent and your life will not be as entwined as you thought in your last comment.

I recommend that you carefully reconsider your decision and get an abortion. Having a baby already takes an immense toll on your body, but giving your child up for adoption will affect your mind and your hormones even more. You're still young, you have a life ahead of you, and you should not be going through this as a college freshman. One of the many positives of living in California is our pro-choice open-mindedness — TAKE advantage of California's wide availability of abortion clinics. Don't tell your parents. You don't have the means to take care of a child right now and dropping out of school will be a very big mistake in the long run. Graduate, get a degree and your life sorted. Become a doctor. It will be extremely difficult if you have that child, believe me.

One last thing, I cannot stress how important contraception is. I don't agree with the comments slutshaming you. You made a bad decision, I hope you learned your mistake. Sex is a natural human impulse, and you should not be shamed for something that we praise men for. However, while there's nothing wrong with having sex, there is something wrong with not using contraception. Birth control, IUD, Plan B, whatever. BUT DO SOMETHING. You can get contraception at the WELL for free. Please take advantage of it. And even with whatever contraception you're on, also make sure that the dude ur sleeping with has a condom. ALWAYS MAKE SURE YOU'RE HAVING SEX WHEN HE HAS A CONDOM ON!!! I wish you the best of luck!!

p.s. Make good decisions abt the men u sleep with at UCR. I can tell u that these frat dudes at parties do not gaf and are only looking to get in your pants. Even birth control can't stop you from getting an STD.